I was wondering if there is some way to get my bf a little more active in our sex life without offending him? I dont mind doin work but it would be nice if every once in a while he did a little more then just lay there. I realize how dumb this sounds I just dont really know how to bring something like that up... It getting to the point were its hard to even get in the mood.
Honesty is the best policy.. just explain to him nicely. If he gets offended, even as your greatest attempts to be unoffensive, then there's a deeper issue
Try just laying there yourself. Tell him you aren't in the mood, or that you don't have any energy for it right now. Make him work on you for a change. Hopefully it's not a deeper issue, like seized said. Maybe he's just spoiled and lazy.
Communicate. That's what serious people have been saying here, and I agree. You start, keep working at it. Let's role-play it right now as a sort of guide... You: Hey, babe, I need to get fucked. Like, now. You down with that? Him: W-what! What? You: I want you to fuck me. Now. Hard. Him: Umm, well, the thing is, I don't feel like doing that. I dunno. It's just not something... I can't. Not now. You: (placing handcuffs on him so each hand is attached to a bedpost) Let me make it easy for you, babe. Him: Holy shit, honey, what the hell! You: Correct-a-mundo, amigo, but Hell ain't so bad. If you can't bang me like I should be banged then Imma bang you. Like this! Let us know how things are going in a few weeks.
