Need a third party opinion.

There isn't much more important than trust to me...u have to trust her with your life if your thinking marriage.

 

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It could've been what he meant, alas we'll never know. But I had to respond to yours just to counterbalance the possibility he meant something else.

Either way if you are correct in interpreting his original post, then has I agree with your analysis of the situation.

 

Would rephrasing con#7 shed any light?

from 7. Tends to make me jealous for no apparent reason.
to 7. I tend to become jealous for no apparent reason.

 

Agreed guess we need to wait on the OP to clarify

 

You didn't say how she lost your trust. Whatever she had done obviously greatly affected your relationship with her. The biggest question here is why. Do you understand motivation behind her actions?

 

I apologize for the poor choice of words, but showing her as a "trophy" is the last thing I'd want to do. By saying that, I meant that she gets a long with my friends and that she has a smile to kill for.

I'll have to disagree there. By putting that point forth, I can give you one situation as an example. This happened a while back and I've set it at the back of my head but here it comes again. Happened at a friends birthday, she was dancing with a good friend of mine who happened to be piss drunk. Somehow, she allowed him or he managed it to plant a kiss on her neck (the "I want you" kiss). Now, I'm not one to forgive these things, yet I still always insist if stuff like that happens, I want her to tell me so that I could tell between friends and people who just pretend to be friends. Yes, that will end up with someone having a broken arm. Less for the man doing something to her, more so because he did it to her knowing that she is his friends girlfriend and disrespecting me like that. Now, the point where the jealousy part kicked in, was that she came up to me with this "cheeky" smile and told me that. Needless to say, I got pissed off and wanted to go and "talk" to the guy until she stopped me and told me that all she wanted to see was how I'd react and how jealous I'd get to satisfy her curiosity. During the 3 years if this would be the only case, I'd let it slide, yet - it wasn't.

She lost it basically by acknowledging that she likes another guy to her friends (which I found out about) after swearing that she had no feelings for him what-so-ever. Normally, the moment I'd find out about this sort of things, her having feelings for someone else, I'd end it there. However, I was too far in-love.

Thank you for all the responses.

 

If there's no loyalty--there's nothing. My aunt gave me a piece of advice long ago. She said-"if you have to stop and think about something-say no. You can always change your mind later". I always took it that she meant that we innately know when something is wrong whether we are ready to admit it or not. Thus,the hesitation. In this case instead of say no--substitute "just go"

 

Well, in this case, there would be no "change your mind later". I'm not sure if that's the best suggestion for relationships. Sometimes our judgement is clouded by specific feelings that are difficult to get rid of. That is exactly why I don't want to make any rushed decisions.

 

I bet she would hate it if you didn't react at all. You do understand that this is about power and control, right? She's good...knows how to make you go after your own friends. I'm not saying he was much of a friend but it's not his job to care more about your relationship than your girlfriend does.

 

I agree with lively.

I usually won't fight a guy who does something stupid while drunk, unless it crossed the boundary
of assault and assistance is needed in the situation, or if I need to defend myself.

I also end up dropping most girls that play head games like that with me after awhile because I begin visulizing getting jerked around the rest of my live in a serious relationship which may or may not be a marriage.

 

I feel you broh ... I'm only 18 but I dated this girl for a year I fucked a lot during that year now we are both broken up and she started to like this guy and they kissed I normally wouldn't care but I honestly love her she wanting to sleep with me but my heart tells me no my dick is screaming yes what should I do sleep with her even tho she kissed some one else or forgive her because iv done much worse but I still can't over that fact that she stopped being my best friend and my lover just because of some guy and now I don't even know if I want to be with her any more ... Should I stay with her or just move on and find a new love

 

you are 21, go as long as the going is good!
I did'nd find "my" hippie chick until I was in my late 40s.