So me and my girlfriend have been dating for a few months and recently started having sex. A few weeks before we became intimate she told me that she has never had an orgasm. She has had sex with a few different people before me but none have ever gotten her off. I asked if she had ever gave herself one and she said no i have NEVER had an orgasm. Well I'm not very sexually skilled and am not quite packing a 8in cock either, but i have however mastered the art of oral, every girl i have ever done it too has cum. but i tried it on her and basically no response, she says that clitoral stimulation does little for her. I am not a selfish lover in anyway and feel terrible that if i cant get a girl off. I asked her how can i make you cum? she said "I have no idea, i cant even figure that out for my self" so im asking everyone here for some advise, i'm afraid that if i cant figure out how to get her off then at some point she will find someone else who will. anyone have anything for me?
It's possible your gf has a condition where she physically can't experience orgasm...inorgasmia I think is what it's called. But I suggest consulting her doctor together. As far as I know, it's kinda rare for a girl to not have experienced an orgasm by her own hand. I've heard of super religious girls maybe refrain from masturbating but I'm getting the feeling this is not your scenario. Regardless just be patient with her, don't judge her or yourself. I do have a question for you though, when you are being intimate, what's her mental state like? (How excited behaviorly does she seem?) Is her body showing all the signs of arousal despite the lack of orgasm?
She doesn't like masturbating, I asked her that too and she said and i quote "her fingers were not long enough." well idk she seems to be inexperienced, more so than she leads on, and im thinking the guys she was with didnt care to even try to make her cum. but like i was saying we are both pretty inexperienced and we did kinda rush into things. I didn't really set a romantic atmosphere either. As for her arousal, she was the one that scraped our plan to wait till valentines day because and again i quote "i need your dick inside me". what signs of arousal should i be looking for?
she needs a toy. i was the exact same. the first toy that ever made me cum was a rabbit- clit and g spot stimulation. you should buy her one. she's also probably not in the right headspace. knowing that she probably won't cum surely doesn't get her in the mood- never did me. you just need to start slow, start with a finger, then gentle oral and get her soaking wet. some girls cant orgasm from sex, so this is where i would suggest introducing a toy (yeah boys, swallow your pride, they work better). it will fill her up and stimulate her clit. she might be reluctant to play around you, but i really think you need to buy her a toy. now.
I've known a lot of girls who couldn't orgasm. But seriously, who cares. It's not your problem. If she can't get off, don't worry about it. It still feels good to her without an orgasm. Most woman orgasm for the first time alone. If she can't do it alone, she can't expect you to do it.
Most of my exes had never masturbated, and several of them orgasmed for the first time when I licked them. I'd keep licking and don't give up-she's gotta come sooner or later. All the women, I've ever licked, as soon as my tongue touched their clits, they were like 'oh, yes...good!'. But not my current wife. I have to lick her for quite some time before she even begins to respond. So, if she says she doesn't feel anything when you start licking, don't worry-just tell her to relax and keep licking her clit gently and persistently-I'll bet she'll eventually get there.
Really? Are you a woman? If I didn't orgasm I wouldn't have sex.... Don't listen to this clown if you do that she will not give you any sex because it will be a job to her and she gets no pleasure from.
How can a man tell if a woman has had an orgasm? A real man doesn't care. Just kidding. Stay Brown, Rev J
Do you know any woman that don't orgasm? There are some girls that just don't respond very much to physical stimulation. Some women have mental blocks that stop them... It all really depends on the girl.
ughh guys like you annoy me so much. guys not caring is just as much of a mental block for the said female as whatever else is going on in her head. this.
^ I'm totally in agreement with you howlyourname. As a guy, lots of girls have told me that my patience and concern about their pleasure (mentally and physically) are quite a virtue. There's a reason sex and intimacy go hand in hand. (and adrenaline too but...yeah) At the OP, you really need to create a soothing, relaxed, romantic environment. I suggest giving your girl a full body massage and then see if it leads into sex. But the priority when your women should always be to give her pleasure and relax her.
I've never been with a female that couldn't reach orgasm with Me sucking on Her clitoris, I've been with a couple of women that said they didn't like clitoral stimulation, but one of them, after 10 minutes of sucking on Her clit , it popped up hard and she had an intense screaming orgasm and seemed like she couldn't get enough after that.
