okay, well, me and my girlfriend have been going out for about 6 months now, but the furthest we've ever gotten was cuddling and kissing pretty much (we're 17, so that isn't to abnormal) But just the other night we were talking on facebook when we somehow managed to get on the subject of sex? But we were just joking around about it and stuff, but then she suddenly asked me "would you be creeped out if i said i wasn't kidding?" about having sex, and i was shocked, because i've always been to afraid to make a move on her because shes one of those goody goody people and i thought she wouldn't want me to... so of course, i said i obviously wouldn't be creeped out, and i told her how i thought she wouldn't have wanted to do that, then she was like "its not that i don't want to... its that i wouldn't know how to..." so, i'm a little confused about that, how does one not know how? We're both virgins, but it seems kind of self-explanitory? so my question is, what should i do? Next time she's over how do i make a move? like i said, we're both virgins and the furthest we've gone is cuddling, i know... lmao so any advice would be appreciated
I would just take it slow and let it progress naturally. It is a very natural and instinctual act. Start with some kissing and then start feeling her body all over. Run your hands all over her body and start kissing her neck and undo her bra. Then feel up her breasts and put her hand in your pants. Keep kissing down her body until you get to her pants and take them off and gently feel her pussy until she gets so wet she cant stand it.
i remember my first time.. :afro: lol no but seriously, i'd start with kissing.. then slowly & gently caress her body (kiss her neck, rub fingertips across thighs) all that good stuff.. after that, when you feel SHE is ready, remove her shirt, then progressively remove other clothing items, you'll be naked before you know it, and thats when you make your own decisions :scholar:
But how do you just randomly start kissing? We've obviously kissed before, but never like, made out...? (I know, we're weird lol) but like, if we're just sitting there in my room watching a movie or whatever, my arm will usually just be around her with her head resting on my shoulder or chest, so her face is like.. down, away from my direction, so its not like i can just lean in to kiss or anything, what would i do? i know... i'm a very awkward person
Ok pretend she is on your bed slowly make your way to her look her in the eyes the entire time once u get to her make sure she is faceing you crawl on top of her hold her hands kiss her slowly then the rest will come to man just make sure your ready for the moment take it slow at first ease it in once she can take it ull be abble to go fast and faster ... Its not going to be that much fun the first time but after a while the sex will get better and she will want to try all kinds of things with u .... Night time sex its better by the way
About what she said: ~ Remember that you were talking through Facebook IMs- meaning, not a face to face conversation so you're missing out on the body language and non-verbal messages. She might have just said that because she was feeling shy or didn't know what to say because it seems she's practically asking you to make sweet love to her. About what you need to do: ~ You've been given amazing advice from lots of great people. My only addition is to be sure to use protection. If it's going to be a regular thing, get her to a doctor or a free-clinic to get her on birth control. It's the best thing that I ever did, and it was facilitated by my then boyfriend's Mom. Otherwise, I wouldn't have gone, and I'd have probably ended up a teen Mom. So don't do that!! Get her on something to prohibit younguns from delaying your dreams.
I stopped feeling awkward about sex, let alone kissing, when i was abouy 14 so I really cant hell you here. Though if youre not at a point where you feel comfortable making out with her, chances are you two won't feel comfortable getting naked and fucking.
no no, i'm comfortable making out with her, i was simply asking how to go about doing that, like if she's not facing me its not like i can just start right haha... but i agree we're probably not comfortable with having sex yet, hence why i we need to work up to it, which is what i was asking how to do
Well you should definately have a talk with her and set some ground rules about likes and dislikes of what you are both comfortable doing. Make it clear that neither party is going to be judged. I would recommend getting naked and watching each other masturbate to start off with before you attempt sex just so both get used too how each other's bodies work and to ease and break in that awkward period if both of you are shy. Also discuss and research protection the different kinds and how to use it successfully. And what does work (example: oil and condoms do not mix)
To start with you don't have to make a move, you got that out of the way on facebook. You both want to do it. First and foremost use protection ! No unwanted kids running around. Second just relaxe and go slow, it will come natural. Good luck to you..... Protection Don't rush.
and hey, this discussion is so mechanical - where's your passion - she's interested bumblebumble but you don't even appear keen. mayb u shld wait till it's someone you are really hot for - then u rip off her panties in an alley (she is as well huh). There's not an especial order of progression when passion is involved :sunny: Simon
