As I sit here pickling my brain with too much Guinness I begin to bitch. I've been with my wife for over 6 years now, we have two beutiful kids, I am 25 and she is 24. I love her very muchl But, there had to be a "but", sometimes I feel that we are heading in two different directions. I have ideas on what I want to do and what I want my family to do and she of course has a different view. I'm probably being the "irresponsible" one at times, but we can't learn unless we make some mistakes in life. I hope that Being free and taking responsiblity can walk this world hand in hand. I believe we just have to work to get to this point. Sorry you have read this rant, I needed to vent. Senk
mmmmm guinness! anyway... do you love her any less for holding different views? how are her views different from yours? will compromise be easy, and are you both willing to do so? have the two of you talked about this? all experiences are learning experiences, even if we don't make mistakes. part of what we learn from making mistakes is learning how to prevent that mistake from occuring again. we can judge if our actions are good, at least to some degree, but we don't always know if good intentions will lead to a good end. once we learn how to avoid particular mistakes, we can learn how to avoid other mistakes. perhaps failing to avoid a mistake is worse than actually making a mistake. having freedom and responsibility walk hand in hand depends upon your ideas of freedom and responsibility. the most necessary part of freedom is being free to practice the good. furthermore, we all have a responsibility to do good. if being free means promoting goodness for your self, your wife and your kids, then you are merely fulfilling your responsibilities. if you and your wife haven't talked about this yet, you probably should. don't wait until your paths are too far apart. the further the gap, the longer and harder it is to build a bridge. perhaps you can prevent a lot of problems further down the road by addressing them before they fester. it can be hard or weird to bring up, especially if she hasn't mentioned this as a big issue, but avoiding it may be a mistake. perhaps she will be relieved that you brought it up, because it shows insight and concern on your part for the welfare of your relationship.
I'm really sorry. I hope everything works out for you. You guys have to be going down similar paths, right? I mean you have been together for 6 years and you love her so you guys have to be somewhat on the right track together. I think sometimes people go down different paths because they grow. Either it can be accepted and lovely and you love each other for being different, or it can invade the relationship and make you two completely different people. I don't think either is right or wrong or bad or good, it's just life. It sounds like you have a good life and you will work things out with her. You have a good positive outlook even though things aren't that great at this very moment, you'll find a way to keep things awesome. Someone just told me today that if today you are happy and in love, then you are happy and in love. You can't live thinking about tomorrow in a relationship because it will get in the way of what's right in front of you. I don't know how much I beleive that personally, but this guy is a lot older and smarter than me so I figured I'd throw the advice in of someone who would know better than I .
