Hey guys. I'm 35 years old. Had premature ejaculation all my life. I'm still shooting before I can get my manhood inside wife's pussy. That happens maybe 1 out of every 4 times we try to fuck. The rest is no more than 30 seconds at most. I need help. this is fuckin embarrassing. I've tried those desensitizing creams but they make me too numb down there. I also crank one out before we have sex but that sometimes makes it impossible for me to get hard again and it only keeps me from cumming before I can get in. It doesn really give me any gains. Any guys got any advice?
If Your Really 35 And Haven't Worked This Out For Yourself, Perhaps You Should Abandon Sex Altogether And Join A Nunnery.... On The Remote Chance You Are Genuine *which i seriously doubt* The Answer Is As Simple As Rubbing One Out Before The Main Event.... Now Go And Try It For Yourself.... Cheers Glen.
Get your mind out of the problem and your dick will follow. Premature ejaculation is ALL mental. Some guys can have sex for hours and at any moment they choose do they actually cum. I don't know what to tell you on how to change your mindset, your gonna have to do it yourself. I had this problem for a short while with a girlfriend years ago. I was always nervous because she was so damn hot, and i felt like i had to perform more than the usual and it just killed my overall confidence. I never got over the problem when i was with her. Later when i met a new girl who was attractive but not as much as the previous i learned a lot rather quickly. At the time i had more confidence because for whatever reason i didn't feel like i have to step up to a certain 'ego' level with her. I was judging my sex performance based on how the girls looked so to say, and you just shouldn't do that. One thing that might help you, that did with me, is music. Try playing something that helps you. It works great and putting your mind in other places.
I was going to to suggest cream actually, BF needs it and it's like a routine part of sex. For erection issues, I can empathize with you again there this happens with him sometimes too. If you pick up a vacuum pump just some cheap model like this will work, don't need an expensive one it will work wonders for you, you can get an erection fast and it should stay up long enough to have sex. Good on you for coming out and talking about it too, this is a sucky thing to suffer in silence with!
I would say for the wife to get on top , or do 69 , but as it is 6 months old and he has only one post , its in my post and split bin . desert rat
You can also try some natural herbs like ginko is a popular solution it helps with blood circulation which in turn is what gives you an erection. You could do the "womanly" thing and take a bath for relaxation, sometimes the ladies get it right when it comes to this!
Look up on the Internet techniques that can help you delay premature ejaculation, such as Edging and Jelking. you are possibly over sensitive and need to condition yourself to being less tactile, An obscure method is to use a product called 'anal eaze' which will numb the little plucker for a half hour or so. Mentally thinking of other things also helps.
You can go see a doctor and treat the underlying problem which is a neurotransmitter imbalance. Get some Prozac or something else and fuck like a God. Playboy pointed out that it pretty much cured PE.
That would be silly putting something for your butt on your dick... But you;re totally right, a desensitizer would really help in this case. I would be worried about it numbing the Vag though and the lady won't feel anything either. That would sort of defeat the purpose of intercourse!
I actually have the opposite problem, It takes me a looong time to cum, sometimes it doesn't happen. It's not that bad, it just gets tiresome sometimes.
How about circumcision?! (perhaps you're already cut; perhaps it's too drastic. But cut guys are supposed to be less sensitive, right?! I'm circ'd, and PE has never been a problem for me.) Perhaps this was a dumb comment - but hey, I'm trying!
the only way to cure this naturally is to train your ejaculatry process, after a few weeks of doing some simple excersises and then following certain procedures and meditations you can start to last longer, from less than a minute, to a few minutes, to 5 mins and then onto 10 mins so improvement wont happen overnight, but you will see the difference in 3-4 weeks
I forgot about posting this here. Thanks everyone for the advice. Some of this stuff like training myself ive already tried. Maybe i should just go to a doctor about this and see what he says. I am uncut.
You are a wonderful human being. I respect you so much for getting on here and asking this question, so I will help you. Start by drinking Almond milk OFTEN. Start walking at least a mile per day (if you can). If you increase your stamina physically, so will it increase intimately. If you believe in a deity, pray for vigor. Until your stamina builds, mount your woman in the missionary position, with your torso upright, make very SLOW thrusts, while stimulating the clitoris. You will feel the vaginal walls tighten, which will make you want to cum, if you feel it, stop but keep stimulating her. If you cum to early, hop off, then quickly get back to stimulating the clitoris until she climaxes. You can also do a combination of clitoral and G-spot stimulation. Making your woman scream in ecstasy is a HUGE confidence booster. If all of this fails, get a picture of your mother or something, and set it up so you can stare at it while having sex (this does help). Make sure it's nothing that will make you lose an erection.
