Do men in their 30s lose interest in sex?

i'm not trying to fuck anybody on the internet

other than perhaps your straw man.

you should perhaps learn to not be so literal

maybe you have aspergers

who knows?

anyway you make incorrect assumptions.

if you ever want to ask me what i mean - rather

i am more than happy to explain myself.

you cannot be with someone five years without talking

hence - i am referring to people needing to remind each other why they were together in the first place

i am not talking about a one night stand.

why would you think this?

no one has mentioned anything of the sort.

either way - i was in a relationship that went down hill in this regard

and it was because we both felt we had lost interest in each other as people

since neither person ever felt special

everything fizzled.

but either way - since you mention communication via the internet

as a 'sofa aficionado'

and forum agony aunt i perhaps assume you know better than i

of my own personal experience.

suggestions for tomorrows breakfast perhaps!!???

i feel corn flakes is the wrong answer

cheer up.

 

My apologies.....it was just that good ole communication chestnut again, knew it was coming.

I did over react, but its like every single time in threads like this communication is the default answer; nothing else is working so a whole lot more blah blah blah will fix it

 

Communication appears to be working! That and Blow jobs. Thanks to whoever suggested that.

 

fair enough brother.

 

Again... Thanks guys three times yesterday because I actually listened to what he likes.
Great advice!

 

okay, first off i dont think this girl sounds like a naggy bitch, i think this sounds like a sexually frustrated woman asking for some help. honey, you need to voice your sexual frustration with him, if he is mastubating behindyour back, leave him but if he just doesnt have a sex drive then you need to decide if you want to stay with him or you need another man.

 

He apparently masturbates once or twice a month when I'm at work while he watches lesbian porn.

 

Whatever you do don't make the mistake of thinking a guy masturbating is a bad thing... it's not, and should not be confused with cheating or anything of the sort (unless it involves an emotional connection with another person at the time). People are entitled to their own sexual satisfaction on their own time, and chances are if they're satisfying themselves they'll be better equipped to satisfy you. Masturbation makes your sex drive increase overall, it's a good thing. Now if a dude is turning down sexual favors and then going and jerking off immediately after, that's a problem, but that's a different situation. Mexicanita I think you're completely wrong about leaving someone for "masturbating behind your back," I think that's a pretty backwards attitude.

 

^yeah, it actually relieved me when he told me he masturbates -- it means he at least has a healthy sex drive

 

i have run into this same problem lately.

 

We just went over a month without sex again, and only had sex because it was Valentine's day. Time to end it?

 

sucks to be you

 

seems to me that would be your decision.

i always advocate breaking up, even if everything is going well.

 

I'd break up with someone just for trying to do it on Valentines day, how cliche can you get

 

Yeah sounds like something else is in the works here and all the good news and then no bumpbump for a month. Before you jump the gun, it is possible that something is stressing him out at work or in his personal life that you might be over looking?!

btw....

...that's fucking coooold blooded lol, i really hope you didn't think out loud in that instance lol. Anyways hopefully you can fix the sexual frustrations problem, it's hard enough fixing it while single. Good luck :sultan: