i left my husband may 12th of 2000.. i've only spoken with him one time up until last tuesday. he came over in the morning and we talked for about an hour about our kids and a few other things we hadn't resolved. this morning he came back over. i didn't invite him over this time or last tuesday either. this time he was trying to be real friendly, i was kind of suspicous. then it was time for me to get ready for work and i was trying to hint at him he needed to leave. he says to me, "i want to give you something, just for you." he proceeds to grab me and kissed me on the neck. i pushed him away. "NO! don't touch me! don't try to kiss me! things are over and i will never go back to you.. you need to leave now" he stood there for about 5 minutes trying to say something, as i was gathering what i needed to for work. "leave!" the guy never respected me when we were together, always touching me on my body at inaproperate times making me feel ..like a piece of meat. he had my son calling me a whore, skank, slut, ho and many other things. he blamed me for having a girl with our second child. he was rarely home, too busy getting drunk, high and who knows with his friends. and when he was home he did nothing but sleep and sit around playing video games.then he was always too tired to go to work, i was supporting us with my part time job, becuase he was wasting "his" money on drugs and beer.. and whatever HE wanted for HIM. i still wonder why i married him. probably because of his promise to "be a good man,father,husband..ect" but it never happened so i finally left him and had to get a restraining order because he was following me, calling my work, coming into my work and trying to chase off all my friends. now he has a girlfriend thats 7 months pregnant and she tells my kids all sorts of bad things about me. she has never even met me. i'm scared he's going to come back again and try something worse. i live alone with my 3 kids. i'm at a loss as to what i should do.
get a security system or even better a dog dogs are great and they keep you safe tell the cops get a lawyer move in with some friends a coworker or your parents do whatever it takes to keep yourself and your kids safe i wish you the best of luck ~peace and love
i just moved out of my mothers about 3 months ago.. i now live in an apartment that doesn't allow pets. i'm about to the point where i want to leave the country. i can't deal with the stress of him again.
lalalalawyer! Time to hammer out custody, especially since his gf is lying about your character. At least if you want/can keep your kids (I realize money can be a huge issues with single parents... my mom was a single parent for a large part of our lives) Aren't breakups fun.... my mom's going through her second divorce right now, ugh.
I agree with ihmurria. You need to call an attorney. He seems like a bad person to have your kids around, and so does his girlfriend.
your first call should be to the local police department. so that they can be aware incase things escalate. also if your children are school age, you may want to talk to thier principle. you never know what can happen. i dont mean to alarm you, just be cautious. most men that are considered "hot" to women, have never really needed or wanted to cultivate a rational personality or sense of reality. im cursed because i have cultivated those things, so ill probably never end up with kids(unless they are someone elses!!!!!). but you'll get through this.
the funny thing is .. i NEVER found him to be "hot" .. he however believes he's gods gift to women. i'm also not that shallow that i'd be in a relationship with someone soully based on if i thought they were good looking or not. i was barely 20 when i married him. i didn't really want to, but his parents and him talked me into it. i never did take his last name.i even bought my own ring.. 40 bucks.. he had me buy his.. 200 dollars..:& i did have a restraining order on him. it was only for 3 years. it ended in june of this year. he still believes i'm the same person i was at 19 and 20. he hasn't changed at all. i've grown and learned a lot about how easily people will try to munipulate me because they see me as weak. i'm nice. i'm NOT weak. this has made me angry the more i think about it. he told me "i've never loved anyone like i love you" UUMM.. WHAT THE FUCK??? he has a 7 month pregnant girlfriend. he never ONCE said the words to me.. "i love you" i was never in love with him. i feel so stupid for marrying him now.
dont worry, everyones stupid. you can only go from where your at, but make sure people in your comunity know whats going on. in case he tries something stupid, you want to have established a pattern of behavior so people wont question you.
Do what you feel is necessary, but if your apartment complex doesn't allow pets, I suggest you move into a friend's/family member's home soon. I don't want to scare you, but your ex-husband sounds dangerous and very much harmful.
I bet you're not physically in trouble yet, he's probably just a top-shelf asshole, especially for kissing you when he's hitched to another pregnant lady. Yuck. But draw no line and he will gradually worm his nasty little self into a position of power. You know, there has got to be a lot of other women in your situation, if I were in yours I would find them and live with them and their kids, community style and show those nasty old ball-and-chains we don't need them anyway. Hell, I'd offer to move in someplace together with you if I weren't so madly in love with my husband. He also spends most of his time with his friends, misses work too much and spends too much time thinking selfish thoughts and watching the boob tube when he's home. But he does do right by our kids, and they love each other terribly, and we love each other. Many love songs have been written about my situation, but yours needs one like "these boots are made for walking." Good luck, keep us posted. Becca P.s. talk to your landlord- so you can work out payment details if you have to move quickly, and so they are aware of his being unwelcome in the property.
