So I watch porn way too much, some days I watch around 8 hours. I've tried to stop it but in some point my urge/craving to watch porn is so strong that I can't think anything other but porn. After breaks I always end up in "pornbinge" where I watch and download porn for 4-8h, sometimes even for 5 days row, so that in the morning or after work I start to watch porn and stop when I need to sleep. Interesting point is that I really don't watch my downloaded porn that much, every time when I get the video I loose interest on it and just go to look another one. So it's about 90% looking for more porn and 10% actually watching it. I try avoid masturbating as long as I can as it will kill the feeling that I get and feel bad afterwards. Sometimes I masturbate like 5 times row and still can't get satisfaction. Also I don't enjoy sex almost at all. What should I do? I've tried to stop so many times but always failed. I've kicked many substance habits, but I can't kick porn habit. I think that I'm more addicted to that feeling that you get from searching porn and "perfect gem". As porn raises you're dopamine levels in brain, as long you keep looking for more but don't masturbate, you will keep it going. Hard to explain someone who haven't this problem.
cross addiction? did you have this problem before you kicked substances or was it a problem before that?
I had excessive porn habit long before drugs came in, since I was teen. Some drugs, like stimulants I specially used for porn watching. Used to get speed or coke just for porn, was searching and watching porn for 3 days with no sleep. You can imagine how I felt after that.
Your not addicted to porn, your addicted to collecting porn. If you got off on remote controlled cars, your house would be full of remote controlled cars. I went through this kind of obsession a few years back - not to the extent you describe, but similar. I was obsessed with finding clips of authentic female orgasms. The thrill was in the hunt - it's a substitute for actual human interaction, which your brain still craves, but that society, as fucked up as it has become, makes excessively difficult to pursue for people of a sensitive or avoidant personality type. I ask you which is worse - practicing your compulsion (and it is a kind of compulsion) in an environment where the only person you're really harming is yourself, or magically becoming an extrovert and becoming a practicing sex addict - doing all sorts of emotionally damaging things to yourself AND other innocent people. Judging from the way you're describing this problem, I suspect that you're already beginning to hit rock bottom and getting sick of your own behavior and I predict that you'll stop and pursue something else. Don't make porn forbidden fruit to yourself - it will only perpetuate your problem. This is different than a physical addiction, so don't make the mistake of relating it too closely to any past substance addictions you have overcome (and kudos for that). This whole porn addiction thing is two distinct - (I don't even want to call them problems so how about) "behaviors" that get weirdly joined together - it's the compulsion to gather and collect and then your normal run of the mill unfulfilled sex drive. The "gathering/collecting" compulsion has eclipsed your sex drive and I think that's where your no longer deriving any sexual pleasure from it. You're getting bored with porn as a hobby - it's time to find an interest more worthy of your time and energy - not a porn substitute, but a whole new interest. Only you will be able to figure out what that will be, but don't think of it as an illness. Let's say you became obsessed with playing the guitar in this manner - you'd become a pretty damn good guitarist in no time. And that's exactly how good guitarists are made - same for any kind of artist, writer or athlete, or anyone else that's really fucking good at what they do. Collecting/Hoarding is just an outlet for a frustrated creative person. You should feel lucky - some people never get obsessed with anything. Some people can't concentrate on one fucking thing for more than 5 minutes - now that's an illness. Embrace it as a part of your personality (or less romantically "brain chemistry") and channel it towards something that won't give you a stiff neck, carpal tunnel and raw genitals.
try to find that "perfect gem" elsewhere in the world (not necessarily a woman). It hurts to think about how shitty you must have felt after being up for three days like that. talk about blue balls.
try to find that "perfect gem" elsewhere in the world (not necessarily a woman). It hurts to think about how shitty you must have felt after being up for three days like that. talk about blue balls.
Porn addiction can lead to serious sexual dysfunction. Get some help ! You may want to ask your Doctor about an anti-depressant such as ' Paxil' that will help curb your urges. Best of luck !
I'm with serena3 on that - it's over prescribed. I'm no scientologist, but these kind of "medications" are prescribed far too nillywilly and the doctors who pass them out have only a cursory understanding (if at all) with regard to how they work. I used to work with the mentally ill - these medications can be used appropriately, but all too frequently they are not.
Thanks for nothing, you don't seem to understand. I don't collect porn, I delete it after binges. But yes, in the end nobody can help you. If you want to stop doing something like substance, porn or whatever you just need to stop it, no one else can help with it.
also though there is nothing wrong with porn or masturbation...the issue you seem to have is obsessing over those things.
Enjoy all that energy with a REAL partner. I'm thinking you'll need a partner who enjoys porn as much or almost as much as you do.
Two options come to mind: 1. Find a girlfriend 2. Take a medication that decreases sex drive such as an Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitor or an Opioid. I would suggest (1).
