A little over a year ago I chose to move from Vancouver (Canada) to a small island near Prince Rupert...... I grew up visiting the area, it's my dad's rez..... so it's mostly family here. There was a good job oportunity and so I took it and did the big move. It's been over a year now, still working but still am treated an an outsider. No body up to hanging out or anything ...... it's getting tough to stay here without any kind of friendship. I work a lot daytime but still go out and mingle with all the communities events. I miss my friends in Vancouver and everywhere else, people here would rather take ONE mistake I've done and try use against me for gossip rather than to see anything else. My boyfriend moved here too (now ex / close friend) and it was livable with him around, we all mingled out with the community but now it's just me again. I feel like leaving, and have done trips to other cities around me every other weekend but haven't met too many people. They all like to booze it up, get high or fuck their brians out and right now none of that appeals to me lol. I love my job, it's getting more stressful lately because my co worker left for same reasons i'm having..... now it's double the work/stress. I work in home care nursing for the community, love seeing every client and everything that goes with it, but it's just tough with no lifestyle. Not sure what to do anymore, if it's worth staying here or not...... Not really looking for advice, just ranting/expressing how I feel today. Which is blue and confused.
You shouldnt feel so bad,, I came back to a neighborhood I used to live in. Only to think Id have more friends here. It sucks. And most the people I once was friends with, I can not stand.
It will all become normal again. Just slide into the bunch and talk to people and be friendly! You can make it friend!
If you feel like it's been so long and people till haven't warmed up to you in the area or ice versa, I'd move elsewhere. Not necessarily home, but life is too short to have no friends.
Yeah it's been hard, it's a small secluded island........... and I leave it every two weeks for the weekend into the city but sitll. I miss hanging and talking with friends ...... and trusting ones, not ones who will use whatever you say or do against you to try get you introuble at work! I've b een thinking of moving, would have to wait two months of saving as where I lived before is quite the move.
Wow, I feel more unwelcomed here, most people here act like we are in highschool it's rediculous. They can't find anything wrong that I'm doing for work or other so they LOOK for things and nit pick everything I do or say. I got "few" complaints about my job, in which even the band staff (who hires withing the community) has been trying to find things I do wrong at work to give me 'warnings" or to let me go. I was already suspended for something |I DIDN'T EVEN DO! Why hire me for thisposition if they just want to gossip, manipulate and fire me for no bull shit reason? Sorry I'm stressed, just had a meeting today, my new boss said there were "concerns/complaints" but she seen nothing wrong and wont' act on it but try work towards me fitting my poisition more. I have the ONE person so far sticking up for me and she's not even from here. I LOVE what i do, the people i see here, work the hardest/best i can for them with care. but apparently that's not enough. i'm so upset, dissapointed and unwelcomed with this community and staff. dont think i'll stay around too long anymore and just return to my old city so these people can do this to someone else for once.
I know exactly what you're going through. I grew up in a small town, moved to Canada after high school, then for several reasons had to come back home. I have no one here at my university (all my friends abandoned me when I went out of state), and after having gone to school in such a wonderful place as Montreal, am finding it extremely difficult to make friends. I still go up to visit maybe once a month-ish, but it's so lonely in between.
