Girls: How well do you respond to 'cold approaches.'

That means like, a guy approaching you when you're not in class, a bar, a party, some common place meant for socializing. So.... hallways, campus, a coffee shop, a library, "the streets," etc.

I rarely do this anymore.. And I'm not so sure if I'm missing out on anything worthwhile...

Have you had such introductions actually turn into dates or a relationship?
Be honest here.

One of the reasons I don't do it it just feels like I'm going from "who are you?" to "wanna be in my life" in seconds. Feels so forced.

 

Depends on how persistent they are after I tell them to get lost

 

depends on the location and the reason for approaching. If some nerdy guy approached me in a bookstore because he liked the book I was looking at, I would be all about it.

But I don't respond well to guys that are just like "yo girl, DAMN you look good. Whats yo' number?"

This is actually generally followed by a "DAMN girl, why you gonna be a bitch like that?"

 

Well, I can definitely avoid the "damn gurl u so fine fine" crap, but in the end you're being approached by someone you don't know simply 'cuz they find you attractive.

Am I really missing out on anything here? Guys can chime in too.

Cherea, I agree a lot with that line actually...

No I'm not phsycic.

 

Approaching in general seems to be the quickest way to put someone on a pedestal. Plus, it rhymes with 'roach.' Can`t be any good. I like my approaches cooked.

 

was this a psychic post or something?

 

If they begin a normal, friendly conversation with me and turn it into coffee - it can and has worked. However if they're too forward it scares me away and i'll just smile and slowly creep away...

 

Try do what they do for once

Put both hands over your crotch and say in a snotty way 'Why dont you take a picture, it will last longer'

And watch what happens (as long as your convincing that is)

 

Psychic or not, I don`t want to make it seem as though I reject all chasing.

If the girl is above you, that`s all you can really do in my final analysis. I had a friend who fucked this Suicide Girl in New York with the most amazing body you`d ever seen...

This was a few years ago, we went to this Suicide Girl event and he told me he fucked her. I said, how did you do it (since, obviously, she was out of anybody`s league other than proverbial rich/famous guy)?

He said, "I basically asked her to fuck me for a year straight every time I saw her." Like the Guy de Maupassant story.

So, it seems (with some luck) being stupid, crass, and lacking in self-respect has its advantages sometimes.

 

So by the lack of responses am I to assume peeps aren't admitting it does work on them, if the right jackass approaches? I can't really get a good impression from a pool of just 2 chics.

I need more responses. Speak up! Even if it's the same answers as the first 2. I suppose I should have just added a poll.

 

Well it depends what agenda the approach has.. Obviously there's a time and place. Eg late night bar approach is very successful in achieving fabulous once off or more sex.. Plus maybe more, whereas the bookstore, coffee shop.. Train.. Whatever is more likely to lead to a more dating kinda deal.
So I don't really understand the question.. Do you mean just for sex or "looking for for future life partner in a stranger" ?

 

A bar, somewhere mutually social, ya sure of course is fine.

I'm saying you're walking to class, or you're at Starbucks studying, or you just happen to be walking down the street running errands.


Also you ladies are spoiled in that you can just run your lives and men must approach you, but that's another thread. :argue:

 

I say as long as you approach her and once you have engaged her attention, then briefly get to know her and as soon as you can tell if she is into you then don't waste time, ask her out. If she is sending only polite vibes but not interest then simply fuck off no loss. Easy said not easy done. I am a woman but I think if you follow those guidelines you do fine. Just remember to pay attention to how she is reacting to you for your cue.

 

It's all about the person, location doesn't matter. Make a girl smile and you've won .

 

I feel it may be a bit jarring at first but depending on how u do it it can be ok

 

You gotta be able to feel the situation out cause some times a bitch can't be bothered

 

the key is faux arrogance

talk to her - but by no means attempt to insinuate you're interested in that way

rather

just being charming and friendly - it confuses women

mostly because they are used to being hit on

so ultimately they may persue you - and if they don't

you never struck out.

 

... what's wrong with this post??? lol :frown:

so not trying the 'i want to fuck you like a bitch' approach is a bad thing

fair enough.

 

It's not necessarily what you say (within certain obvious limits, that is) but how you say it and who you are. Then, if the timing is right, you will score .... no matter what you said.

 

this is true.