Fucking lonely

I've been single for almost 3 years...haven't dated many since. I have talked to many guys online. One guy I met I even liked a lot but he was in a relationship and I can't shake these feelings I have for my ex's friend. In fact that's my problem, I can't like anybody else because of him :-( I shit you not I really can't because I haven't ever liked a guy like that before. I don't know what the fuck is wrong with me now and I didn't know then WTF was wrong with me when I met him.

After our breakup my ex blocked him one day when he tried to talk to me (takes too long to explain)...anyway I have only run into him once. That was not long ago, I didn't see that it was him until he had to move on in traffic. This guy kept trying to get my attention and stopped next to me, but I couldn't see good enough to tell it was him until too late. This shit is driving me fucking crazy...I think there's something wrong with me sometimes that I still like him the same after all this fucking time.

I just can't believe this shit, I can't get him out of my head and I have stopped trying to. But now what?

 

Go talk to him?

 

Haagen Daz. Lots of Haagen Daz.

 

yeah, you really need to move on.

 

I will when I see him! LOL


Haagen Daz...LOL yeah, running helps too and working out...training my dog...stuff like that.

I've tried to move on but haven't gotten anywhere yet. I have to meet somebody I like more than him if that will happen. So I guess I must ride this out until I do. I'm not OCD about him, its just that I don't like anyone else like that...if that makes sense.

I feel like a lone wolf right now. When I was single before, I never felt lonely like this. I'm sick of it after nearly 3 years...because my ex blocked us I can't cut myself loose. But surely this shit has to end right?

 

It's funny because when you are having a great experience and doing something with your life, the times we don't want things to end, it always eventually ends, because of time. You are forced to move on. With time everything changes. If that can happen with things you don't want to end, it can certainly happen with the hard times and dark times when you are hoping for change. Time will change things, it is the only constant fact of the world. It is inevitable and if you hold onto that, perhaps you can relax a bit more. Don't feel in such a rush, let go of that need. Whatever will be will be.

 

I`m sorry, I tried being polite about this but I can`t anymore. What you need is a four-letter word: COCK. Yes, any cock. If you can`t get a guy to fuck you: pay.

Please do not answer to this post, I`m sure you and a bunch of other sensitive souls will rise in protest. I might be wrong; and, if so, more power to you. :biggrin:

*gently bows out of thread*

 

Are you telling me women NEED cock?

I've been lied to for years.

 

Yeah you're right...3 years is a long time surely its near over? My 1st approach was to just go and talk to and date guys to get over him...its making me more impatient and bummed out...I think I should just take some time for myself and stop worrying about dating, but not be a hermit, maybe the right man will come along...nothing forced it and will just happen. What do you think about that?

Actually, it hasn't worked yet BUT not ever a bad idea. There is a hot guy I see sometimes who is worthy of a good fucking...he seems real shy, won't even look at me if I look at him I shit you not. Should I just rape him?

 

Just curious to know, what about him made so special?

 

Well its hard to explain but one major thing is I could really relate to him and vice versa, even without words it was weird, never ever have I met somebody like that esp a guy. Its not like we were 100% alike but could connect things in ways that I haven't connected with even like minded people. I didn't have to explain something, he got it and vice versa. We had things in common of course. He's one of those rare people who are much smarter than the average person.

In some ways I don't even know what it is. Even when I first saw him I felt really out of control strong attraction. I was with my b/f at the time and tried to fight it until one day I realized I was in denial. I gave up and admitted to myself I liked him...stupid for repressing it.

My ex who blocked us even said "you two are meant for each other" but he just got mad when I asked him what he meant by that.

 

I said I was lonely dammit, where did all you people go?

 

Right here, reading your thread.....

 

Cool thanx. I'm a lonely bitch.

 

i think it is good to embrace the state you are in--
when you are single that can be real hard and lonely,
but sometimes the loneliness of it can give you strength too; to see the power of yourself as an singular person...
it is hard to be alone when you wish you weren't, but i think it sort of coalesces a strong sense of yourself, to be very alone.. it brings you deep together, your sense of yourself..

 

Maybe you were meant for each other.

 

Look him up. Tell him. Maybe he feels the same way... how awesome would that be?

If he doesnt, then you know.

Or maybe you'll get to know him and learn he's a total wiener and you were just in love with the idea you made of him in your head.

Either of these options are better than just doing absolutely nothing and keeping yourself from moving forward.

 

we are the creators of our own universe..

Rule 42..

 

The worst: When you are in a relationship with someone and you can see your significant other bonding more with someone else, and in the back of your mind you know they connect with each other than you can. That's the worst feeling ever. I feel sorry for your ex. Seriously .

And he was right obviously

 

You really need to go find this guy. You won't have peace until you do.