Need Advice

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by jcdcod, Nov 27, 2011.

  1. jcdcod

    jcdcod Guest

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    I'm not going to get into the long detailed discussion about my problem because that's hard to do, so here's the jist of it:
    -Me and this girl are both into each other
    -We are both seniors in high school
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    -I want to be in a relationship

    Issue: She doesn't want to get into anything because in around 6-7 months we will be going off to college, and we may or may not be moving away from each other.
    So she doesn't want to get into a relationship because she doesn't want either of us to get hurt.
    What should I do? Is there anything I can say to make this work? I really want to be with her!!
     
  2. Ookami87

    Ookami87 Member

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    I'd say just keep trying youngin, don't be aggressive about it though, just be there. If she really has those feelings for you you two birds will figure it out but if her heart just isn't in it there isn't anything you can do.
     
  3. lovelyxmalia

    lovelyxmalia Banana Hammock Lifetime Supporter

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    Let her figure her life out.

    Her future and life is going to come first to her and you should let her know that it should come first to her.

    Maybe you can hang out and be friends until she figures things out?
     
  4. Cherea

    Cherea Senior Member

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    Prospect multiple girls at once.
     
  5. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

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    be persistent. if she's really interested in you, she will buckle. 6-7 months is a loooong time for a girl to be single; she'll be dating someone during that time no matter what, and you might as well make it be you.
     
  6. rollingalong

    rollingalong Banned

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    start ignoring her...its your only hope
     
  7. Cherea

    Cherea Senior Member

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    Yep. I don`t think I`ve ever seen an attractive woman be single for that long. Women looove to be hitched.

    Soon she`ll find someone taller, with bigger biceps or bigger bank account, and suddenly it won`t matter so much that she`ll be going away.

    Then, she`ll tell you how she just "couldn`t help it", but that you have a greeeat personality. And, how her boyfriend is an asshole sometimes. And that, one day you`ll find a great girl who will love you for the rest of your life (puke), she`s sure.

    She`ll leave the part out that the girl will be almost certainly less attractive (and, fun in bed) than herself. But that`s ok, she would tell you, because "what matters is what`s on the inside."

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    She may be friend-zoning you, OP. And if you got one-itis, it won`t be anybody`s fault but yours. Sorry to say. :biggrin:
     
  8. His Eden

    His Eden Queen of Mean

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    I agree. It seems a bit selfish to try to get her to be emotionally involved with you when she already told you why she didn't want to be.
     
  9. WOLF ANGEL

    WOLF ANGEL Senior Member - A Fool on the Hill Lifetime Supporter

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    Relationships such as the friends with benefits scenario provide safe fun, and enjoyment - "Live for the day" - for "tomorrow never knows" :)
     
  10. lively_girl

    lively_girl Member

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    If she really wanted to be with you, she wouldn't think twice about it. Sorry.
     
  11. randomstuff

    randomstuff Guest

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    I don't know, it seems like this really may just be a one sided.. ehh.. crush. otherwise I don't think that she would have turned you down with so little hesitation.
     

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