Think for a second about how you meet someone, what you do and say when you are getting to know this person. Is it more about you getting to know that person, or that person getting to know you? thoughts?
Ideally it's equally you getting to know them and them getting to know you-- equal distribution of sharing and learning. I just like talking about people's interests, especially music and passions. I try to find common grounds.
it depends on the context. like if it's a therapist, it should be all about them getting to know you.
yeah a conversation should be about balance and equal exchange. good point. and yeah I usually go to music first, if for nothing else to find a new band to listen to!
after initial introduction, i usually do something strange that exemplifies my personality. If the person gets it/agrees/thinks its funny, then I know that they are cool and worth continuing the conversation with. Usually a controversial or strange joke does the trick.
I was sitting here wondering the exact same thing. As for meeting people... uuuh, wait. That's a good question. Once you figure it out, let me know. Okay, okay. So, just plain ol' regular meeting people is somewhat easy, if you have the personality for it. It's kind of hard for me, but that's just who I am. I accept that and move on. But it pretty much just comes down to finding something in common with a person. We all like to be accepted by other people... you find something in common with that person and then talk about it, you'll form a type of simple "clique" with them. It's not hard to get someone to talk about what they like. Now, if you're talking about datable people... I have no bloody idea.
