only good enough for secret sex?

Why are guys never interested in dating me, but never seem to have a problem secretly screwing me?

Is it just because I am fat and ugly and therefore they don't want people to know that they are fucking me?

I thought I was 'seeing' this guy recently, we hung out a few times, seemed to get along well, had amazing sex and just now when I called to see if he wanted to hang out he said he couldn't because he was going out to dinner on a date....why was I never good enough to take out for dinner?

 

Until you set the bar regarding your standards of acceptance regarding yourself, why would anyone else then do so.

If you do not wish to be treated in that manner then do not allow that treatment.

Choose carefully as it is a reflection of where you are.

If you want a change then project who you are and attract like to you.

 

I once had a fat chick that hid me from her family, like she was ashamed to be getting poked by some skinny guy..

 

Dress Well...Display An Air Of Confidence...And Keep Your Legs Together....

Follow These Three Bits Of Advice And In Time You Will Meet

A More Upmarket Man...



Cheers Glen.

 

Yeah yeah....love yourself blah blah blah.

Easier said than done when you're a fucking whale with a face that looks like a truck backed over it a few times.

 

I Hope The Truck Wasn't Damaged, Truck Parts Can Be Very Expensive...



Cheers Glen.

 

Wouldn't want to waste a truck on someone like me now.

 

Join Greenpeace, They "Save The Whales"...



Cheers Glen.

 

Hey come on now. Weight can be lost and I really don't think you are that ugly.

But honestly tho if you keep letting them get away with it, it's all they will ever want from you.

 

And if I don't let them get away with that, I'll have nothing

 

i really think confidence is overrated; arrogant people are far more unattractive than pity-whores, but no one wants to listen to "i'm fat and ugly and my life is awful and pity me pity me boo hoo!" balance is good as far as that goes.

anyway, if you're as hideous as you claim, i can't imagine why someone would even want you for secret sex, so it can't be as bad as you're saying. hell, i really don't see why anyone would sleep with anyone that they were ashamed to admit sleeping with in the first place. if they think that there's something so wrong with the person that they can't admit to being with them, then what is it about the person that even turns them on to begin with?

 

The Promise Of A Warm Moist Hole Would Be My First Guess...



Cheers Glen.

 

Thanks for the advice.

I'm just over men.
Over life.

I'm sick of feeling worthless.

 

do you really base your worth entirely on your ability to score a boyfriend? i know i'm horrible at picking up women, whether it's for a relationship or the random sex that you seem to have no problem getting, yet i know i'm great at, well, a lot of other things. there's a lot more to life than getting steady sex.

 

you know what...i had this whole inspirational thing all typed out, but then i realised that it doesnt matter what i write or what anybody else writes....ur not really going to listen, especially not to a bunch of random people on the internet who u dont know and who dont know you. if u feel like shit then thats ur own fault, it has nothing to do with guys or anyone else. the only persons opinion that should matter is ur own, because if u dont love urself, then why should anyone else? im not even going to apologize if this sounds harsh because well fuck it is. but so what? ur life is what u make it, and u have made it like this. u have no one to blame but urself. and ur the only one who can change it...put on ur big girl undies and do something about it rather than just dwell on self pitty and waste ur life away for fuck sake! oh p.s. to eliminate the whole guy thing, get a fucking viberator...easy as that.

 

Thanks

 

When I went through a depression in my teens, I got through it by trying to use my life to help others. It worked I realized I'm not in this world alone with doubts, problems and that even others who appear to it all, don't it's just a facade. Don't doubt your existence in life, just know that your here now and that you have influence in this life, and for the most part you are free which is something many others crave for while trapped by life's circumstances, or at the mercy of a dictator and slave master because they were a victim of human trafficking.

 

a) It seems like you`ve answered your own question. I promise to stay away from the everybody-is-beautiful-and-love-yourself advice. It sounds wishy-washy to me too.

My question to you is, would you date someone as fat and ugly as yourself? If so, I think your problem is solved.
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b) Why do you need the public to know whom you are fucking?

Personally, I am private about who I am with. I prefer to hang out as friends in public. I see my sexual life as my own business.

Some people might think I haven`t gotten any in years. I might be a virgin (which I am); you will never know. :biggrin:

 

You must be kidding there is no such thing as fat and ugly woman in our days?

The bad thing in these sort of conclusions is the sense of helpless; but you are seeing it in the wrong way;

go on a diet, go to a gym, start exercising regularly, have a modern haircut, have wax if it is needed, have skin therapies if you need to, start wearing modern clothes, check the magazines on ideas about how to find a make-up that fits you best, start feeling good with your appeals...

What i want to say is that you can do a million things that can help you not to feel that way; it can be hard at the beginning but nothing is worst than not loving your image at the mirror.

Do not overdo it, but you are a girl and you should take care of yourself and then you will see that others will also take care of you because a girl that loves herself; well it shows in every single move that she does.

Then you can feel more confident and sure of your sexual life and not mixing the two; after all not all men that you shall meet are interested in a relationship but to see things clearer, you must first see yourself as it deserves to.

 

If this is your actual voice and not just your internet voice, then this may be the reason you're "only good enough for secret sex".

There's a big difference between love yourself and everyone will love you and you're turning everyone off because you hate yourself.

You don't have to think you're the most amazing person in the whole world, but everyone should have some self respect. And self respect has nothing to do with getting the respect from people you sleep with.