Ever felt like you just can't let go?

Has anyone liked someone that they can't have so much, that they end up blocking out others? That the simple fact that pursuing someone else or meeting other people and getting involved would just prevent you from being who you really want to be with? That even though you want to meet other people and get into a relationship, all you can think about how is how it won't be with that one person?

 

Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?

 

what do you mean by right?

 

The idea that is who you really want to be with.

 

Yes, I am all too familiar with this. I just spent nearly a year of my life pursuing a woman who finally told me she wasn't interested, after taking a long time to make that decision. It's still hard for me to see myself with someone else, but I am trying as hard as I can. Of course, I've been out of the dating game for so long, I have to relearn everything.

 

I know that feel eruantion. but it's hard to say. we convince ourselves that what we FEEL is right and meant to be is what WILL make us happy. and we envision that us trying to actually move on and be happy with someone else will only make us feel hollow and trapped

 

I know this feeling all too well. Looooonnnnnggggg story short. I lived in South Florida with my ex, we were totally in love, both of us were barely working though, so that caused a lot of static. We started pushing each other away. I really had no choice but to come back up to Michigan. That was last July. We let those last few months ruin a 2 year relationship. Now she has a very good job in Florida and i'm working in Michigan. It's so crazy to think about it cuz we were really good together and it's like we threw all our plans and everything we shared away in an instant. We are both torn apart by it and neither one of us can let go and it's been like 8 months already.

 

i've been there. i'm not one for regrets, but that is one thing i would definitely change if i could do it all over.

and yes you can change it. it's all mental.

 

I don't know. I think there might be something to why you're stuck on this person.

Why can't you be with him/her?

Have you ever talked about it or had a little fling together or anything?

My current bf was my high school crush. I had never gotten over him. I went and found him 10 years ago (after not seeing or speaking to him for 3 and 1/2 years)

We've been together ever since

 

that's really nice to hear. I just don't know. Something about her. I see myself in her. Sometimes all I can think about is her. When I go to bed, when I wake up. It's like I don't want to envision anyone else in my life. but I guess sometimes we just gotta force ourselves to meet other people. I just hope I can feel the same with someone else...

 

What's the skinny Ganja?

Were you guys together all ready and broke up? Or is this just a girl you're chasing?

 

the latter... unfortunately. I've been chasing her. she always negated my attempts to spend time with me. Then I run into her in person out of random, and rather than cold and unresponsive like she is online, she's cheery and excited to see me. even gives me a hug. As much as I enjoyed that moment. I sometimes wish it wouldn't have happened. It just fucked with me. Made me feel like something could happen, when I know it can't.

 

If it was meant to be then it will happen. Sometimes it just seems like it will never happen. You will find the right one and when you do both of you will know it and it will be very special, it is so much better when both people feel the same way towards each other. Good Luck.

 

all i gotta say is there's plenty of fish out there. who knows man, once you get to know her and spend a few years with her she ends up sucking!!! then what?

don't let her beauty fool you.

 

Actually I found it hard to let go at first, but then just blocked him out and got myself out in the dating area again , felt bad but seen that after the fact he truly is a perverted ass so I'm all good at the letting go part now and openly dating happily

 

I've kinda been in this situation, but I'm pretty good at keeping busy so I don't dwell on those that weren't interested. I'm currently playing a waiting game.

 

Sadly I am still in this situation.

I dated this girl for about a year, I truely loved her, I would put her in front of my friends and everything. We broke up because her friends hated me and my friends hated her, I didnt care but the pressure got to her. I was furious to have such a material thing ruin our relationship when she tried to get back together with me I didnt let her. She tried to kill herself, but like a knight in shinning armor I appeared and saved her life. I didnt talk to her for about a month after that. Then I started talking to another girl, and she peaked my interest. And me and her started dating, but all i could think about was my original love. I broke it off with the new girl, cause I felt it wasnt right to her, to be in love with another.

Now I sit alone, while they both date another person. I just cant move on for some reason. Mostly my fault, but I just cant.

 

It's all a long road to the fight for the remote. Too much emphasis on relationships. Free love, no rules, no tv.

 

I had a major love hurdle to cross. Had a fantastic meeting of the minds, lots of fun and shared interest. shared property too. It was great, however we both had some issues that we hadn't addressed which caused friction. I had a lot of insecurities that would have been hard to deal with. Anyway, it was painful and difficult to move on. The bright side is we learned a lot and grew from it and are both better people for the experience. I think if we look at a relationship as an opportunity for growth then it can render a glass half empty situation into a half full.

 

I had a huge crush on a friend of mine for two years or three years. The entire time I've known him he's had the same girlfriend. They're awful together - I've heard him say their relationship isn't that special but they stay together because their lives are so intertwined now and it would be difficult to break up. All I've ever seen this girl do is bitch at him and act completely miserable around him, and meanwhile I could make him laugh, have fun with him, have these great conversations with him, act like total kids together....I knew and I still know that I would have been ten times better for him than her...

but eventually I just had to give up and move on. I actually decided to give up on him the night I heard him say his relationship wasn't that special to him. He's one of the greatest guys I know but I think I'm pretty awesome too and I just figured if someone wants to stay stuck in a shitty relationship instead of cutting that loose and exploring other options, then I deserved better than shitty unrequited love.

I know its hard to imagine yourself feeling this way about someone else, but you at least deserve to give yourself a chance to feel that way about someone who can return your feelings.