Negative responses to Nudity.

Hi guys, I'm just curious here, have any of you ever been nude in what has been deemed a socialy acceptable situation and still gotten grief for it?

 

Not so much grief, but slightly scornful comments from two gay skinnydippers for my buddhaesque shape, who were saying things like "well, in Tonga, he'd be sexy, but here..."
How I know those two were gay? Well, I was nude at a nearby lake, where one shore is a well-known gay cruising area... and since all the other good spots were taken, I chose a spot there.

Well, I'm not on this world for everyone to love me, so who cares about those two?

Wiggling bare toes,

~*Ganesha*~

 

that sounds unlucky, willy blue, it does unfortunatley sound like she was insecure, or maybe she fancied you and just over reacted to the unexpected sight of you being naked, just a thought. And Ganesha, true not everyone is going to physically please everyone else, but even so, maybe it's just because i'm from the U.k and was brought up o be polite but when I see someone that I don't find to be particualry attractive I tend to keep it to myself, although its cool you aren't bothered by it, and again you are correct, if they are that vapid and shallow then who cares, they aren't worth the effort.

I have had a simmilar situation, just today infact, the driving force for this thread, i wanted to see if anyone had had the same experience. earlier I was swimming in the pool of my gym. when I got back to the changing room I acted the same as I always have, even before becoming a nudist, I took my bikini off, and put it with the rest of my stuff and, being naked obviously, I went for a shower, when done I went back and got dried. There were four other women in the changing room at the time, another girl of about my age who was getting changed, and so went from dressed to naked to dressed in the time i was there, she wasn't covering up but neither was she making a thing of it. Then there was a member of staff, female of course, whom I sort of know from the gym, and las and least there were a couple of older women, in their early 50's i'd guess, who were going to extraordinary lengths not to show any of their bodies other than arms and legs whilst getting changed, I had noticed them giving me and the other gym user dirty looks from the get go, for not being shy I guess, but things came to a head when, after towelling dry I went, still naked and put my towel in siobhan's trolley and we spent a few minutes exchaning idle pleasntries with each other, they started calling me 'hussy' and 'slut' that sort of thing, for the most part I just ignored them, although i did give them the finger and laughed at them on my way out, dressed of course. I was just surprised at their reaction, and as I say wanted to see if anybody has had a simmilar experience.

 

LOL! Interesting insight into the behaviour of older women. Had a naked man strolled in (as far fetched as it might seem I know this has happened, if for a lark), what would those 50-somethings have done, shriek and jabber or cast their threads aside invitingly. God, I do wish older people were not so bloody self-conscious or themselves and showed more flesh.

 

if a man had walked in I think they would have had a fit of rage fuelled hysteria, irrespective of his state of dress. you're right willy blue, I think the dirty looks to me and the other girl were born of insecurity, a real shame, as although I don't think anyone should be forced to be naked against their will, it is quite upsetting that some people have such a poor image of themselves that they can't bring themselves to be naked in a situation where it would be natural, like beaches or locker rooms. I think the words came however because I chatted to Siobhan whilst I was still naked, and so, although i wasn't flaunting my nudity neither was i in a hurry to get covered up, and maybe they were just brought up to be more modest. I dunno, either way it was ridiculous

 

Hi Rosie,

i think in the situation you mentioned it’s absolutely normal and natural to go naked as long as YOU feel comfortable with. When I’m in the gym after my workouts I usually put off my sports clothes and leave them on the bench in front of my locker, then go showering, doing my hair and make me look presentable all in the nude and finally put on my street clothes when I’m going to leave. A lot of other customers act this way and I guess no one worries about it.

I did experience very few rude reactions concerning being nude in adequate settings. Once a girl did yell at me at a party, accusing me to try chatting up the men. The background was her boyfriend did give me some looks, she was tipsy and kind of jealous, without any reason. Another time during a business trip a hotel guest did complain about me swimming nude in the little indoor pool near the sauna. I did think, the pool was part of the sauna facilities and this way dedicated to nude use. He finally went away upset to tell the hotel staff about my ‘brazenness’, but didn’t come back. The few other sauna users kept off the dispute, but at least one man did use the pool later nude too. Just recently a couple did shout after my friend and me while we were walking along the beach. They were telling that we had left the beach section where nudity is allowed (maybe true) and that police will grab us (untrue). Obviously they were too lethargic to follow us, so we just went on and left them back with their worries. On our way back later, they were gone.

Take care!

 

Yeah pixy thats what i do at the gym as well and that was honestly the first and so far only time i had any grief for it, although talking to siobhan since I think we found the reason, when we were chatting we were infront of the door and the other girl left when i was still standing there and the door, being a fire door swung shut slowly, and apparently at least one guy was facing the changing room at the time and so would have seen me naked in profile, which is what the older women saw and were really angry, for some reason, about, still an over reaction i think but hey each to their own.

must say i'm curious about your experiences though, were you naked at this party, was it a nudist party, or was the girl just really drunk, or both? secondly, where was this hotel, sounds like a good place if they are that lenient. you're beach experience though does sound fairly common and unfortunate. It is a shame that all beaches aren't clothing optional

 

As an (ex-) sportsperson, I am at ease with stripping off for showers an changing, so much so that when in work and going out afterwards, I nip to the loo and change in there - the looks I get are such that I do wonder, what the big deal man?
Too often nudity is deemed on as being lewd and "un-natural" but wtf!!
There is a two point viewpoint I feel, protection from the exposure of perverts - a sad inditment of our times (or is it that it is we know more about it noawadays?) and the mature realisition that the sight of natural nakedness is not to be an issue of 'ogle'-ment and/or shame.
Censorship plays it's part I guess, and the promotion of exploitation for marketing gains shows that the barring of 'all' images an unwise choice.

Parties along with festivals and gatherings of like-minded fun, are to enjoyed and the actions of the cheeky and risque should not be confussed with the sexual acts of the crude - it is meThinks wrong for the debatable actions of some to overshadow the freedom of expression that being bare gives

 

Hi Rosie,

Sorry for my delayed response, I was off for some days.

This was a pretty normal party of some friends, no special nudist party. I consider myself fortunate to have some friends who feel fine with having me naked around. And so I do sometimes at their parties, of course only if I feel like, the atmosphere is adequate and I am sure not to bother anyone. Sometimes there are others getting off clothes too, but this time I was the only one. The guy the girl was there with had seen me naked before, and we did have skinny-dips together too. Maybe she got the impression, that her friend likes this more than adequate, or that I try to get off with him. As she was drunk, she wasn’t able to handle this in a nice manner.

This was a single experience some time ago, so I don’t know if this is the usual and still valid attitude there. The site was the Dorint hotel at Dresden, Germany.

This wasn’t so important, a thing not to think about too much. This beach section is located between two beach sectors where nudity is allowed by the authorities explicitly. There is no dedication for this intermediate beach stripe of about 3 kms, so it’s de facto kind of no man’s land and clothing optional. As there are no access possibilities other than to walk along the beach (the backing dunes are a nature reserve), there usually are only few people there and often practicing nudism. We walk there nude without any qualms.

But you are right, it would be nice if all beaches would be clothing optional and everyone could go as she/he likes most. Btw. over the years I found out that you can make a lot of beaches ‘clothing optional’ if you only try. At least laying on your towel usually doesn’t cause complaints, if you care for some distance.

Take care!

 

She is one of the MANY BRAINWASHED AND CONDITIONED PEOPLE in the world

I love being naked also

 

Hey Rosie,

I'm a guy and I kinda know what you mean about the attitudes of people being naked in the changing rooms. I'm the same as you; I always strip off after a workout, swim, etc. and go for my shower. When I come back I usually wear my towel and then start packing my things away while naked and I don't get dressed until I'm ready to go. I have noticed that some guys are happy to walk about in the buff, while others try to put on boxers underneath their towels. I wonder if they are afraid of strangers (especially gay guys) looking at them while naked or if they think guys will judge the size of their penis. I, myself, am straight but have no problems with anyone looking at me while naked. I actually take it as a compliment if someone looks at me for a long period of time.

I'm also wondering where in Scotland you are? Drop me a message sometime as I'd like to chat to you about this and other topics I noticed you commented on (I have considered going to nudist beaches, etc.)

Thanks

 

Thankfully not as I've always chosen places where it has been acceptable. Just wish there were more.

 

Hear your pain of older 50 year old women snicker at you in the locker room.
I feel bit like you changing into my clothes then leave but feel people stare or feel uncomfortable looking at me nude. Only time after swimming I use the steam room and other guys are nude then it is acceptable. While other males don't feel it's appropiate to walk around nude or enter in the steam room nude. At a nude beach I feel comfortable if anyone stares at me but in the locker room somehow I feel different from men looking at me. Don't know what the cause of my shyness in the locker room is quite exactly. Although I feel more comfortable if I'm alone and take my time moisturizing from the pool and brushing my hair in the full body mirror. Sometimes I get a better view what I look like in the locker room mirror then anywhere else. Once I tried to walk naked brushing my hair in the mirror found men couldn't stop looking at me or stare at my penis or bum. At least at a nude beach people are more accepting of others on how we look but in the gym many others have different views then nudist.

Found out older man was talking to a women and pointed me out saying i'm well endowed. Women stared at me don't know what she thought but I found it bit personal information to give out. Same thing could happen to me but someone can say the opposite seeing me naked after 90 minutes in the water and steam room with exhausted muscles. Call me paranoid but men do gossip with women at the gym and talk about men shape or size. I feel violated when someone talks about my genitals to strangers, weird I know considering I go to nude beach. At least if someone sees me nude at the beach they need to tell someone where they seen me and if they do they feel embarrassed more then describing how I look.

 

I really would love to be able to be naked AS I CANT FIND ANY CLOTHES THAT FEEL GOOD ANYMORE!!!! (I have a few things that do (Mostly older stuff))

Its mostly all garbage made now!!!!! (Thinner material,elastic crap,etc)

Im really desperate!! (I would rather be naked -- CLOTHES SUCK AND ARENT NATURAL!)

 

Several years ago I had a roommate abruptly move out and I had to get another roommate. Since I thought it would be cool to have a female roommate, I advertised for a female roommate. I interviewed about a half dozen potential roommates and told each one of them I was a nudist and each one suddenly lost interest in renting the room. So I stopped saying anything about my nudity and ultimately got a fairly good female roommate.

 

maybe you just told them too abruptly, and might be that some thought you were going to be wanting sex or it was going to be a sexualised enviroment that they weren't comfortable with? at least you got a flatmate in the end, did you manage to incorporate nudity into your time sharing with her?

 

Hi Rosie, it's a long but interesting story. I can't go into all the details, but here's an overview. I'd guess I got a little gun-shy after so many women bolted the other way as soon as I mentioned that I was a nudist, so I kept it under the radar until I got to know my new roommate. She worked full time, was a full time student and had an active social life, so she was seldom home - so I had plenty of opportunity to still be naked around the house. She seemed a little prudish and conservative, so I was hesitant to mention anything. So for a couple of months, nothing was ever said and I got the sense she knew nothing about my nudity. I'd occasionally let her know that I'd be going to the beach and she was invited along, but she usually said she was too busy. Periodically she brought some of her friends over and one day she had over a girlfriend who I had met at the nude beach several months earlier and who I saw there a few times. Her friend recognized me, but couldn't place me. After a few minutes, I placed her but didn't say anything, as my roommate was present. Little did I know that away from my presence, her friend finally placed me and then shared with my roommate that she had met me and casually got to know me at the nude beach. My roommate didn't say anything to me until we had another conversation about going to the beach when she asked me if it was a nude beach we would be going to. After I said yes, she seemed surprised that I had never told her and indicated she was open to the idea. After what was both an awkward and exciting moment of getting comfortable with each other being naked, we ultimately ended up going to the nude beach as well as a couple of nudist resorts together, but her interest in nude activities waned as time went by. She eventually moved out, got married and I haven't seen her in several years.

 

I agree! There's always someone who will find fault with what others do, be it nudity or other things. As long as we don't go out of our way, as you said, to offend others, let THEM find another way to look, or another place to be.

 

at first i thought no i have never had a problem being seen nude. but that was thinking about at home or at a nude beach or in my backyard. then i read the post about the gym shower and i remembered one time i did have an annoyingly interesting encounter.
i was a late bloomer so i was always embarrassed to be seen naked in a school shower or by doctors and such. after everything filled out i started to be comfortable with it. when i was 26 i got a job working with chemicals so they had showers that some of the guys would use. most would just walk in naked and walk out to their locker and get dressed. so i followed suit knowing that it was common there. some non showerers clearly would prefer not seeing naked men but nobody ever complained.. even when the cleaning lady walked in on me one time she just walked out and that was the end of it.
well i lost that job and got another working with some different dirty substances, so they also had showers available. this was one of the first times i showered there so i didnt have a routine yet and i never saw anyone walk around nude so to fit in and not stir the pot i just did what everyone else did. but this one time i turned on the shower stripped and got in when i realized that i forgot my towel and clean clothes in my locker. i was already wet so i finished and dried myself with my relatively clean shirt. i dried slow hoping my shift would be gone when i got out. i walked to my locker holding my shirt in front of me covering my junk with one hand. and i had my pants and soap in the other hand. i didnt have enough hands to cover my rear. a handful of people on my shift lingered on and one young man saw me and started screaming "oh my god your naked" he got up and walked away from the guy he was conversing with and was still screaming similar things to "i cant believe your naked" and "i dont want to see you like that" (i cant remember the exact words he used but i remember that was the gist of it) now the part i found funny was that when he walked away the guy he was talking to walked out of the locker room and didnt come back in probably because he didnt want to seem like a perv sitting there alone with me after the other guy ran to the other part of the room where the toilets are. the locker section isnt visible from the toilet section. but as i opened my locker he came back to the part that i was in and actually ducked a bit to look directly at my penis still while screaming his displeasure. and as i was pulling up my underwear after he went away again he came back and clearly gave one last peek. rather than just leave the locker room in the first place like his friend did if he was so offended. (he was fully dressed and ready to leave but just waiting for time to pass...what we call milking the clock). after that day he avoided me as if i made a pass at him...honestly it seemed like he avoided me more like i attempted to rape him. (to me at least) for example he would sit down at a lunch table i was at and when he looked up from his food and saw me at the same table he would get up and move to a different table and whisper to the people he was now sitting next to about me. (i only know it was about me because whoever he talked to would look at me) the day after the incident he asked me politely to get changed in front of the showers like everyone else. being a rebel by nature i was tempted to walk around naked just to piss him off but he was polite about it, and besides my intention was to do just that anyway so why should i change what i do because of him. i found out later he spent a year in prison and it always made me wonder if there was a connection. in conclusion he left after i was there less than two months so it was nice no longer having anyone avoid me like i was a leper. especially because of their own insecurities.