Hello, Not sure if this is the right place to post but I'm tired of the bullying going on in my son's school, we are such a small community and it's going on with all ages but the teachers and principal seems to think NOTHING goes on there. I had a meeting with them this morning and the teacher and principal said they see nothing and heard of no complaints .... they were upset when speaking up and said things DO HAPPEN (not just with my son) and that other students and their parents give me details too. My son is special needs, this community doesn't do well with "difference", plus we grew up out of this community so they don't know us from squat! But that doesn't mean a year (more) after they should esculate! It came to a point where my son broke down, wanted to leave here... I work full time (great job oportunity) and am healthier here since there the bad influences aren't as bad here. Unfortunately if the shcool doesn't work out, I will go with my son and move back to the big city. Which sucks because I work here, hard but have lots to show for it... in the city i can work two /three jobs and still end up broke from all the costs of living there.
You shouldn't have to move , if you like it where you are . There has always been asshole bullies and there always will be . And I imagine today it's worse than ever . You have a special needs child that needs and deserves to be protected from school bullies . If it's getting really bad , than you need to have another meeting with his principal and teacher . And this time demand resolution to the problem . And if they still refuse to resolve it , then tell them you're taking it to your counties school board of education . Or the mayors office , or governors office . They will either have to solve the problem , which I'm sure they will , or you go over their heads . Make sure first he is really being bullied though , and telling the truth to you . And not he just doesn't like it there , or is having problems with the school.
One of my best friends is a juvenile detective and her advise to parents in your circumstance is always to call the local authorities and issue a report. Especially if the school isn't taking you seriously. Bullying kills kids. Serious business is serious.
Do not let this go unchecked get whoever involed as soon as possible and don't quit until you get results.
Does he have a friend who could catch the bullying on a video phone for evidence? Or maybe he could carry a voice activated pocket recorder and say the bullies name while he's being bullied. He could say: "Why are you bullying me, Michael Smith?" for example.
Yes I was very forward during today's meeting and only one person there (of three school staff) was willing to accept and listen and not to interrupt and deny. When I left he stated that he talked to them more and made a plan of action where he will watch out for my son more, and communicate better. We are on a reserve so there is a lack of options and aren't connected to the school board but will raise hell with Band council (which my family is a part of) and hopefully will have fellow parents who tell me about their problems join me and get more out of this school. That's true about the staff... his teacher I don't trust............. he gives off bad distant vibes to the community members and has fast talk/lip. I just gave him what he was giving me, he really didn't like that. I'm brining in someone with me nexttime so I don't feel so attacked and a lone.... felt uncomfortable with so many there (one was missing) but would like another person to have as a advocate.
So Luv , you live on like An autonomous, self governing ,sovereign nation in Canada ? Like an native Canadian tribe land ?
Wow that's really neat . I can see your problem now . It's kind of a different situation , in an autonomous nation . Like you said try the band council . I wish you and your son good luck with the problem . Have you made any progress on it yet ? On a side note , I wonder if you can see the northern lights ? I guess they should be getting a lot stronger , with last weeks big solar flare of the sun . Should be a beautiful light show . I also wonder what your council beliefs are of them . I read some legends that some native people view them as evil and stay away ? And others that view them as entering and exit points of souls in the spirit world . Ever thought or heard stories about the "lights" ?
describe the bullying in more detail...and the special needs part..... you could be making a huge deal about nothing...minor name calling etc....special needs can mean a wheelchair or just a kid that is hyper...kids are occasionally mean to each other and parents today are too quick to charge bullying and expecting teachers to prevent what they cannot....
i was 'bullied' in school something i never quite understood is how people have trouble ignoring bullies. i did - and no they didn't stop as such but i didn't really care. these days i try to make an example of any bully let them dig their own grave. in this case however - with the special needs consideration etc. i am not justified in really stating an opinion i just hope your son will be okay in the long run.
They have been pushing him around threatening him in and out of school, usual calling names in classroom with or without teachers present, tripping him purposelyand one tried to spit on him. My son has autism spectrum disorder but of course one of the smartest in class, but out of homework he is a little "slower"
My son is also a special needs child and as such he (and your child)are entitled to an advocate in all school meetings. Schools receive funding for special needs students and are accountable to You as to how those funds are used to assist your child. They may not care about bullying but they sure care about sharing information regarding monies received and how they are used! Try advising that you are going to request an advocate to attend meetings to help resolve issues were your son is concerned and watch how quick they respond. Again thinking of the money not your son but it will make them accept there is a problem and not ignore it. Good luck!
