How to enjoy anal sex?

I love sex, but the guy I am with really enjoys anal sex - and I am not too keen on it. It's not that it hurts, its more that anal sex is an odd feeling, not a pleasurable feeling. I just get nothing out of it, and I think it's kind of selfish for him to always want anal sex, even though I am not getting any pleasure from it. I still do it for him though. I know many girls that really enjoy anal sex, and I wonder why I don't. So what can we do for me to enjoy it? Do many girls not enjoy it?

 

Alcohol

 

personally i enjoy it, but it did take me a while..
you just need to STOP THINKING! make sure you're still paying attention to your pussy/clit.
DP was what made me start liking anal. when i realised how much it intensifies things, i pretty much admitted defeat and gave into my resistance.

 

I was in the same category that you were, in order to enjoy it, I had to be very aroused or drunk (at least a bit dizzy) either wise it was painful. So at some point i decided to share that with my boyfriend and he found a solution; we do it doggy style and he uses his hand to arouse my clitoris when we are having sex, if he stops i continue..and usually i reach orgasm with that practice. Just give it a try and see if that helps ( at least as a soothing way)...

 

Lube, alcohol and timing - when the throngs of passion (ie work up to it) get you a degree of euphoria.
Going straight into it is bound to touch a raw nerve

 

From what my GF says you really have to want to be fucked in the ass or your inner spincter wont relax and if it dosnt relax your gonna feel uncomfortable. Anal is totaly mental for the girl the inner spincter is involintary if you are stressed or not totally into the guy or stressed because you are worried he will have poop on his dick. He wanted to be in there so he dosent care about poop so dont worry. 99% of the time nothing is on his dick. 1% is just a speck or a smear if that is too much for the faint of heart then you are gonna be too tence to enjoy it. If he washes off and pees its all good.

Pushing Back the Frontiers of Ignorance

 

ask the backdoorman

 

i'm pretty sure he doesn't care if the woman enjoys it...

 

Haha yeah I agree with that.

Is there preparation for anal sex? other than lube of course, are you supposed to wait so long after a bowel movement haha? Are you supposed to use a douche?

 

Lol

I douche when I know we are going to, but that is so we aren't restricted after we start anal.

 

But its safe to go for it with no prep. and still come out clean or close to it? I told my girlfriend I want her to see if she can massage my prostate sometime. I dont want her to use a finger or toy (if we get one) and well you get the picture lol.
Also I would want her to use a latex glove is that going to ruin the mood if i suggest that?

 

it's safe no prep just be clean about it, once you go anal don't go back to vag unless washed.

Same with oral could get sick

 

My boyfriend said he wants me to get a home enema kit. I have had anal before and never did an enema. I think its a wierd request. is it?

 

I do think its weird, but without knowing anything about your relationship I can't say if you should bother or not.

 

Sounds like you are already able to loosen up fine as it's not painful for you. Anal sex is still and I've decided probably always will be uncomfortable for me. But I still mentally enjoy it quite a bit because it gives me that taken/submissive feeling. And it's pleasurable, of course, to give my boyfriend pleasure.

He does stuff for you that gives you pleasure right?

I basically can't orgasm without direct stimulation to my clitoris so my boyfriend regularly spends a good amount of time making sure I've gotten my orgasm by using his hand while kissing my other bits. It's not like he's getting a whole lot of direct pleasure from that but he does it anyway.

 

My wife uses a laytex glove with lube and I enjoy it much better than just a finger. It stings sometimes with just finger and lube. Very enjoyable but I like the glove better.

 

:afro: It wasn't great my first two attempts but with the right person who was able to understand the need to help make me relaxed (works that i trust him too and arouses me they way he does) .... lube felt really good but depended on which kind!

Relax, breathe, don't think too much of what MAY or may not hurt, enjoy the passion of your new intimacy .....
if not, then it was worth trying for and he should understand that it shouldn't always be about what he wants.

 

I think the problem with anal at first is that a man wants to just thrust it in rough as fuck, he wants to pound it and pull hair, he is a raging beast, he wants to put it in anyhole, as he chooses, a woman is seldom into that .

I have had a couple of girlfriends who just go mad for anal, both have not minded me fucking them in the ass and then putting it in their mouths or pussies, they had sex drives like men, I enjoyed my time with them very much, though they were far too full on to sustain longterm relationships with .

Most of my girlfriends have not enjoyed anal, and if they did, would not let me put it in their mouths or pussies afterwards, they liked to ease it in slowly and gently .

Actually most have not liked my dick going anywhere near their ass at all .

Each to their own I guess .

 

All sex is weird. If it isn't weird you aren't doing it right.

I like to see the princess news readers I'm TV, looking all serious and pretty, when the night before they probably had some guy blowing a load in their face while they called him 'Daddy'.

 

It would be fair to try ramming something up your own arse and then stick it in your mouth before looking down on women who don't like the same, I feel.