Thoughts and experiences about bicuriousity?

Hey guys and gals. So, very recently I have decided that I may be coming to terms with being bicurious. It is something that I think I have been trying to ignore, but am becoming more comfortable with. I don't feel the way I expected bi people to feel. I think of it more as a lack of homophobia. The way that I think about it, there doesn't seem to be anything inherently wrong with same sex activity, it only seems to have negativity because of society. I am not necessarily sexually attracted to men like I am to women, but I feel logically that it should be ok to want to make those you love happy and feel good, regardless of their sex. That being said, I would pick a random hookup with a girl and not one from a guy. But I have been having fun fantasizing about guys I love, mainly my close friends. I often think that I would be ok playing around with a friend if we ever happened to be in a group sex environment, and may even be ok with nude cuddling and heavy petting. I know it would feel good for both of us, everyone likes being touched so I don't see what the big deal is. I don't think I would enjoy a relationship with another man. I've recently been trying out gay/bi porn. Though I like watching guys masturbate, guy on guy really doesn't do it for me. However, I so far like amateur bi group sex. Seeing a guy suck off his friend while fucking his girlfriend, sharing his girlfriend, and seeing them so happy is really enjoyable to me. I would say that on the spectrum of sexuality, I'm somewhere between hetero and bi and wouldn't be surprised if a lot of other guys were too if homophobia was taken out of society.

Anyone have any comments or would like to share some feelings? I'm curious as to what others think and would like if anyone could offer any insight into what they think I'm going through.

 

I go with everything you've said. Lots of people would be actively bi if it was not for the conditioning.

Obviously you need to be attracted to the people you go with, but if you are attracted by the human body then I personally don't see what the problem is whether male or female.

I had my first m2m experience when 19, but thereafter until the last few years mostly practiced heterosexuality. My ratio has been about 2:1 - female to male.

In the last two years I have taken part in 3sums and loved them, tho it is probsbly true that the best 3sums are when nodoby knows the others; otherwise complications can arise in relationships. My wife and I have also been to a swingers club a few times and that was also good.

Take you time, go with your desires, play safe, enjoy

Simon:sunny:

 

Thanks for the response. It would just be nice if there was some way I could go for a test run. I would only be comfortable with those I trust. One of my best friends recently admitted his bicuriousity, but he said he wouldn't do anything sexual with me because he respects me too much. Besides, he's in a committed relationship with who he believes is his soul mate so I would never want to cause friction in that.

Oh well, it's a relief coming to terms with these thoughts, instead of trying to rationalize some other excuse for having them. I'm content with that for now.

 

I`ve trouble reading stuff with no paragraphs, but today was probably the first day that I shamelessly hit on a guy at a sports bar. He was adorable! I think he kind of caught on, but I doubt he`s out with it. :biggrin:

 

Im in a similar situation. I have a girlfriend and I would never want a relationship with a guy, but the thought of sucking cock and getting fucked is such a big turn on. I wish she would tell me she was into guy on guy and I could use her an an excuse to act out on it.

Ive been wanting to try it soooo bad. The closest I came was in highschool me and buddy would always watch porn and jack off together. wish I took it further then!

 

Yeah, jacking off with a friend is something I've wanted to do for a while now. I think it would be a lot of fun. My friends are pretty open-minded, but I would have no idea how to get that ball rolling. I wouldn't want to push them away by weirding them out.

 

Hey everyone, I just wanted to say that since my last post, I masturbated with my friend I mentioned earlier. He came by himself to visit while I had a break in exams. We had a lovely couple of days and it was a relief because it was the first time we had really hung out just the two of us since he started going out with his girlfriend.

He knows that I'm a closet nudist so he usually allows me to just be in boxers when we're hanging out (though a couple of times, he has allowed me to take them off). We mainly just sat around and talked, gave each other back, leg, and foot massages, and played truth (like truth or dare but without the dare, something we haven't done since we were kids). I used this as an opportunity to tell him more about my bicuriousity and learn more about his opinions.

Anyways, like I'm sure most close friends do, we started talking about sex and porn. Shortly after (I'm not exactly sure how, we were pretty stoned), we were in my room and I was looking up one of his favourite porn videos. After watching for about a minute and only wearing boxers, it was clear that I was aroused. So then, he just asked if I wanted to jerk it and I immediately said sure.

It was a very enjoyable experience. I had never seen him naked before. Being pro-nude, I found it a little sad that I hadn't seen him before since we've been friends since we were 9. Anyways, I watched him and he didn't seem to mind. He came pretty quickly and seeing him do so made me feel warm inside. I wanted to start touching him while he was still euphoric, but I decided against that.

After he cleaned himself up, he watched as I switched to some of my favourite porn. I didn't cum though because it usually takes me quite a while and I didn't want to have him waiting there. I was also quite nervous and my mind was flooding with all kinds of thoughts and emotions. I was wondering what he was thinking and was also afraid my roommate could hear us.

Afterwards we were both pretty happy. It was calming having my thoughts and beliefs confirmed. It was quite the bonding experience and now I feel closer to him than ever. His girlfriend knows about it and she thought it was amusing, but when I asked if it was possible to do again, she said she didn't see the point as we already had the experience. I really want to do it again though so that he could see me cum (It's quite the spectacle! ), but I don't know if it will happen and I don't really want to push.

Overall it was a very nice experience and he said he had an excellent visit.

 

That sir, is what I call FREE LOVE. Nothing wrong with that<3

 

The first time i was 15..my friend and i were lying in bed and we were challeging each other how far we dare to go..finally i jerked him off and he did oral to me. Then i didn't nothing at all with boys for a few yaers..but then suddenly that feeling for cocks came back. I don't go further than oral pleasure but a big cock really makes me horny,altough i'm more into women. After these years i begun to experience more with men..

 

Wow! How did you get your wife to particpate in the 3sums? My hubby would never go for it. Another couple invited us to be with them once, very quickly told them no.

 

duh!

 

The m/m experience seems to be more prevalent and accepted these days or at least the internet has brought it more to the forefront. Lately I have begun to wonder what it would be like to masturbate with another male, masturbate each other and suck each others cocks. Being a complete virgin to this type of arrangement I am naturally hesitant and slightly afraid. As far as stroking someone's cock it wouldn't matter who or what their cock looked like, but to get to actually sucking it I would have to know that they were not overly promiscuous and it would have to be no bigger than average size and esthetically pleasing to my eyes.

I envy the people that feel so freely about this subject and actually had numerous experiences with this situation when they were young.

 

i think everyone is bicurious... butttt having fullfilled my fantasy I was totally grossed out and am totally straight now lol WOMEN ONLY



im certainly not a homophobe, but recently i discovered that ever gay person Ive known seemed to have went through some kind of traumatic experience making them gay, i think its against our nature and propagation. but i do believe in free love, just not physically, i felt taken advantage of when all i was trying to do was make a friend feel better/loved...

 

that is such an obvious BS you should know it yourself. 'some kind of traumatic experience making them gay'? well, then, mister, you've solved the mystery of what makes people homosexual. feel free to present the results of your research to a science lab and see if it sticks.

i am seriously sick of hearing utter bullshit like this. i wonder if those gay persons you met themselves agreed that it was the traumatic experience that made them gay, huh? or did you go through their experiences yourself? you have first hand knowledge? you know how it feels and if it affects your sexuality?

homosexuality might be against your nature, i'll give you that, just like heterosexuality is against a gay guy's nature. he could say being with women is disgusting and unnatural and it would be true. to him.

just like the knowledge of what it's like to be a man is something that can be acquired only from first hand experience, so it is with sexuality. knowing what homosexuality is like, whether it's natural or not is something only gay guys know. you, are not gay. so you don't get to speak up about what it is and how it is and be taken seriously.

go and fucking get a brain. read a book. educate yourself, before you speak up and look ridiculous.

 

notice i did not say EVERY gay, i just said the ones I have known, were either raped or touched at a young age.. and the most hardcore gay person ive ever known i talked to him about his past and helped him understand some things then boom he goes i think im feeling bicurious... i wasnt even trying to get him interested in girls.

 

i know what you said. and what i said still stands because i reacted to your notion that trauma (rape) can interfere with sexuality. which, honestly, is BS. stuff like that happens to people. and, yes, it probably creates certain psychological problems with some persons more than others. it can even create sexual problems. however, sexuality, which is a physiological reality, not a psychological one, is not something that you just switch one way or the other no matter what you make a person go through. you go out there, get raped, and then come back and report if it changed your sexuality. if it did, then i might believe you. but you were not those gay guys. you did not experience their trauma. you don't have the right to put it in some artificial context with the rest of who they are and claim it's the truth. if that's how things make sense to you in your head then you might wanna consult someone yourself, but until you have the same first hand experience you do not know. just because someone scores positive on both rape and homosexuality does not mean the two are connected.

all you're doing with this is saying that people are incapable of getting over their hurt and that what they feel for other people and how their body reacts is not real. who are you to make such a claim? and what about yourself? do you think other people know you better than you do? what about your own heterosexuality? i could easily make a case that that's your father's or mother's fault, whether they were a good dad/mom or bad dad/mom. in any case, it's really not something that is real and part of you, just something that was caused in you by someone else. how do you like that premise?

 

youre right this isnt really my area of expertise, i should of just stayed out. anyways.. leaving now