Hello, So I'm looking for some advise please. Me and my gf have just recently been sexually active. We were both virgins and we are now having safe sex but I'm not able to cum during sex. It's not a huge problem for me because she is cumming (so she says) and I can last really long but I know she is upset about it. It still feels good but to be completely honest I thought that it would feel better. Should I be concerned? I think this is not a bad problem to have, but I know it's not normal. Any ideas? I don't have any problems cumming while masterbating, but I do like it really fast when I do. I'm thinking that might have something to do with it.
I was the same way for the first 6 months of my current relationship and slowly it got better and i got closer and one day boom very hot, don't give up
Just keep going at it, you'll get used to it and find a way and a pace that you like and you'll jizz one of these days
I have the same issue between me and my boyfriend. He's been with a few other people before me and has never been able to climax through sex until we started dating. Even at that, we've been dating for a year and a half and he's only every finished three or four times through sex. Initially it was really upsetting to me. I thought I wasn't good enough or whatever, blah blah blah. But he's the same as you. He likes it really really fast and rough. And there's only so long that we can go at it fast and rough before we're both drenched in sweat and I'm way too sore to continue. Anyway, it's something you're just going to have to deal with. My boyfriend says he thinks it has something to do with being too tense (not emotionally but physically) while going at it and not able to relax enough while doing it. Normally we just have fun until it's not fun anymore and then I finish him orally. So I guess just try to relax and if it doesn't happen it doesn't happen. No big deal. Better luck next time.
Try 69 with her on top , my fav. You can both cum . What sounds strange with this post is , a lot of guys are like me they cum too fast . desert rat
I think you need to stop masturbating for a while. Then you can cum with her instead of in your hand.
That was one of my first thoughts but it didn't help. It's not as if I'm not hard. I went without sexual activity for more than a week and figured it would be easier to cum but it wasn't.
Are you circumcised? I am not and during protected sex I sometimes find it difficult to climax because my foreskin gets retracted and the condom prevents it from coming back up when I pull back. The feeling of condom on uncircumcised head is not very pleasant without the foreskin in between. It's a bit painful and it can make it difficult for me to finish or even continue.
No I'm not so that might have something to do with it. I wouldn't say it's ever painful though. We are doing some research into birth control methods so we can skip the condoms. It's not as if condoms are the only issue though because even during oral she can't finish me. I'm assuming that might come with practise though.
From my own person experience I would say that you should have no problem with unprotected sex. It allows the foreskin to move fully over the head and back again like it does when you masturbate, except the feeling is a thousand times better. Climax is not difficult.
I am going to try this! I've been having protected sex with my girlfriend of 4 months (my first) and coming is also very difficult for me although I can now do it consistently. I even find it difficult to stay hard and stimulated sometimes and I theorize that it's probably the protection thats doing it.
I am having the same problem too. I've had sex with my gf twice and didn't cum. The second time I masturbated and came over her ass. It's probably because I am so used to masturbating that the vagina doesn't make me orgasm. I have stopped masturbating. Hope it makes a difference. And I DO NOT recommend throwing away the condoms. Buy an ultra thin one or one that enhances pleasure with ribs etc. Durex has a whole range of different types of condoms. Till you get used to the vagina, reach an orgasm through some other way. Like masturbation etc. I am very harsh and fast when I jerk myself. Maybe that's why it isn't as pleasurable when she sucks me or gives me a hand job. Anyways, when you stop masturbating naturally you'll get horny as hell and the penis will be more sensitive than ever. I again repeat DO NOT ditch the condoms. They are the safest form of birth control. Your brother in agony, DEE
BTW this condition is known as retarded ejaculation. And it's the third most common sex-related problem in men. So, don't worry, you're not alone.
