I have only ever slept with one girl, we're in love and I enjoy the sex we have. However I do often get that nagging falling that I'm missing out on my youth, what do you guys think?
I meant to state that we are open and adventurous, but just because we have anal often doesn't make up for my feeling of losing my chance to be a man whore.
If you're both content, then there's nothing wrong at all. Indeed, it's an arrangement the majority would probably wish for.
often, the best sex is with somebody you know well. One who knows what you like and who you feel comfortable with.. If you're not satisfied with the sex you and your girlfriend are having, then it's of course a different story.. You a not wasting your youth by having wonderful sex in contrast to sleeping with different women and just having funky drunk sex, I know that much.
Consider the difference between your mental imaginings of what being a man whore would be like compared to the stark reality of actually being slutty in the real world. The kinds of places you'd have to go, the kinds of people you'd have to be hooking up with, the kind of life it would pull you into . . . undoubtedly much more shallow, hollow, meaningless, and less fulfilling than what you have now. The grass is always greener on the other side and it sounds like you've got a pretty good deal going on. I would imagine that could you trade it for a life of meaningless one night stands you'd quickly grow bored of the stupid, self-centered people you'd be fucking with and would miss that amazing connection you had with that one special lady that you actually gave a damn about and could still have ridiculous sex with. It's all about perspective. You're not the only one plagued by this question in their mind, i'm sure it affects basically every single person in a relationship. It continues to nag at me sometimes but I just tell that voice to shut up now more than I used to . . . really there's no amount of whoring that could compare to what I have now, and on top of that I'm aware that my fantasies of being a bachelor slut are just that; fantasies. I hear stories from my slutty friends that make me think twice about that lifestyle. The backstabbing, the pettiness, the manipulation and false connections. Popular culture has glamorized and romanticized the free sex lifestyle but just take a look at the kinds of people who are in clubs trying to be sluts or being sluts and you can see what it's all really about . . . they are afraid to admit that what they really want is that one special connection, which they secretly seek in their free love, all the while pretending they don't want it and engaging in behaviors that might possibly preclude it. I've seen the other end of the scale from a distance and it doesn't look as great as it does in my mind's imaginings. I think porn is to blame; a lot of subconsciously placed styles of interactions ("Oh hey there sexy, wanna come back to my place?" *cue incredible sex between two supermodels including no condoms, ass to mouth, and cumming on their faces) that don't really happen in the real world. Ya sure, some people get lucky and have amazing meaningless sex now and then, but it's the nature of humans to want to get together more permanently, establish emotional bonds, meaningful interactions . . . it's a double edged sword but try and see what your position looks like from THEIR point of view likely very enviable. For example one thing I've noticed is that in the world of meaningless sex, people become possessions, not connections. It's all about the little black book of fuck buddies, dominating interactions to steer them to sex, etc etc. It's dehumanizing and that's the reason it's glamorized by this ever more dehumanizing world. There is the biological argument that we were meant to fuck around, but there is also the biological reality that we want to form social bonds that last and mean something. And really, are you going to take your social cues from biological theories about primates? Or are you going to take your social cues from using your head and thinking about what's good for you in the long run, and what the person you're with right now cares about (since you care about that!). Sexy random girls make for great congratulations from your bros, and awesome mental fap material, but after that you realize you're still alone and no one cares who you fucked and now you're maybe just a little more jaded about this whole sex and connection thing. This is an issue that has been very important to me personally and it was great to write out this post, also to put my own thoughts down and clarify them. Hope that gave you some food for thought
