Me and my girlfriend have been going out for about 7 months now, but have known each other much longer than that, and have literally talked to each other every single day for almost 2 years straight now... but suddenly, our "conversations" have become extremely boring... like, when i'm with her in person it isn't as bad, but thats only during school and on some weekends... other than that we text/facebook 24/7 pretty much but lately, our conversations consist of us just saying "yeah" or "whats up?" over and over again... its been going on for about a week or so now... and this makes her "upset" that we don't talk apparently, which just makes it worse because she talks less when shes upset *facepalm* So, i dunno what to do... i'll give it a little more time, see if we get out of this 'rut' but if we don't i don't know what to do, break up with her? but i actually do love her, a lot... so i don't wan't to break up with her, but i also don't wanna be stuck having the same boring conversation all day every day... but i dunno if i'd be able to break up with her, like... every single night that we talk, even though we are saying literally nothing and the conversation is boring as hell, i can't ever bring myself to leave... i just sit there and remain in boredom... blah, i dunno, my idea was that i tell her we should maybe take a little break from talking to each other, but i dunno how she'd react to that, maybe she'd think i'm no longer interested in her... any advice?
Perhaps your conversations are just more narrow now as it is where you both are in life. Perhaps it is just that you have stopped wanting to explore bigger world issues and thoughts than on topics relevant to your age. Perhaps you have just out grown each other. Or perhaps you just need to find other topics to discuss that are outside of your group of friends and issues. Conversation only grows old if you do not have interests that are varied and sometimes outside of the box of where you are. Find those and start to talk again. Maybe face to face is a good thing too as it is far nicer to look at someone that read text.
separation makes the heart grow fonder for real - i couldn't see myself trying to keep sanity and talking to the same person every day nearly all the time...but then again i am not you just say you want space. explain it to her, and she could say the same thing
hahaha ohshit, i told her we should take a little break from talking, just a day or two... and she flipped shit, she was like "actually, like, you're serious? this isnt a joke..." and.. "im litterally shaking insanely right now! i cant breathe, im not kidding" hahaha never thought she'd react like that, i don't even see how its a big deal? oh well
I make cubes with random things on them and then flip them to see what's up. I have one for movies, tv shows, conversations, music, intimacy. I have a label maker so each cube has a few things on each side so I only need two cubes. Roll them, see what pops up and talk about it, watch it, fuck there. Go make a cube. =]
Sounds like you dont have much in common, or else you would find anything to talk about. Dont u stay on the phone with your friends for hours? or at least remember doing it....see people forget that one of te most important things about a relationship is to keeo the friendship, friends talk and laugh together, they are there for eachother even if hey dont talk every minute of the day.
^^^^ definitely try to distance yourself. if not for her sake, for your own safety. that's the kind of person to chop off your wang in an argument
Have an intention for each conversation you have. Go talk about DOING something, a date or something special, something fun and spontaneous. (Cloud watching, a hike, a movie, learning to cook something together). This way it'd give both of you some common shared goal to discuss and be excited about and bond over. -- But this also could be a sign it might not be the right fit. How old are you guys anyway?
