I had occasion over the last few days to recall one of my exes and his particular "thing". He had a real thing about me not coming. I don't mean that he didn't care whether I came or not - he was actually a pretty attentive lover - but rather that he wanted me not to reach orgasm and always made sure that I didn't come. He had a real fetish for orgasm denial. The very first time we were together was one of the most confusing experiences for me. It was one of the hottest experiences I had but I didn't actually have an orgasm the whole time. He kept making me hold back until "later". It was only "later" that I found out he didn't want me to come at all. I was all hot and horny and buzzing but without release, most disconcerting but very memorable. Always took me ages to come down after I was with him. The time I was with him was the longest time I ever went without an orgasm, I think it was about six months when usually it's never even a whole day! Anyway something reminded me about it so I thought I'd dabble again and tried last night and this morning with my girlfriend who I put under strict instructions not to get me off. It was really nice to concentrate on her pleasure not mine and give her multiple orgasms while remaining with that horny/frustrated feeling. I was so horny I kept waking her up for more through the night, I couldn't get to sleep (I had forgotten that bit!) but I feel great today. I don't think I could go long term like with my ex but we'll definitely try for a few more days and who knows maybe then switch it! Just wondering if any others tried this out?
Triona b, if you have the power to delay your orgasm for 6 months, more power to you. I've been with a man who wouldnt let me orgasm for a couple of hours and that was long enough for me.
haha! Yeah it wasn't like straight into it it was more of a gradual thing but I was a little under his spell I guess
I know it probably reads like that he was a jerk and maybe he was a little and it definitely *was* about control but something about him and the whole situation really pushed my buttons, well for a while anyway!
Well regardless it sounds like whether it was a 'control' thing for him or not, it obviously helped you evolve and explore new aspects of your own sexual being. For me though, as a guy, I occasionally have gone for month denying orgasm to myself and 1 of 2 things can happen for me, or sometimes both in sequence. 1. I get really horny and have dirty thoughts more so than normal. And I either relent or the step below occurs. 2. Then I guess my hormones level out and I just feel waves of energy all day that is not lustful horny energy. The best I can describe the energetic flow/rush is similar to the kind of energy that you felt as a kid that always wants to make you get up early because you were excited it was your birthday. Then eventually the world looks bright, I'm upbeat I meet someone and then...well let's just say the cycle may or may not continue all over again. --- Does anybody else have a similar experience? (male or female it doesn't matter) Also I should note that after a long dry spell of no orgasms, when the strike on O's is over, the orgasm I end up having is just that more powerful.
Yeah, you're right. That's exactly it. It was his *thing* but the whole experience ended up being pretty rewarding and enlightening for me anyway. I like your perspective on it. For me it didn't change my sense of horniness through the day but I definitely felt much more aroused and a heightened sensation during sexual situations and it took a while to "come down" from that without the orgasm
Why didn't you just finish yourself off in front of him? I can't imagine you being shy about doing that. I'll bet he would have enjoyed watching. Or, you could have rolled him over and did a little grinding on his dick. Did you ever try to take charge? Some guys like that a lot. A little tease can make my climax more intense, but I'm not going to let it end without satisfaction, one way or another.
Yeah, it was a bit more of a control issue I suppose. I'm a "take charge" kind of person in real actual life and I'm not really shy as such but when it comes to sex I'm very submissive and I do like being told what to do.
