Hey guys, this is my first time posting here although I've been lurking for.... years. Hah. I guess I just need some opinions/thoughts/comments/whatever on my current situation. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years, we've lived together since day 1. I'm 23 and he's 26. We're happy together, we love each other and all that jazz but his insecurities are tearing us apart. And by insecurities I mean he thinks his dick is too small to please me... or anyone else for that matter. He's actually obsessed with the idea. It causes him severe anger and bitterness towards everyone and eveything- me included. He cycles through these emotions almost, one day hes fine and everyones happy...2 days later he's totally distant and refuses any type of intimacy...3 days of that and BAM! He's flipping his shit, screaming at me, insisting I'm unhappy with our sex life, others can please me better, he's not good enough, I'm a liar for saying I like sex with his "small dick". He's says all kinds of crazy hurtful shit like that. And when he's like that there is literally nothing I can say or do to calm him down. The crazy shit is, his dick is 6"... yeah its not huge but Ive seen way smaller. I really love his dick. My last boyfriend was rather large and I hated it... there were certain things we just couldn't do (anal, for example). I try to explain that to him and reassure him but he won't have it. I also try to tell him that sex is SO much more than dick size. He just doesn't get it. He says he can't go 10 minutes, even on a good day, without thinking about his "small dick" and how he can't "please" me. This bullshit has taken over our relationship and it ruining everything. I've never met someone as depressed and miserable as he is. There's no doubt in my mind that he's got some personality disorder/bipolar or something going on, but he refuses meds and we can't afford therapy. I just don't know what to do.
To be honest, sometimes, even though you love someone it's in your best interest to leave them. If his anger and depression is affecting you and your life negatively, and he is being stubborn and won't change even though your reassurance, chances are astronomically that he will never change, things will never get better, and as he ages, they will only get worse via the stigma of old men and their penises. If it is really affecting your life that much, then leave him. To be honest, if I were in your situation.. I would. If it were something that were just stuck in the bedroom, I would be able to deal with it.. but because it a problem in your every day life as well, I wouldn't be able to put up with it. Just make sure, if you leave him, you explain it's not because of his penis that you are leaving (or considering leaving) because you love his cock.. but his attitude and perception of life over his penile obsession.
