Ok, I'm really a good girl. Only been with two guys since college. I'm 29 getting ready to be 30 soon. Both guys were serious relationships. They were both smaller to average below the belt from what I could tell. They were both missionary type guys. Both were fairly quick during sex. After being single a while I dated a new guy for three months. I decided he was serious and it was time to let him make love to me. Well that eas easier said then done. He was HUGE! My hand could not wrap around it and it was very long. He was very patient, but it hurt really bad. He worked me up very well he entered me with about half of his package and that's all I could handle. I was sore for a week aftewards. Over time he has worked me to handle much more. It still way too much. Now he has said he's ready for anal sex. That he needs our sex life to be to his liking. He desires a lot of things. I give him oral and swallow because that's what he wants. I know my job is to please him especially if he's going to marry me. How do I get him to forget about anal sex with me. He loves my butt and always touches, grabs it and plays with it. I'm a decent not perfect Christian girl. Any advice on how to please a man who is big and any suggestions on the anal? I probably will do the anal because I know he wants it and he wants me to be submissive, which i'm really kind of any way. Any advice is appreciated.
if you don't want to do anal, then don't do it. someone who wants to force you to do something you don't want to do doesn't really respect you.
I'm sorry but you won't be able to handle it. And it's not because of his size I'm saying no. It's because you don't want it. Anal sex is as much mental as physical. You don't want it and only doing it for him, you are already gearing yourself up for it to hurt. so it will and you will not enjoy it. And another thing that bugs me a little.... Ummm don't do stuff like this just for some guy to marry you. He should want to marry you because of you not because you service him. He could go to the corner and be pleased.
I agree - a relationship is where each respects each other; and that includes boundaries. If he is so big that vaginal intercourse is difficult then I don't think anal is a good idea. After all both partners must be able to enjoy sex, otherwise it does not bode well for 20/30 years down the line. Simon :sunny:
Vaginas can stretch, and so can anuses and colons. If you really love this guy and want to be with him forever, I would suggest that you tell him that you are willing to try anything, but that it is going to take time (perhaps lots of it) and that he needs to be gentle, patient and understanding. My bet is that if you both view full vaginal penetration and anal sex as shared long-term goals and not just something that happens overnight because you consented to it and were able to stand the pain, you will have a happy sex life for years to come. Twenty years from now, while all your friends are worrying about their wandering spouses, the two of you will likely still be experimenting with ways to stick it in a little deeper and not the least bit bored. We should all be so lucky.
Sounds Like A Selfish Jerk To Me, Show Him The Door ASAP.... Problem Solved...:2thumbsup: Cheers Glen.
A female friend told that in her opinion, a guy either gets to have big cock or he gets to have anal, but not both.
I've had several guys try and get me to do anal with them. It's just not something I'm into. I"ve explained that to them and so far none of them have ever had a real problem with that. You just have to be honest, if you don't want to do it then don't.
