I've stopped masturbating.

For me, it was no more than 6 months for the physical urge to masturbate to completely disappear without a trace. When I went back to it 4 years later, it was out of cold curiosity- a total decision on my part to do so. Of course, a week after that when I said, 'Well, one more time can't hurt', I quickly got hooked again.

While I was 'sober' for lack of a better word, I don't mean that I was asexual or anything. Quite the opposite- I was more aware of my feelings for girls, and still checked them out. I also had less inhibitions when it came to social interactions, and would be more comfortable with engaging in eye-contact.

I read some studies on masturbation hiatuses, and they said the same thing about people taking breaks and becoming more socially outgoing.

 

does that make you a fapibi?

 

I'm not surprized. Chicks notice me more and I notice them more for some reason. I just got a girls number.

Yah its longer than a week and a half, but so far that was the hardest part. Today I woke up really horny and was tempted to jerk it but I didn't for fear of losing all the progress Ive had.

I furociously then washed all my dishes and started doing stuff to take my mind off it.

 

seems to me like this particular instance of your abstinence is not as honest as it could be in order to make it worthwhile. you should have a better reason for not choking your chicken than just because you did not want to lose progress and the fact that you had to ferociously wash dishes to take your mind off of it... are you really sure that the hardest part is over?

 

There is more than one path, but what you are doing is consistent with eastern esoteric wisdom

the meditation you are doing is important

occasional ejaculation is not bad. ejaculating during the winter time is 100 times worse than at any other time

 

i am going bat shit crazy. its mostly because i'm really tired..

 

Its not as strong for me nearly at 5 weeks. I haven't really had any heavy cravings for it the past couple of days. The urge is self feeding. Once it starts, you really have to redirect it. If you keep thinking about it, you'll just give in. Its not as strong of an impulse as the first week or so though. That I am sure of. That was painful at times.

Not wanting to break my progress did help me carry on, because I set out to do something and that's to see how acute abstinence affects me in the long run. If I break the fast, then I'll be at point-A again and have to start over. I want to make it to 3 months at least. At most, I wanna go over a year and remain completely abstinent for the whole year of 2012. I might switch to a vegan diet too. I'm just trying to clean my soul out for the potential shift in consciousness in December.

The key for me has been blocking my image search in yahoo and google. At the beginning of the fast, I did a search on something unrelated, and a picture of a naked chick in a leash fondling herself turned up, and it was like an instant hard on for me. So, I turned the filter on and haven't had this problem.

Like someone said above me, meditation is very important too.

 

This thread shows a profound misunderstanding of human sexuality and sexual behavior, as well as consequences of various behaviors.

masturbation what you make of it. This whole endeavor is a misguided and foolish waste of your precious one and only life. You would do better to learn to masturbate in a more positive way that doesn't create such a drain on you.

 

Oh god....

 

I think masturbating and spending hours and hours looking at porn is a precious waste of my life, which was more or less Plato's position on sexuality in general. I'd rather reap the rewards of libido driven creativity and insight than just waste it all into a Kleenex. To each his own though. I think there's benefits and downsides to either, but, more and more, people are acting like there's virtually no downsides to getting yourself off and virtually only downsides to not getting off. There's 2 sides to the coin in either case.

I wasn't really ever a chronic or dysfunctional masturbator. I've only been doing it in the privacy of my home 2 or 3 times a week. I'm not one of those people who whip it out at work or anything like that. Even though my habit would be considered moderate or healthy by the current societal standards, I have way more drive when I abstain from that. Different men have different testosterone levels. So, some have more to waste, where some don't. I think I'm in the latter category, so that's why I'm striving to not jack off, since I believe it drops my testosterone too much. I have way more energy and stamina in a lot of activities, which I believe is directly due to the abstinence or the will power I have to exercise to maintain it, whether cognitive or physical. I can run longer and read faster.

 

Well, the cosmic shift might not happen, but I think its good to try to exercise yourself spiritually and to find ways to function and thrive without the earthly pleasures you rely on regularly to get through life. Its good to practice a certain amount of austerity, whether relating to 2012, or 1212 or 1992, or any point in one's life. If I get through 2012 and nothing happens, I'm not going to be disappointed, but the possibility of a shift gives me even more of an incentive to try this.

 

i'm just trying to clean out my testicles to make room for a new load.

 

I wish I could rip you a new almost metaphorical asshole (the better to masturbate with), but I have recently switched keyboard layouts, and typing is still quite a chore.

 

Some of you guys seem very intolerant of my position. I think there's value in it, and I stand by it.

 

Well, I think that there's respectability in this effort. Whatever your motivator or reason, if nothing else, it's a great test of yourself. True - kicking masturbating is hardly akin to kicking a drug addiction (although I'm sure there are many who might argue with that!) - but it's a vice that has proven irresistible to most of us on almost a daily basis since we first started doing it. I think it's a healthy thing to examine our habits and really wonder if we are better of with them or without them. Guys love masturbating so much that they tend to think of it as benign and harmless - and i largely agree with that - but I think that there truly are benefits to stopping for a time here and there. It's a test.

I just finished moving in to a new place yesterday and have been so consumed and exhausted with everything that goes along with it that I haven't jerked since last Wednesday morning. I woke up this morning horny as all hell and ready to have a self-induced love explosion, but it occurred to me that I've already gone almost a week and so I decided to keep it going. Again, I think it's important to test yourself on these things from time to time. I have stopped for months at a time previously (quite the effort, initially...and quite the soak-fest eventually!), and I absolutely noticed increased focus and energy - not to mention the automatic sense of self-control that comes along with it...and that spreads into other areas of your life, as well. I really believe that, because it has happened to me.

And so...partly because of reading MellowViper's posts, I'm going to keep it up. I'm going to take what started as indirect abstinence due to exhaustion and lack of time and turn it into a deliberate test of will. I'm not kicking it because I believe it's harmful. There are benefits of masturbation. And there are benefits of stopping for awhile, too.

All that being said, I feel like an addict who is sorely missing his next hit! But this, I know will pass...

 

Of course they are intolerant. What species did you think used this message board? Did you expect anything other than eye rolling and chest thumping (which is oh so impressive on the internet)?

Go with the flow Mr. Viper, go with the flow. :2thumbsup:

 

see - even you think he should masturbate.

 

Haha, the double entendre occurred to me when I posted that, but I should've guessed it would be you who pointed it out.

 

but of course :mickey:

 

How can u reject yourself I always indulge my desires