Did she have better sex before she met me?

My gf gets pissed and walks the line of throwing tantrums if she doesn't orgasm, and she only finishes from penetration (using a toy by herself isn't even reliable for her). Her perferring penetration is really hot and I like it, but it's not easy to always last longer than a woman, and her reactions ruin the fact that we were just having good sex that made me cum.

We have sex about 5 times a week and most of the time she finishes first, but she only remembers the one time that week that she made me finish first and acts like its a problem. I finally got annoyed b/c it should be great that we are even having sex, and she said, "it's frustrating b/c I've always finished everytime I've had sex".

is this even possible? that every guy you ever hooked up gave you an orgasm? and since she finishes from penetration only, that every guy she has slept with can always last longer than a woman? is she trying to be manipulative?

 

That's really weird to me.

I think making your partner feel guilty for their sexual performance is just plain unkind so that makes me think she might just have some unpleasant personalty trait that drives her to make you feel inferior and insecure

I could be wrong

 

Whether or not she's being manipulative or not, whether or not it is true that she always "finished" before...she is still being an absolute bitch about it. If there's a problem I would imagine it would be good for her to figure out if there is another way to solve it or if she could just get over her own ego and realize she is not entitled to an orgasm every.single.time...if she's not comfortable with that she needs to be a rational adult and talk about how to try new things to make it happen.

Just curious how long are you lasting? I mean if it's something really short I understand frustration, but there's no excuse for a pissy attitude. It seems like you would otherwise have mentioned if you were not lasting very long...it could also be a hormonal or emotional/intimacy problem.

 

Possible but highly unlikely.

 

i last around 15 mins typically once we get to penetration. Some times it's 20 and some times it's 10. Yesterday morning, which prompted this exchange, was a little under 10 mins.

 

I couldn't have put it better, or more polite.
That would be a deal-breaking personality trait, for me.

 

That sounds pretty short to me, but that's still no excuse for a nasty attitude. Communication is important..."if there's a problem, what can WE do to fix it?" I don't think it is anyone's responsibility to please another person, especially if their standards entail one specific outcome. If she wants something more, she needs to be willing to work with you to get it...

 

I don't think 15-20 minutes sounds particularly short.

 

Maybe it's just me then... I'd have to be seriously deprived or it'd have to be some super amazing sex for me, to be only 15 minutes long...it happens, but I'm typically into longer sessions.

Nevertheless...if it wasn't I wouldn't be a bitch about it.

 

She doesn't know how good she's got it. Many of us are lucky to have sex a couple of times a month. She sounds incredibly immature and should be less selfish about sex.

 

I'm gad to hear this behavious is annoying you and you sound like you're actually bringing it up with her and doing something about it. I've just gone through a few girlfriend woes posts and I'm a little tired of guys who will post their complaints on the internet but lack the bals to bring it up with their gf directly (I do both).

I think being in your situation would suck and I really hear you when you say 'it should be great that we're having sex'. For me one major thing a gf has over casual sex is how awsome I feel after. Their is no awkwardness, no 'should I stay or go' or and BS like that it's just two people who love eachother laying there after sharing an awsome experience every single time.

As for her not coming and bitching about it I think she is being vindictive and immature about it. The way she is bringing it up with you sounds tactless and if anything will make you more self concious in the bed. Furthermore I don't even see why she cares so much if she doesen't come every so often. I've had some great sexual experiences where I didn't come and in the case of my gf if I make her come but I don't come then I still feel good after the encounter because I satisfied her. TBH it sounds like you're just with a girl who isn't ready for a relationship as hard a pill as that can be to swallow.

 

She uh bitch.

 

This chick has issues and too much baggage.
Send her away.

 

Send her over here I'll make you look like a stud.

jus joking, she kinda sounds like a bitch

 

In response to the thread title: Probably.

 

stfu IDIOT . orgasm is a woman problem always . if the woman don't want to cum . she will never cum . NEVER . doesn't matter dick size and stamina and other bullshit . if she is depressed or something else can't make her loose . she will never cum. always had great sex , i am a stud . great size long stamina . but they always need so much time to cum . But when i focus on emotional and slow play sex . they come so easy and many times . in shorter time . for them is is like was a hour sex . but in reality was only 20 min sex .