More a question for the ladies... ever had a problem with getting "there" without your mind taking off somewhere else? And I don't mean stressing about work, a pile of laundry, did you pay the cable bill type wandering off. My bf's great, we have a good time in bed together. I'm really good at pleasing him... except that he wants to please me and keeps telling me it isn't just all about him. The "focus" on me makes me a little uncomfortable. The issue is that I get, what seems like, milliseconds from an orgasm and *poof* - it's like that thought leaves the bedroom, exits the house, and catches the bus and heads for the other side of town! I know it's in my head. I'm sure it stems from a really bad, emotionally abusive marriage - so bad I still didn't think about sex for years after it was over. My first bf after that was so bad in bed - his response to my asking for a little bit "more" was to completely shut down and shut me out. Long story short: I'm used to just "turning off". I've managed to keep the switch "on" a few times - which made him really happy... I like making him happy. Anyone else had a similar problem? Able to flip the switch on more often? I'm worried I'm going to be stuck in the "off" position.
I have had this problem for many reasons. The first being I'm just not turned on enough. I manage to get wet, but I'm really not that horny so it's hard to orgasm from just the physical stimulation. I must have the desire The second cause is him changing his rhythm either because he's excited that he can tell I'm getting close to orgasm so he tries to intensify it when what he was already doing was perfect. Or he changes his rhythm because he is about to orgasm and he wants to last longer The other cause I can think of is hearing his manly voice when I'm thinking about girls (usually when I'm "getting ready" in order to avoid situation #1)
