Nearly ready to come out.

Discussion in 'Coming Out and Confused!' started by Ollie_Ollie, Mar 2, 2012.

  1. Ollie_Ollie

    Ollie_Ollie Guest

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    I'm now 21 and still not out of the closet. I feel I am almost ready to tell my Parents and Siblings that I'm gay. As I've been in the closet, I've done next to nothing with guys which makes me wonder if I should put off ''Coming Out'' until I have done more with guys? I am sure I'm gay but do you think it would be a bad thing to come out with the inexperience I have?
     
  2. yarapario

    yarapario Village Elder

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    Only you can decide that correctly. If you come out and people say "how do you know you're gay" You might have some difficulty in convincing them if you haven't tried it. HOWEVER! Please don't go looking for the first guy you can find just to have a sexual encounter. That would be wrong for you and him. Just be ready to have it thrown in your face that you can't know till you are experienced. It's bullshit of course, if you know then thats it.

    Good luck to you however it works out.
     
  3. meridianwest

    meridianwest Senior Member

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    no. inexperience doesn't change your sexuality. if you want to let others know about it the inexperience has nothing to do with it, and it's also no-one's business but yours.

    bad thing coming out would be if you're still dependent on your parents and have reason to think they might react negatively. make sure your reasons to come out are the right ones though. this is something you gotta do for yourself, not for others' sake. your sexuality doesn't really concern other people, not even your parents. they are not entitled to know this about you just because they gave you life. this thing is about you, and you only.
     
  4. KewlDewd66

    KewlDewd66 Member

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    Being that you are insecure about the timing, I'd say that you should err on the side of safety and comfort. Coming out takes seconds. Coping with the consequences may take weeks and months of your life.

    Do in your own time and at your own pace.

    KD
     

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