skype relationship help

She's sending him money? OK,now I really get it.

 

Oh, this is fantastic. I just won the lottery and I'm going to buy 4000 acres and start a commune. Women please write to me. You can come and live for nothing and ------see-------you can put anything on the net and I betcha had I played this for real,I would have gotten hundreds of ---OK-you know what I mean. Nigeria? I thought everyone knew about the continuing scams from there. I get them everyday. Somehow they've discovered that the world is plumb full'a suckers. I hope she doesn't get burnt too badly. ----

 

She's a Kiwi I think.

I was offered a significant amount of money for marriage in an airport once. A young girl could probably get a lot more. I dunno why she'd pay a guy, she needs to flip the script.

And there really are a lot of scams from Nigeria, but if you were making $50 a month you'd take a chance with someone crazy girl in New Zealand too.

I don't have a problem with it per se, they're probably both getting what they want out of the deal, which is she something exotic and forbidden and he an ATM.

Or maybe they are in love, people can make strong connections online. I doubt it though.

 

Doh! changed it.

 

Can you guys say that you wouldn't do something similar in that situation?

If I was from a developing country, I'd pimp myself out over Skype so my family could eat food in the long-run.

 

If her friends as cute as she says, I'd do her now.

 

Something I've always like about a crazy lady.

 

I didn't send money, but the process is very long like years. And just because you are married doesn't guarantee he will get in.

And it costs thousands of dollars a well and they can still say no.

Just try to be there for her. maybe "help" her look into it with your immigration soooo she can see

 

a whole heap of scams do indeed come out of nigeria, but not everyone there is corrupt. it's a very poor country for most people and life is indeed hard, who knows, he could be genuine after all. ive had a few nigerian friends and they're lovely people, she's lucky that she has you as a family member and friend to look out for her if things dont go as she anticipates.

 

We see these scams daily here in South Africa and 9 times out of 10 it's a Nigerian involved , dont send money , dont get involved , dont give out your bank details, cell number nothing .He doesn't love her -he loves her money .

 

You've said that she is 19 and a student. Is she still living at home with her folks? Is she paying for her internet connection? If she is still at home and her folks are paying for the connection, CUT HER OFF!! Kill the internet for a fortnight or so. She'll kick and scream but if she isn't paying for the connection there is nothing she can do about it.

I almost guarantee that this guy won't still be there if he's had no contact from her for a few weeks.

However, if she lives alone and pays for her own life and connections, there is nothing you can do. She'll just have to live and learn. Luckily an airfare isn't going to bankrupt her for life. I highly doubt that this guy is ever going to show up in New Zealand. So she'll learn a life lesson from it.

 

She lives with her parents but pays for the net connection and board hahahahaha but i like how you think! well thank you so much for this yeah im stilll hoping for the day she tells me she was an idiot all this time and never again...but that day still hasn't come :\ its ok, ill convince her one way or another. thank you so much

 

True i get where your coming from, but thats why its always great to have people like me in families...so we can ruin those free loaders bullshit.

 

thank you so much, yeah im def going to try this out, never crossed my mind :\ ill hold my mouth with attacking her about him thanks hon hehehe

 

She has already sent money before :\ but im trying everything i can, shes as stubborn as me and is on a 'ive found the one buzz'. Even if he does come here because she pays his ticket, the men in my family will beat the shit out of him for taking her money, a scam or not. But its so obvious it is! smh right now she has shit for brains :\

 

Thank you everyone for all this advice I intend to try it all...cross your fingers and toes with me that she sees sense before she gets fucked over...thanks again

 

looks like she's getting robbed. as long as she's spending her own money, maybe she can learn the hard way

obviously, if he really didn't want her to send money, he wouldn't be telling her about all the hardships he has

just make sure she's not in her parents will. if anything should happen to them and she gets the money, suddenly her bf's mom will need surgery urgently, but of course, he doesn't want her to send any money...

 

It's quite simple Minx, tell her to change the way she is sending the money. For instance convince her to send him a plane ticket rather than cash, unless Nigeria has an ebay for airline tickets to NZ the plane ticket will have little value to him if he is scamming. Or better yet, make a long distance call to his medical school and such, check his credentials. Nothing beats hard proof.

 

it's hard to know anything for sure, but i guess the only thing you can do is guide her in the right direction and let her decide for herself.. we all have to learn from our mistakes

Much Love, TP