How long did your great sex last in your relationship?

No.
Sorry honey! I did not mean offense. I'm glad you are happy.

 

But nobody knows that, you can't call people liars in here and not expect their friends or them to be upset about it. Lets start all over and see how it goes.

 

I'm not saying you have to believe me, but to just come out and say I'm lying about it.

And yes I know what the divorce rate is in the US I am Canadian..... and also I have been divorced so this is my 2nd marriage.

You also said something about your wife, sounds like you aren't with her anymore. You said sex was great in the beginning for the 3 years then it sounds like you had kids and then things stopped.

Did you give her time to adjust being a mom? I tell ya that's when the sex was slow here. It's hard to feel sexy when changing shitty nappies( diapers) all day

 

Hey it's all good.......

 

so the OP basically knocked up his wife, and then bailed because she was taking care of the kids and not banging him 3-4 times/day?

 

What its sounding like to me.

Hell after I had kids sex was the last thing on my mind...... as a mother you just brought a little person into the world and you take care of everything for them. Waking up all hours of the night feeding baby etc etc.

Sounds like it was 2 close in age as well and that rough.

 

what horrible things to say. goofy is'nt no liar!

 

as for myself i have no idea what bad sex is.it's always been brilliant.

 

Perhaps the key to great sex after kids is that both partners want kids.

 

masturbating was pretty amazing for about 4 years, then it started to feel more like something i had to take care of rather than something that just felt great.

 

I don`t know exactly when. I think sex steadily decreased in the one long-term monogamous relationship I`ve had, until we broke up after 3 years. In the last couple months I don`t think we had sex at all.

Then, we broke up and I fucked two other women almost immediately. I was backed up! And, then, the last time I had sex with her, after we had broken up, was a-ma-zing. Obviously! Because all the pressure from the relationship was off, I could finally enjoy myself.

I think we could have picked it up again, if only she were willing to open the relationship up and establish some new boundaries.
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I think in a poly relationship with good boundaries, I`d be able to enjoy sex with someone indefinitely. Allowing for some ups and downs.

 

the whole time.

 

about everything.
he was always so jelous.. even over people on tv.. it was bad.
We were completly different and just shouldnt have been together.
We were both kids with too many 'problems.'

 

It's still going, and getting better every time

But we are long distance so I'm sure that has something to do with it. It'll be a while before we see each other and don't want to tear each other's clothes off.

 

I haven't ever had the great sex end haha
but, Then again the longest relationship i was in was just over a year.

 

I agree. Once they think they have you on the hook they turn the tap off. No pussay fo u!

 

That is so not true. I have had two serious relationships that lasted over a year and I never stopped wanting sex every day, even with a ring on my finger. They were as "hooked" as they can get and I didn't stop wanting the dick. Speak for your own taste in women! Sheesh.

 

I think that depends on the person and the chemistry between the two...

With my ex we were together for a year and the first six months were great, after that it went downhill and it only turned worst..I was not satisfied with him at bed and i could not help it, neither did he, perhaps we got tired trying to spark the relationship after the passion degraded . But sometimes I do not know, its like the flame goes away and perhaps its time to move forward.

With my current boyfriend we are together two years and we live one year together, we are still strong. We are not having sex every single day (we both have a heavy program) but on weekends that we can be free, we can spend all day playing with each other and taking care of one another; it really feels good.

And one point that i learned from my previous relationship is not to give just about everything, let some space between, have your own interest and let the other person miss you, wonder where you are and what time you are coming home.

So we both take time to spend on our interests and see our friends and we did that from the start of our relationship, it turned out to be far more rewarding in the long-term than sticking all day together and finally getting bored.

 

I'm going to say this,

Every long term relationship has dry spells, esp after a few years the honeymoon phase doesn't last. Remember life changes work,kids stress can bring sex down to once a week.

But if you can hang out through the dry patches things can pick up again. When you love somebody most of the time you love all of them, not just the dick or pussy.

Plus I think the longer you are with somebody the better sex gets, there are no awkward moments, you know what each other like. Also might be easier to explore more as you can talk about easier and not get shy.

Relationships have highs and lows, great sex can always stay if you want it to.

 

I think when this happens in a relationship it's really a test of the 2 people's compatibility and interest for one another... there's a point where a bit more effort has to be expended to maintain a connection between one another, if it's not a good match then this is typically when the relationship has run its course... if you can hold on to each other and keep things going then it bodes well for the future.