Sexual Pressure with Girlfriend

So i've been going out with this girl now for a few weeks. We've only known each other for about a month but we're really into each other and we've said we're in love with each other. She has said she's ready to have sex. She's a virgin and so am i (we're both 18). The thing is, I don't think i can satisfy her. We have had a lot of dirty messages and she is really dirty. She's sent me nude pictures and She tells me all this stuff that she wants me to do to her and she says she wants to blow me all the time and all that. And that's worried me more. Her expectations seem so high. I want to have sex with her but i'm worried. My penis is only 5.2 inches and i know i'm not gonna be any good at first. She knows i'm insecure and she's assured me that sex is the thing she's least worried about and that she'll like it because it's me but i still want to be good and please her. Any advice?

 

Dont over think it , just let it happen naturally .You are both learning , so learn together , if you go in to this full of doubts you are only going to beat yourself up worrying did i do it right , your girlfriend is just a nervous as you are , so just take it slow .

 

Take your time and listen to what she wants and how she responds to what you are doing. If you do that it won't take you very long to figure out what makes her feel good. Don't worry about your size or it being your first time, relaxe and enjoy.

Use Protection though.

 

Does she know you're a virgin? Unless she's stupid, she has to know there is a learning curve. Learning stuff together should be great fun, unless you put unhealthy pressure on yourself to know things you can't possibly know without experience.

With a good attitude, the right partner, and two (or more) healthy bodies, there is no such thing as bad sex. I've never heard anyone say after an orgasm, "Damn, that was a waste of my time."

For the love of god, would all you guys PLEASE shut the fuck up about penis size? Maybe just for a week?

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Hi Guys here is my bit from very very early on I dicovered that the penis only plays a small part (no pun inteneded) in the whole sexual relationship..
Firstly if you are in love then that is where lovemaking starts in your hearts, next comes the mouth through kissing and not just on the mouth most women love their neck, back, buttock,s legs arms etc etc you get my drift being kissed, while at the same time you can be using another one of the tools in you erotic arsenol and that would be your hands dont rush to the boobs and below there are many places a woman likes to be carressed but at the same time dont forget those special areas either just take you time getting there.
After the kissing and the sensual touching comes one of mans biggest weapons in the bedroom and it is usualy quite a bit shorter then the shortest penis. That part is the tongue I wont go int decription as I am sure you are wise enough to know what to do with it.If not there is a section on oral sex in the forums

By the time you have used all your other sexual organs and providing you have done so to her liking your young lady should be quite past giving a shit what size your dick is and will also not feel nearly as much pain upon insertion for the first time not to mention her having orgasmed will have made her very wet allowing your inexperienced member easier access..but hey thats just my experience.

So many young guys think sex is about getting her naked sticking it in ramming her till you both cum it is bullshit the guy needs to do a lot of work and if he does it right there will NEVER be ANY complaints

Jay

 

^ Great advice.

 

good advice has been given here already...
Just my two cents :

^ chances are she's doing all that because
1) she thinks u love it (which u probably do)
2) she thinks it'll make u feel less worried
3) her friends/the media told her it's what men love
4) she doesn't have a clue what sex is like but she figures doing that makes her sound cool/sexy/mature

Don't worry too much...

 

My advice is to stop being such a lovey-dovey doormat and put all your eggs in one basket before you even have sex with her.

She "loves" you now because she wants dick and you`re there to give it to her without calling her a slut...but, she will move on as soon as she finds out you suck in bed, have a small dick, and to top it all off, you are all clingy and shit.

So, basically what I am saying is, date other girls. No, what you`re feeling is not love. It`s only fear of losing her approval.

 

Horrible advice, this time. He's not ready to be a player. Young male virgins need lots of practice in bed, and he may as well get some now, from someone who is hot for his dick. First loves usually don't last, but now isn't the time to be worried about that. Looking into other options now will only keep him a virgin longer, and experienced girls will have higher expectations for his performance. If she dumps him in a month, they will at least always share a special memory of their first fuck. What's so bad about that?

 

Feminine perspective. I`m actually talking about what I would consider having the proper boundaries of an emotionally independent individual.

Feminine perspective again. From where I am sitting, women need much much more.

How does expanding your options decrease your likelihood of having sex? Not being a suck up will not keep him from still having memorable moments with this girl.

It`s not about the girls, it`s about him. Entering a relationship whereby he`s the one who has to measure up is for doormats. Then again, doormats are more successful at having boring wives and children given enough tries. He`ll have the security, regular sex, etc. It depends on what he wants in life.

I understand he`s young, but he`s asked the board for advice, and I am giving him the perspective of someone who puts himself first, rather than putting women on pedestals.

I was once 19 and in love, and I wish someone more experienced was there to offer me the perspective I am giving him now. And, I was even in a favorable situation compared to his because I at least waited to have sex with my then gf before I began throwing the L-word around.

 

You and I have a lot of sexual experience. We are talking about two people who do not. Otherwise, my advice would be different.

I'm not in a position to offer an opinion on the girls. All I know is that I've been with more than my share of guys who didn't know as much as they thought they did.

This idea came from the OP, not me. I don't think it's valid. He has every right to have expectations too. There should be no double standards. Surely we can agree on this.

If you don't put the lady on a pedestal, it's much harder to look up her skirt.

 

This guy asked for advice on how to go about getting over his insecurities about his first time with a girl he may or may not love..Telling him to run before he even got through the front door seems stupid..Telling him to look after himself and forget the needs of the girl also seems unfair..Just because she sent some dirty pics does not mean she is begging for cock or is some closet whore, this poor girl could be just as worried and confused and nervous as he is..If he reads this thread properly ommits the crap and then he should have a pretty good idea of what to do and maybe just maybe it will be one of those night where the "earth moves" good luck Rooey I hope tings work out for both of you

 

See. Now, put this little inconsistency together and you`ve got the whole reason for my advice.

A lot of guys think that way, and OP seems to think so too. The name for those guys are doormats: they end up with the out-of-shape, clingy wives, and the children and let girls like the one OP is dating now slip through their fingers...

That is wrong. Women actually come running for guys who do not put them on pedestals. A lot of guys don`t know that.

Women actually come flocking for guys who date multiple chicks at once; a lot of guys don`t know that.

At his age...I didn`t. And, it`s never too early to learn if he`s got this learning potential. Most men can only get off through some kind of beggar`s delight and staring like a deer-in-headlights at the shining pedestals they put women on.

That is all they know. It is all they will know. It`s in their genes. They are the bald, self-deprecating, pot-bellied dads who will dream of Playboy bunnies in their basements but will never fuck anything like it. Oh, wait. Wifey is yelling at them because they are out of ketchup and he forgot to pick up a bottle on his way from work.

 

The second part was supposed to be a joke.

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Just spend a good while with four play

 

Fair enough, then. At least the OP`s got some options now. Fight SOPA.

 

she's an 18 year old virgin. if you don't have sex with her, do you think you'll have a better chance of satisfying the 25 year old woman with 12 ex-boyfriends that will be your next chance at pussy?

you're telling him to take up golf?

 

No I just like to get fucked with a nine iron

 

Look, it's pretty obvious we have drastically different values (if you put yourself first, that's all you'll have in life--yourself), and that's ok...But what I don't understand is why you're presuming the OP and every other male WANTS to have Playboy-esque women flock around them, to never have children, and that if you're married, there's no possible way your wife has any respect for you.

That's a lot of ASSuming, my friend. If I were a guy, I would be insulted that you would assume that such an aggressive, selfish, and sexually charged lifestyle would be more to my liking. And I know guys who would feel the same way I do. What an incredibly narrow window you're looking through.

I'm sorry if you had your heart broken in the past, but please don't dump all of your pain in the form of a defensive, defeatist attitude on an 18 year-old kid. He may be young, but I think he can decide for himself what he wants out of life, and doesn't need a grouchy, older man who's retreated into himself to cope with the pain of relationships to mar his experience.

 

Thanks everyone for the advice. No matter how...different or off topic it got. And with the Penis size thing. I know, i know every guy says that. But when you're a virgin and you've watched porn where the actors are double the size of you. It's difficult to not worry about it.
But thanks everyone for the advice