Alrighty, haha I'm 17 (as of november 26) and hes turning 20 (february 26) He seems to really like me. But he's really slow making a move. Could my age have something to do with it? It's not illegal, i checked. But it seems like alot of people think that 18 is the age of consent. It's actually 16 where i live.
My boyfriend is just under ten years older then me (and I'm just shy of 18) We were friends for about a year before it just became apparent that we were made for each other. Quite a substantial age difference, I know, but we are equal in maturity. We've been together for years as well. Based on my experience, and that this boy is not very much older than you, I don't see a problem with it. Just flow with it. I think relationships work best with a very slow start.
My wife and I are 6 years apart and it was never a problem for either of us. So... I don't think the age difference is the thing between you and your bf. My suggestion is that you have an open and honest discussion with him.
I wish people over legal age with less than, say, a 5 year gap (at the very least) would stop posting these threads. We have 11.5 years here and we don't really notice it.
If it's the right person, you won't notice an age gap at all, most likely. Till you get to be 80-90 and the older one dies first. Even that's not a given.
Unless a person is a minor , I think age is just a number. Lots of folks are mentally older than their age nowadays.
she is a minor. age of consent doesn't mean you can have sex with people over 18. that's still statutory rape, at least thats how it happens here.
yes , thats why I said unless the person is a minor , I think its ok , I had 4 kids , and I would have an issue with one of my 17 year olds with an adult too, and i know lots of folks will have an issue with it , but , Im a mom...and when it was MY kids , I was the typical mother wolf protecting her cubs.
Maybe a few years either ways seems significant to one of you. When I was 17, I felt it did and that was real for me and as valid as anything else any one of any age told me. My advice is: guys that age aren't usually looking for commitments or love. Don't be surprised if he waffles off after some woman who seems like a big mistake to get involved with especially when he could have had you. Guys do dumb stuff, it's the only way they learn, just gotta accept that. Also, there are so many guys who would like to be your bf, just stay open to the idea and you will meet five or ten.
actually, i'd say the opposite is true. before 18, she can send him to jail for life if she has sex with him and then changes her mind about him. after 18, if she has his baby she's stuck with it and not much she can do about it.
