Ok so im 18 and I hangout with this girl every couple weeks, I think she might be into me, we smoke alot of weed together and enjoy each others company but the topic of us being together never comes up, For example, when she came over to hang last night one of the first things she brought up how she went to this party a few days back and this guy was beeing way to rough with her and made her bleed and then made fun of her to everyone in the party, I am not very good when it comes to things like this so I just said that he was a dick and that im sorry that happened, then she said it reminded her too much of when she was a kid and got molested. I am afraid of the friend zone and do not want to go down that path because I really do have alot of feeling for this girl can someone help?
Sounds like the friendzone crystallizing...First off, I would either try to hang out with other chicks, or do something with my time alone so that your life doesn`t revolve around this chick`s approval. Secondly, I would tell her. I did that a couple of months ago...This chick started telling me about this guy she met, and I told her I did not want to hear it because I have a crush on her. I haven`t fucked her, and likely never will, but I am not in the friendzone. Meaning, I`m not her doormat. She respects me, and she has never brought up this guy she`s dating in my presence again. And if she did, I would eventually cut her off with proper warning. -------------- I do not buy her things, open doors, pull chairs, carry her shopping bags, drive her around, fix things for her, tag along when she`s running errands, hang out with her for hours on end, text her a million times a day, compliment her, stare at her, I do not dote on her, I do not invite myself over, I am not her therapist, I am not her bodyguard, I am not the third wheel. I am my own man. I have sex with other women. I have things to do that do not involve her. The things we do for each other are reciprocal. I may be a friend, but I`m not "zoned" if that makes any sense. :biggrin: ----------- Finally, I do not try to manipulate her to get into her pants. I accept the fact she might have different feelings for me than the ones I have for her. My friendship is not a tactic. If one day she wants to be with me, she will have to put her voice in and put her feet down. She`ll have to make a decision and stay with it. I will not do the work for her. I will not chase. And if she doesn`t, I will keep dating other girls and leading my life independently from her. I like her, but I like myself more.
