I am "seeing" this guy (so, not officially a couple i guess) At the beginning, he used to make so much effort with me, and we would talk all day, every day. This was back when I was still deciding how I felt about him. Now that I know I actually like him, it seems as if he's being very stand-offish. He barely makes effort, spend a lot of time with his friends, and the most upsetting thing is, he seems fine only talking to me once a day..while I'm sitting here going crazy! Now I don't know if he's just extremely good at playing hard to get.. or he's just lost interest. Help D:
You need to tell him how you feel. Be honest. If that doesn't work be standoffish yourself. Give back what you get.
There's that whole media driven cliche that guys enjoy the persuit and conquest more and therefore girls must constantly be a tease and "play hard to get" to keep them interested I don't really know those guys. Most of the guys I know range from :want somebody to love: to :afraid of being alone: when they're single and are devoted, loyal boyfriends when they're not I doubt he's losing interest. He may just feel secure that you're not and he can be independent Either way, if you're not happy, not getting enough affection, you need to do something about it He could be a cheating tool for all I know Work it out so you feel comfortable or look into other options
Yeah, listen to tuesday not me. Not good to game play. It may work but is a form of deceit. State your case rather than guess. Know what you are dealing with and act accordingly
From a guys point of view, I would go talk to him, tell him how your feeling and see where he is at. Like tuesday said he may just be content. But like said, if your not happy with it, dont not do anything, it wont fix it at all.
You assume that just because he doesn't want to talk 24/7 , that he's not interested ? And your not " official" ? What's he supposed to do ? He's living his life like he should be doing , like you should be doing . So while you were "deciding" on him , you think he has "lost interest" . Perhaps these are questions you need to ask him . Most guys don't want to talk 24/7 , i sure as hell don't . Nor go from talking for awhile to an all inclusive "relationship" , that he doesn't even know exsists . Seems like there were some fundimental steps skipped here . From (a) to (c) with (b) only being known to you. Contrary to the popular female belief , the male action figure doesn't come with a crystal ball , to know what you're thinking every second . That accessory is sold seperatley , after years of trial and error and mastering the knowledge that whatever we guess will be wrong . Cause the female brain can be so irrational at times , it doesn't even know what the hell it wants . Anyway talk to the guy , and tell him how you feel .
