he does not - as he says - but in her eyes he is making an effort, not to sleep with her but with a paid service provider. i think if it was just looking at porn their issue didn't escalate to this extent, i.e. counselling etc. i am just saying that i wouldn't be ok if my husband chats is sex chats, looking up women for chat and online intimate stuff, and looking up escort and gentlemen's club in the city where he is going for business. call it a typical women attitude, but there should be a line which a married person should not cross. nothing to do with looking at porn, it's about him making an effort to be involved.
Thank you for your views and opinions on this matter. It took me ages to admit I had problems, and couples therapy gave us an avenue to discuss them openly and honestly. I was for the first time, able to share my insecurities and fear as a man, with my wife. We set goals and promised to work together and be open and honest. I really let her down, and most of all myself with my latest actions. When we both felt the time was right, when we got all we could from couples thereapy, the therapist recommended sex therapy so we could resolve that lingering issue. Instead of taking the lead and initiating sex therapy, I chose to try to resolve my issues myself. I don't think a married man or woman should be acting and doing the things I've done. Your better off being single. I would be hurt if my wife did the same things to me. I do believe people can change, but they have to want to do it for themselves. If I want to be happy, love and respect my wife, and I have follow through and show her my committment. Only time will tell if I suceed, but I do love her, am in love with her, and we are the best of friends. Because of this, I know I've hurt her and really disspointed myself.