35 male who is married with two kids. I have sex on a regular basis and I am attracted to women and my wife. That said, I really really am turned on by a mans erection. I crave giving a man a blowjob. Its starting to affect me sexually. Its all I think about. I've had 1 sexual encounter with a friend when I was 19 and we were intoxicated. He allowed me to give him a handjob but woulndt allow me to give him head. I have wanted it more than anything since. Advice? Help?!
I have a boyfriend, I'm totally in love with him, truly, madly, deeply. I've had past sexual encounters with women, and I myself think about going down on a girl again. If you think this one fantasy is beginning to determine your TRUE and inner sexuality then you needa think again. These feelings from your past may have surfaced again, the actual desire to give a man oral, plus if that was something you never got off of your chest a long time ago or something you never got the chance to do then by all means it's natural for you to be curious again. And if it's affecting you sexually then in what way is it affecting you? Do you have difficulties in bedroom performance now that this has suddenly sparked? Don't let this one desire rule your life and DO NOT for one moment think that maybe you could be headed in a different direction. You can be attracted to men AND women at the same time and have sexual feelings towards them. PLENTY of men have also had a wife and children and eventually realized that they may be swinging the other way, this, I don't think is the case with you. I think you are just letting your sexual thoughts overthrow you, one fantasy should not be enough to turn your whole life around and destroy your marriage AND your family. I would suggest experimentation to see how you really feel (to see whether or not this feels right for you or its just something that you had to let out and now you finally have and can move on) but in your situation that is not the greatest move. I think you should just keep this to yourself until you actually figure out if it's really worth getting out in the open. If my man told me he would like to suck cock I would totally approve and probably think it's extremely hot (and I think I'd let him try it if it was something that he's curious about and has been fantasizing about), but that's my reaction. Not enough insight to make a judgement as to how your wife could react to this whole scenario.
if you really want it that bad then try it. no point in denying yourself. there is no proof of other life, so you gotta go after what you want in this one. you're also 35, the older you get the less chances there will be, and if you deny yourself now then you'll be looking back on this moment at 60 and regretting you didn't do anything.
Nice to know someone else wrestles with this, too! Going on 12 years. Havent crossed that bridge, yet, but pretty sure if timing/oppurtunity were right....
I know how you feel i am married really would like to try one time if i wrote what i dream about i would be deleted want someone to take charge and show me what to do. cannot seem to set it up scared i guess and do not know where to go
