I've been single my whole life, and I'm sick of it

So here's the deal: I'm 18 years old, and I'm still a virgin. In fact, I've never had a girlfriend, and I haven't even had my first kiss yet! I have Asperger Syndrome, so I've got significant problems with social interaction. Simply put, I'm sick of living my life devoid of love, sex, and relationships. Does anybody have any advice for how to break out of this? Thanks in advance.

 

relax? Really though man 18 is about when I got my first kiss, held out for the entire dead till 21, just do your best to overcome the social fear, it was my only real barrier and is again... on another note don't rush it when you find the girl you like/date, alot of guys feel they need control in a relationship but it's not really something you can control, just let it flow naturally

 

One way to break out of it is try not to get so hung up on it. You're still young. You've plenty of time. The problem with wanting it so bad is that you could be giving off a sense of desperation which is a massive turnoff to the ladies. We like guys who aren't desperate for our attention (sometimes to the point of being indifferent!). You have to try to come across as a guy who has plenty of options and is not hanging for grim dear life in the hope that the girl he's talking to doesn't walk away. Relax a little, go out to social occasions and do stuff you like. You'll bump into plenty of cute girls into the same thing. Try to get used to interacting with them first. When you get more comfortable with that, you'll have a better chance of "clicking" with one (or more!) romantically.

 

don't worry, i know the need and believe me it's overrated... doesn't stop me going to a fuck buddies house though. but seriously i know the feeling you are only 18 and you're letting it get to you a lot more than needs be, it's really not that important and comes with a lot of head fucks and mind games.

 

hookers are your friend.

 

friendships can be rewarding, and lead to meeting new people which can lead to romances. at your age maintaining decent fitness, and hygiene is very helpful.

do you have a social life?
got ta walk before you can run.

 

Wazzamadda? Too proud to date Asperger girls?? Seems to me you`ve got an automatic community to tap dat azz into.

There was this cerebral palsy chick I would've fucked in a heartbeat had she played her cards right.

 

you know, i've never heard of an asperger girl. i wonder if it's more prevalent in males or something.

too lazy to google it.

 

Reading the title I assumed you'd be like late 20s, possibly pushing forty... After reading the post, I have 2 things to say to you.

1. Chill out.
2. You're 18. How can you be 'sick of living your life' without those things when you've practically just STARTED living.

I'm 19, and if I was a virgin still, I really wouldn't care. I also have loads of friends who are in your position, male and female. When the time is right someone will come along. Seriously, just enjoy your youth.

 

2 words

Ok Cupid

Its free and theres the option to search for matches looking for casual sex

 

Turn off the computer and go outside.

I mean just get out there and socialize you will meet ppl

 

That's the same way I was.

You've got to look at it this way: you're just not like most people. There are still legions out there like you, that have had your troubles, felt that long loneliness; and there are also many that haven't that would still understand.

There's a lot of factors involved. A lot of luck, a lot of circumstance. Change your circumstances to suit your wants.

Find clubs or groups you'd be interested in -- you don't have to be the bell of the ball to make new friends, maybe even female ones. Not only would enriching your social life give you new hope and opportunity, it could even fill the void with some good friendships instead.
Try dating sites if you're really feeling the clock's tick. Times are changing, a lot of people meet this way.

 

Be yourself and focus on what you like to do - it will either attract from a source yet unknown or, at least allow a degree of happiness
As for being a virgin as "I'minmyunderwear" puts it so quaintly .. there are options out there
Be patient, for "good things will come to those who wait" - it is a credo of hope for all

 

I'd say that you need to get out more. But over all, chill out. its not that big of a deal. just get yourself into clubs or groups of friends and maybe within' them, or when you with them, you may meet somebody. so be patient.

 

I'm in your same boat. I think I have Asperger's too, but I've never been diagnosed. I've never had a relationship, and I've even asked a couple of girls out, but I'm always rejected. The social issue is what sucks the most, you literally feel like you can never get yourself out there in the first place. But I'd like to tell you that you're not alone. If that helps. I thought I was the only person without a relationship or first kiss at my age, and I started finding there were more people in my/our boat than I imagined.

Just live on, I'm assuming if you have Asperger syndrome, you're pretty familiar with your interests in life now, so start expressing yourself. I seem to have a lot of friends of both genders, but never a relationship type of person. And when I do, she likes someone else. All I can say is you have to give it a chance. with the social problem, you just HAVE to keep reminded yourself to go for it. It sucks when she says she's not interested. But it sucks even more having that feeling of regret because you didn't try. At least with the answer you don't think about all the things you should have done.

And sometimes it works out on its own. One of the girls that rejected me actually turned out to be one of my best and closest friends as of late.

 

I`m certainly infatuated here. And, I`ve lived half my life already.

 

Man things just happen sometimes. I was a virgin until almost as old as you and was pretty socially awkward (I think I might have undiagnosed asperger's, or maybe I'm just eccentric, idk), then one day out of the blue I hooked up with 4 girls and banged two of them. I was a happy camper.
Generally, I don't think you should specifically seek out sex (unless its from prostitutes), but just open yourself up a bit more to life in general and it will (literally) just fall onto your lap. I wouldn't have lost my v if I'd still been spending all my time jerking off and playing Warhammer 40k. It happened because I went out and did stuff and had fun (and because of alcohol). A girl I hadn't talked to in years who I knew from my childhood called me up randomly to come drink with her and her friends. My suggestion is to generally open yourself up and (whether or not this is irresponsible, it is true) to drink and use other inhibition reducing drugs.

e: also, aspergers girls aren't so bad. My best friend is somewhat socially awkward and I sort of hooked him up with/introduced him to this chick who has aspergers and their relationship couldnt be better. They're a little weird but they both lost their v to each other and they're very happy and committed

 

Lol, what could we possibly tell you that you didn't know? Go on a dating site? Go to clubs where people are drunk and willing? These are things you know already. In essence, the solution is - Stop worrying about it. Like the others said. There is only a problem if you think it is. You are still young, it's okay and perfectly natural to feel lonely when single. It is natural to feel lonely when taken too. Embrace these feelings and continue living your life with as much motivation as you can, doing the things you love other than that, whole heartedly. You will not be single or a virgin for the rest of your life, things change. This is a fact of life. Not I or you or anybody here can say/do something that would snap the fingers of fate and bring you a mate (especially one worth keeping). Things happen when they are supposed to, until then focus on other things and realise this is not even an issue.

P.S. One important thing to remember is to not compare yourself to others. This is not because I am trying to sound cheesy, but it is impossible to really compare yourself to others. There is not only 'you' and 'them', there are so many different types of people, and lifestyles, that if you ever got to know all of them you would not even care one bit. In fact I guarantee you would probably feel lucky. Since it is impossible to know every type of person, you would only be comparing yourself to the people we think are the 'norm' which in fact are just in the 'limelight', highlighted by the media in the way THEY want to portray them. Yes you have needs, and so do we all. It is normal, continue living.

 

meet people with a similar condition

it makes sense.