quickest way to calm down?

Discussion in 'Ask The Old Hippies' started by weaverc12, Jan 31, 2012.

  1. r0llinstoned

    r0llinstoned Gute Nacht, süßer Prinz

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    full sail by ryan ferish
     
  2. eggsprog

    eggsprog anti gang marriage HipForums Supporter

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  3. mellon

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    I tend to agree with Zack de la Rocha's (RATM) lyrics "anger is a gift". But in my opinion this can only be true if we can turn a negative into a positive. Unjustice's
    should provoke a certain amount of anger. That anger when used positively can help to put us into motion and find solutions to problems. What is dangerous for me is when I let anger control my thinking and actions. Feeding the fire is counter productive. When i can take anger and use it as a tool it is productive. Some times anger when it reaches a certain level helps me to finally address an ongoing issue that I have put off dealing with. Anger is part of the problem solving process many times. It finally reaches a critical point and I say F#@K this I'm going to do somehing about it. Without anger being part of that process, many times I would take no action. But not acting out in anger, and provoking myself to act and not do foolish things is the key. When I have gotten irate sometimes I have to ask myself? Jeez Why am I getting so mad? And why is their a part of me that wants to take it to the next level? Most of the time when I have learned the most important lessons is not from what someone else had told me , I have to make my own mistakes (unfortunately). I have been through the temper tantrums, name calling and destructive nature that goes along with getting pissed to downright rage. What has helped me to deal with some of these character defects is the knowledge that this is not who I want to be. Life is just way to short to be miserable. It's funny when we see someone else act out in rage or anger it's really easy to judge them. Wow they acted like a straight-up idiot...what were they thinking? But when we look at ourselves we or I tend to justify the behavior
    or downplay the truth...lol I'm different!!! Yeah Right...One thing that has helped me to deal with anger or to get a grip is removing myself from a situation (before it gets to the breaking point) for a few minutes or how ever long it takes is a great way to calm down. But it's important and easier to go back and deal with unresolved issues when I'm calmer. Anger can cloud my thinking and I spend twice as long on something whereas if I take a short break and go back to it I am much more productive. Counting to ten, breathing, closing our eyes, rubbing our temples and shaking our heads lol exercise, meditation, talking to someone about it, swich gears and occupy your mind with something else and return later. I have suffered road rage...lol but you know sometimes I just have to realize that there are certain things that are just out of my control. My anger will get me nowhere, if anything will cause trouble. Lets face it we are surrounded by idiots at times. I rarely drive for long periods of time without voicing the obvious (f@#King idiot). But when I realized that I am vulnerable, to letting other people control my emotions, it makes it easear to break the cycle of getting mad and staying mad. Sometimes I know in my heart that that is what I need to do...calm down, but if anger has its way and I give into it totally well I guess you'll read about me in the news...lol
     
  4. midgardsun

    midgardsun Senior Member

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    take a cold shower

    or better:

    jump in cold water
     
  5. InfiniteOscillations

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    Sip some water, and take deep breathes. Reflect quickly on the situation and how it can be handled with out violence and anger. It always can be done. Even if it doesn't seem right at the time, show love towards this so called enemy. Remember, an enemy is just a friend you don't know well enough :].
     
  6. InfiniteOscillations

    InfiniteOscillations Member

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    Haha, good song indeed!:)
     
  7. weaverc12

    weaverc12 Member

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    alright, good advice everyone. and ill look at that song tonight for my meditation!!
     
  8. InfiniteOscillations

    InfiniteOscillations Member

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    I suppose it could be good for many things. But I would say its more of an up-beat song to listen to after taking a hike and you're at the top of the mountain looking over. :] It is also Ryan Farish, not Ferish.
     
  9. weaverc12

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    Oh Okay... I go on hikes every once in awhile. Ill give that song a try anyways though. I'm sure Its great:)
     

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