Alright everyone, I need help with this one. So I've been going to this bar for the last several weeks, and I've noticed everytime I show up the bartender gets really nervous around me. Which is weird because I don't do anything to freak her out. I don't dress weird, or act weird, or stare at her or do anything other be a normal guy. I show up. Say hi, and order a few drinks, tip well, and just watch whatever game is on TV, chat with other people, play pool, chill etc. What makes it weirder is that she doesn't do that with any other person, ever. She's been hit on by younger guys, older guys, attractive guys/unattractive guys/creepy guys and she's always nice about. Hell, she's even dealt with belligerent drunk guys who'd intimidate me. She just has great people skills that you'd expect a bartender to have. But with me, she doesn't do that at all. She's really friendly and talkative during the initial greeting/transaction, but then she'll make a little small talk, get awkward or nervous the rest of the time, up until I leave and then she seems a little down that I'm leaving. Now, one would assume, and even I'd assume that there's a chance she likes me. I'm not the hottest guy in the world, but I am attractive. Tall, in shape, etc. If it was any girl, I'd be almost 100% sure that she liked me, but this girl's a bartender and she's GORGEOUS. It's just one of those things that never happens. Hell, she probably already has like 10 boyfriends lol. But that also leaves me wondering. If she wasn't interested, why would she be nervous around me? She's used to weirdos, drunks, and all kinds of different guys being weird or trying to hit on her and she just smiles or laughs and tries to blow it off/defuse the situation and she's great at it. Very great people skills. So then why act like that around me?
You're right. In real life you never get to bed the beautiful bartender. But since you know the outcome already you might as well give it a shot. Sound strange? Shit, life is strange. Ask her why she's nervous.
That would cause her to be nervous and weird around me? If anything, wouldn't she flirt more and be friendlier so I'd stay around and spend more money? Bartenders don't usually act like that, that's why this is so weird.
^This is your answer. She probably REALLY likes that you're a genuine person when you interact with her and it's causing her to be attracted to you. That's my 2 cents in short. In this scenario, test the waters gently, you don't want to come off as one of those guys who just wants to get in her pants. And honestly, if I were you and you two get along great, aim for starting a relationship with her rather than someone you'd just want to bed because she sounds like a great girl who is possibly a total 10 inside and out and that's rare.
Well just because shes a beautiful bartendar doesn't mean she has 10 boyfriends. Sometimes women just get really shy when they are around a nice, handsome guy with a genuine personality... I know i do. If you are interested i think you should go for it... when you go there try talking to her a little bit more and buy her some drinks (if she drinks) or even a soda or something if she prefers that and then one day ask her to dinner or coffee or something.. You just gotta work your way there and see if shes interested.. A lot of women especially women that work in the bar/club kinda thing feels that men just want one thing: To get their dicks wet. And you willl have to go slow to show her thats not just what you want. A confident man is always attractive but also not arrogant if you get what i'm saying. Good luck!
Yes, this definitely sounds like she likes you. It's exactly how girls act when they like someone and by the sounds of it you're cool enough to deserve it. Anyway, I hope you ask her if she wants to hang out sometime and then get her number. Let us know how it goes!
