What do your loved ones think about the way you dress/wear your hair/etc?

My parents dont really care what i wear, but some times my mom will make fun of me for wearing the same shirt too many days in a row. she also used to bribe me into showering... haha

well i didnt think my parents had a problem with my dreadlocks but i just recently found out that my mom thinks they make me look like a "druggie"
she kept telling me that i am "shutting out 90% of the world" by having dreadlocks. i thought that was extremely unfair/stupid because i am a VERY open person and i will talk to pretty much anyone (unless they're threatening me or something.. hah)
she would say things like "oh you used to have such beautiful natural hair" and "the majority of people with dreadlocks do drugs"
this got me really pissed off.. and hurt my feelings
my mom is usually really liberal/open to stuff so i was disappointed when she said that to me. we had a talk about it and she said she loves my hair no matter what, but she doesnt want others to judge me and think i am a burnout or something. (keep in mind i am from suburban OHIO)

anyone else go through stuff like this?

 

Most folks don't say anything one way or another. If I shave my beard I'm usually told that I look better that way. If I dye my hair most folks don't even notice it. One friend tells me I could do with some weight loss. I usually tell her she could do with a little nip and tuck. Ain't we got fun ?

 

my mom hates the way i look. she calls me a freak alot. i'm into all different styles, i guess my main look is hippie/goth (im only using stereotypes because it's easy, although i usually dont, at least not when people meet me in person). now, that sounds a little contradictory, but it usually turns out with me looking like a gypsy. not a bad thing. i hate showers, due to they take so long and are annoying, and its a huge waste of water, and she hates that. infact, she told me to take a shower today. i used to wear only black, but i now embrace a rainbow look, especially mix-matched styles, prints, and designs. she hates that. i also wear anything i want, even if it has huge holes, stains, rips, or is too big. that's what you get at thrift stores. but she hates that. we argue ALL the time about what im wearing. i know she's trying to "help", and she really wants me to be "poplular and cool" but i dont want to be either of those things, or at least not in the "fashion" sense. she wants me to be an artist, but how the hell am i supposed to be that when she's teaching me self-expression is bad? i've wanted my hair blue for about 5 or 6 years, and whenever i do i get grounded, so i have to wait until im 18 like everyone else. i also love to wear as much jewelry as possible, like 40 bead necklaces (or more), 2 rings on each finger, bracelets that take up half my arm, and huge flowing skirts, which she says are too big. uh. i caould go on and on, but i give up now.

 

My mom isn't so bad about my personal style. She does get on me about how much she hates my tatoos and how much I will hate them later on in life.
She tells me I would be so much more beautiful if only I would go back to my natural blonde (i have dark hair now)......and I hear that every time I mention my hair. She thinks some of my "hippyish" clothes are "hideous" and asks me why I do "that" to myself. Mostly it's her shaking her head at me saying "you would look so much better if you would just........"
But she could be worse.........so I just take it as constructive criticism and proceed to ignore it But sometimes it hurts my feelings.

 

Hehe my dads a hippy and doesnt care what i wear as long as it isnt degrading or tarty. He find it amusing i think. he makes he odd jokey comments and things.
My step mummy full supports all my decisions, shes a wonderful lady with a wonderful outlook on life.
My mum... well she likes to say she likes the way i look. Because she wants to look cool. She used to wear PVC and to for Fetish shows but she stopped all that when she got to the age of... ohh lemme thing.... 49? :S

As far as my dreads go, my dad hates them along with my pircings however he knows its what i want to do and also knows im intelegent enough. My mum was always like "dreadlocks are disgusting... horrible things" ... and then i got then and shes like "your ones are nice dear" .... then again she did get braces in her late 40's cos i was supposed to be gettingthem too.... shes an odd woman.


And Sarah introduce your mum to me.. i have dreads but i rarely drink, dont smoke and dont do drugs.....

 

My family hates my long hair, probably for 1 thing my hair is all thin and fried and not in good shape, and it makes me look like a totaly stoned waste all the time, but what can I say, i just have a stoner face.

 

I want to!!! I tried to explain to her that she is very wrong to think that most people with dreadlocks use drugs. Many people with dreads that i have met are straight edge or only drink on occasion. Unfortunately, many people in America (especially who live in the midwest) have put a horrible stigma on dreads, trying to relate them to drugs and such. Most don't bother to even ask why one would dread their hair in the first place.. People need to learn to be more accepting..

 

just the way things are I guess. Dreads are bomb-dig no matter what, but I do so love a soft flowing head of hair on a girl. That's just me tho

My Momma tells me to get a haircut and wear my pants higher (always with the line "what if some girl is trying to check out your ass?")

My dad gives me shit when I draw on my arms and stuff, but not that bad... he likes my Hank Williams shirt alot so I think I'm in like flint on that front.

They're usually pretty cool about whatever I do. I think I'm gonna go write "DRUG SLUT" on my t-shirt and see what they say.

 

well... uh my mom did my dreads for me .Hahahhaa. my dad wants some for himself... grey dreads hahaha...

as for clothes.. my dad helps me pick them out or finds them for me a lot of the time and my mom could care less how i look.

 

My mom makes it pretty clear that she thinks I dress frumpy. I'm always in jeans and a sweater (the more grandma-core, the better). That's all the grief I catch from her, and I never know what my dad is thinking. They're both really accepting people, though. It's my extended family I worry about, because they're very... traditional people.

 

my mom doesn't seem to have an opinion on my clothes. she just doesn't care really. she's borrowed a dress or 2 and i made her a skirt. my dad on the other hands hates the way i dress. he's a mainstream kinda guy and would love it if i was like my lil sis and wore abercrombie and american eagle all the time! but i don't so he'll make comments "busting" me. it don't let it get to me. i wonder what he'll think about my hair when i start dreading it. hahaha. that'll be fun!

 

hmm.. my father hates the way i dress.. (what a lovely peaceful life i have with himlol) and my mtoher thinks that whatever i do, i look okay in.

my friends think im a freak.. and.. and i liek the way i am.

 

My parents give me their old clothes and I don't think they care much...haha

 

my parents hate the way i dress...
they think i'm depressed cuz i wear black alot, which is true, but i always add color...like tons of colorful jewelry. i also have purple shoes and the laces have colorful stars all over them.

they dont complain about my hair, my mom just keeps nagging at me to get it cut so it looks nicer. i mentioned getting dreadlocks and they said if i do it they're going to shave my head while i'm asleep...and i don't take that as a joke, they were serious about that. but i can probably get by if i dye it or something, which i might do.

 

My parents have always enjoyed my eccentricity, I think. The only thing I've gotten shit about are my dreads. My mom didn't talk to me for a while, and we got in a fight or two over it. But she's cool now, and I think she realizes that I'm gonna do what I wanna do. I think she just had to get used to it. Now, it doesn't bother her (I don't think).


I do kinda hate the drug stigma that goes along with dreads though. I've had people think I'm a huge pothead because of it, but I'm far from it. I've also gotten the "so you're a rastafarian?" question, which is annoying, 'cause...I'm not. My dad likes to joke and call me his little "rusty ferret"...(my dad is strange)...haha.

And as far as my extended family goes, I mostly get comments like "don't you miss brushing your hair?" or "your hair used to be gorgeous" or "when will you take them out?" My grandma calls my dreads "bobbles"...hahaha. She suggested I go to a salon and get them professionally redone (which isn't happening...lol). But she's still cool with it. She's funny though...haha.

 

^^^ hahah! sounds a lot like my family. My grandma calls my dreads "my curls" .....heheh

 

i used to wear noting but my habdmade patchwork clothing like 2 years ago, and my then bf's grandma didnt fet it.. she would always make comments like.. "what are you wearing?" "what kind of top is that supposed to be? its missing the back." she was like 87, and super sweet so i just laughed it off... my parents never said a word.. they both thought it was cool that i could sew my own stuff... meant that they didnt have to buy me clothes...

at school, everyone had always positive vibes toward my clothes... they all loved them and thought i was so talented... whatever....

now i dont really wear them anymore... i still make them, but i dont really wear them, unless its summer, and i get out one of my old patchy tops... lots of breeze on my back

 

my dad is always super supportive about the patchies I make, and my mom tries to be, but she hates patchwork. They're both really sweet and they like that I'm my own person. My little brother mocks me mercilessly, but it's all in good fun, and he tells all his friends about his hippie sister, so I think he secretly looks up to me. They do tease me about drugs alot, which is really funny, cause I've only ever smoked weed, and I do that so so rarley.

The only thing they don't aprove of is tatoos, and I've been promised that I will be kicked out if I get a tat.

And whenever I even mention dreads, my mom calls all her friends and they all call me to beg me not to. "they're so dirty" and "but your hair is so pretty" are the 2 big arguments.

It's all good though, they're great about everything, even if they don't really get it, lol

 

my mom's so funny, this one day i came out of my room wearing all her old stuff, and she like teared up. She loves the way i dress. Says it reminds her of when she was younger.

Although, everyday my mom and grandma harass me about my brown hair... "You have such beautiful natural blonde hair! People would pay so much money to have the hair you have naturally!" BAH!! Exactly...everyone DOES pay to have hair like mine...that's why i dye it brown.

I think my dad would be in love with me if he knew how i was now.... although he'd hate me for stealing his giant southern comfort belt buckle

 

My dad is generally supportive of my bizarre dress, the beautiful person that he is. Once, though, he sat me down and gave me a lecture about how a girl's job is to be pretty. He should have known it would just spur me on. Somewhere, Gloria Steinem is still crying about his comment.