Unconditional love is to love someone regardless of the loved one’s qualities and behaviour. Is there any relationship in the world which is unconditional? This is debatable - which relationship is unconditional but in this article we are trying to find unconditional love between a married couple (Love/Arranged marriages).
There is plenty of love in arranged marriages! Love is something you grow, not something you find. In an arranged marriage (90%) of the time, the boys parents and the girls parents look at what their children's future goals are, amount of children, where they want to live, wether they like the same sorts of foods... Things that make it okay for you to live together forever... Then the couple spend some time together and over time decide if they want to marry. This way they can learn to grow and love each other without the terrible heartbreak and regret faced in western marriages, for example, my brother has married a girl who has had one child, she refuses to have anymore so he will not get a son it breaks his heart, it will always break his heart that he will not have anymore children and so he will always be heartbroken, because if he leaves her he will leave the love of his life and the woman he has made a family with, but if he stays with her, he won't have anymore children. This wouldn't happen in an average arranged marriage, all the 'conditions' are worked out beforehand. The eastern philosophy is that most people can love most people, and that being able to live with a person is as important as finding them attractive. In the west we do everything on how attractive we are... Which is far far more conditional!
Generally the only unconditional love is parent/child. IMHO.. With girlfriends/boyfriends there are always conditions. Friends, pals, school mates, and so on, there are always conditions. Parents and children are very much different. Again, IN MY HUMBLE OPINION. I realize this is not always the case and it is pretty general and getting different in todays world, but it is the way I was raised and the way I am raising my children. Family is family. Everyone else, is not.
