annoyed? What should i do?

^word (to priss' but monk, too)

i think to word it better - you should occupy your time with some stuff that benefits to you as a person. pick up a new hobby you enjoy, start reading more, broaden your own circles of friends. do something to take you away from your girlfriend, but not in away to exclude her.

if she is interested in spending time with you the same way you are in her, she will make it apparent.

perhaps make it known to her, in the meantime your frustrations with her circle of friends, too. with you doing these new things, she might take it as a 'game' but if you lay out your frustrations and your motivation to do this, she would understand and react with a better footing.

communication is key to all interactions with people. knowing WHAT to say is as important as WHEN to say it.

 

throw themselves at me.


i would want her to have her own life, but flirting with other guys and feigning disinterest would just confuse and annoy me.

 

But i do give her "pep talks" there was a time when she was depressed and sad every single day pretty much, for months... and every single day i would spent literally hours talking to her, and every night she would feel better towards of the end of the conversation... but it started getting tiring and i was about to break up with her then, luckily she got over that "depression" phase, but she still gets it from time to time... not nearly as much though, and its annoying because every single time i ask her whats wrong her answer is "I don't know" and the sad part is she really doesn't know...

And her parents - her mom isn't protective, but she's kind of weird... she's much much older than my mom, and she's an extreme health freak, everything has to be 100% organic or home grown and that stuff, she even stopped my girlfriend from getting all the regulated vaccinations you need while in school (which sounds kind of insane, because... vaccinations are there for a reason, to prevent diseases... why would you not let your kid take them?) But she isn't controlling really... she actually seems really nice.

But her dad, i've never met before, because i've only been to her house twice and that was when he was gone for a week for vaccation, other than that she always comes to my house... But her dad is just protective in the sense that he doesn't really let her do things with me, she even told me that he doesn't like it when she comes over here... thats why she didn't last night, she was afraid to ask her mom because her dad was home, her mom has no issue with it. And i kind of consider that as an insult... I consider myself to be a pretty nice guy, i know he doesn't know me and all... but really, why wouldn't he like her coming over to my house? she's been over countless amounts of times already... he needs to get over it, she's not a little kid... it's not as if he gets all mad when she goes to her friends house, so why does he when she comes to mine?

And they're both way over protective because she has her license and all, yet they still won't let her drive unless they go with her in the car? Like honestly... that is being over protective, she's had her license for over a year now, and they still won't let her drive alone... its not really any of my business i guess, but it annoys me, i just hate it when people are all protective and controlling and stop people from what they want to do...

 

But to clarify, it isn't really her parents that are the issue, or her friends... it all leads back to her. I understand that her parents are protective and all, but lots of parents are... And they are in no way abusive, so... by her being to nervous to ask if she can come over, because they might not be thrilled with it, shows that she doesn't want to be over that badly... yet later on that night she was crying and saying how stupid she was because she wanted to come over so badly but was afraid to ask...? if she really wanted to come over that badly, why didn't she just ask...? it makes no sense to me

And how she's always afraid of dissapointing her friends if she doesn't hang out with them everyday at school... well then, what about me? Isn't she afraid of dissapointing me by never seeing mee at school?

I know she loves me and all, like... If i don't text her back for even a few hours, she'll keep texting me asking me if i'm okay or if something happened, she gets all worried... and if i don't talk much she gets all upset and cries because she thinks i'm mad at her and am going to leave her... (as i'm typing this i realized she kind of sounds a little insane... lol)

blarhaharslgjn.... I don't know what to do... I do love her, but the more i type... the more i kind of think she's a little weird and kind of... crazy...? Maybe its just me, i dunno...

 

She's NOT crazy... don't think that. The thing about being sad without having any reason for it whatsoever, is a very large sign pointing to clinical depression. Now, with her mom being very anti-medications, that might cause a bit of a problem. It sounds like your girlfriend either needs to go see a doctor, or someone who knows how to diagnose and then can help her find an all natural remedy. But do not just assume that this is what the problem is... I am not a diagnotician. But it's something she should get checked out.

I would say the biggest thing with her father, is that he doesn't trust YOU. You've never met the man, and you're dating his daughter. If he's over protective of her anyway, I could see him not wanting to let go of his baby girl to possibly go get "into trouble" with some young man he's never met. You can't really blame him.
Her not asking probably has to do with her fear of confrontation and insecurity. You said yourself that she's not willing to step away from her friends who mistreat her... I could see why she'd be afraid of speaking up to her dad. She's afraid he'll say no... that's confrontation, and it's really hard for some people. Esspecially when they're already depressed.

As for her friends... again, fear of confrontation and insecurity. She's probably afraid that if she confronts them, she'll lose them as friends, and then she'll be all alone. And you can't just say, "Well she'd have me!"... it doesn't work that way. She has no guarentee that you're going to stick around. If she loses her friends, then you blow her off... where is she left?

It sounds like you both need to find more friends outside of each other, and the friends you already have.

 

I think you need to watch yourself. It sounds like you could become an abuser if you're not carefull. You don't like her friends,you don't care for the way her parents are concerned about her and your social life is gone if you don't have her? Do you want to separate her from her friends and parents? Those are some of the warning signs. Look to yourself.

 

It sounds like a healthy thing to be going through. Ask yourself if the benefits outweigh the doubts.

 

sounds like you are a little jealous but be careful and know when to step back. don't fall too far along the continuum and become obsessed.

 

it also sounds like a joke.

 

Yea i thought she would have some sort of depression... But that kind of sucks, because like... what if we stay together, and years from now she's always depressed and stuff... Do i really want to live like that forever? With her being all depressed 24/7?

And thats true with her dad, he does't know me personally, but he knows about me, so i don't see why he doesn't trust me. He knows I work every summer, i've never gotten into serious trouble, i'm going into the military in 2 months (already applied) I think i'm a pretty innocent person, the only "bad" thing i do is smoke weed (i don't consider that bad though) i don't even drink.

And i do have a lot of friends beside her, that i hang out with a lot at school, i just don't talk to anyone besides her outside of school, but thats my choice. I'm quite anti-social i think, I don't like going to parties, or hanging out with large groups of friends, or even small groups for that matter. I just enjoy seeing her from time to time, i'm not a "people person".

 

I don't think we have to worry about me becoming abusive, i acidently burnt her knuckle once with a frying pan (i took it off the stove and turned around not knowing she was behind me, and it slightly brushed against her knuckle) and it was just a tiny little burn mark, and it was obviously a mistake, yet i felt sooo bad about it for soo long. So i'm sure i'd never be able to actually intentionally harm her...

And my social life isn't technically gone if she's gone... i have a lot of friends, i just choose not to talk to them outside of school, because i prefer that, like i said in the post above. And i'm not trying to seperate her from her friends or parents, i'm just saying she needs more freedom from her parents and she needs to stop being so worried of "letting down" her friends from time to time if she chooses not to be with them all the time.

 

Ok. I was just bringing it up so you would be mindfull of it. As I recall--high school was hell when trying to figure things out of a personal nature.