This earth has 7 billion people an yet, I feel so isolated

I travel via metro in our nations capital every day. I come across 1000s of people. And yet, I feel more alone than ever. Why?

Maybe it is because everyone strikes me as cold, having these these blank robotic stares in their eyes.

Sometimes I strike up a conversation with someone who seems interesting. But even connections with people these days seem fleeting, like they could instantly throw out a deep meaningful exchanges like yesterdays trash if they really wanted to or if the effort to see you is suddendly too inconvienient.

I am 27 but find it hard to identify with what most 20-somethings find "important".

I just, think I enjoy my own company the best.

Anyone else?

 

sad isnt it? and here i thought things were getting better and the truth was getting out online (the reason theyre trying to pass legislation to censor the internet)
noone cares about anything but the grind it seems

 

Your path to finding what makes that little ball of emptyness, is still going...

You will find it.

Though you know, everyone enjoys the company of themselves most. Who do you go to with problems? Yourself first. Who do you ask for opinions first? Yourself. When you are bored who do you ask for an idea? Yourself.

 

i'm similar. i'm getting better at looking past people's bad qualities and liking them for their good qualities though.

 

I don't share too much in common with normal people, but I've got my family and here plus a few friends I can connect with so fuck it. Life's good.

 

Define normal?

 

I Noticed This Trait The First Day I Met You...



Cheers Glen.

 

nor·mal

   [nawr-muhl] Show IPA
adjective 1. conforming to the standard or the common type; usual; not abnormal; regular; natural.

2. serving to establish a standard.

3. Psychology . a. approximately average in any psychological trait, as intelligence, personality, or emotional adjustment.

b. free from any mental disorder; sane.



4. Biology, Medicine/Medical . a. free from any infection or other form of disease or malformation, or from experimental therapy or manipulation.

b. of natural occurrence.



5. Mathematics . a. being at right angles, as a line; perpendicular.

b. of the nature of or pertaining to a mathematical normal.

c. (of an orthogonal system of real functions) defined so that the integral of the square of the absolute value of any function is 1.

d. (of a topological space) having the property that corresponding to every pair of disjoint closed sets are two disjoint open sets, each containing one of the closed sets.

e. (of a subgroup) having the property that the same set of elements results when all the elements of the subgroup are operated on consistently on the left and consistently on the right by any element of the group; invariant.

 

I found myself in a situation like this...and then I decided to stop being such a bitch and looking down my nose at the world. I find myself a much happier individual now. And no, I'm not trying to be condescending, I'm just being honest. I grew up and stopped thinking I was better than everyone else. And while I still know and regularly acknowledge that there are many people who I still don't want to associate with, I try not to judge people by their covers and I try to give just about everyone a chance. There are a lot of shitty people out there...but there are a lot of really really good people who will bend over backwards to help you out.

 

That's a part of it sure -- but it's also a question of compatibility, power, and lifestyle.

There are so many people that just don't have a voice anymore. Don't have a say. Or even if they do, don't feel that way.

The mainstream is more powerful than maybe ever; and it's hard for the outcasts to stay connected/find brethren if they don't fit in with the cliquey, faddy sub-cultures.

Then there is the bigger issue of lifestyle. The world has become so fast-paced, so ego-driven, and so single focused; that many of us just can't connect with the majority of peoples, or if we can, it's for a mere second, while we're convenient. Everyone is so on track, at such speed, that those of us that the slackers, the wanderers, the lookers and thinkers are left lonely walking down the shoulder of the human highway.

 

The opposite to me.

Seriously though, I've found that I have very little in common with most people in general. Be that the so called "normal", or common people, or people that many common people would describe as "abnormal", or "freaks". I feel like I don't fit in with any group of people at all...

 

how can people get so unkind?

 

In my experience, very easily. Then again, I have witnessed far more unkindness from people, than kindness.

 

The kind that interest me.

 

I hear you, Carl.

I have pretty much felt like an outsider my entire life. Sometimes I couldn't see it being any other way, yet lately I have found myself desiring real companionship and friendship with people I can actually relate to and have decent conversations with, which doesn't ever really seem to happen, and part of that is because I rarely meet new (much less interesting) people. I often wonder if I was around more people, I would find common ground with some of them. Or perhaps I would just come to my final conclusion that most humans do suck after all, and that living a hermetic lifestyle is indeed the way to go. For the longest time I was convinced that I didn't really need people and that I was better off by myself, but as I have gotten older I have reevaluated things, and in some ways I feel the same way, but I also believe that life isn't enjoyable always spent alone. I enjoy solitude more than most people, but I also would like someone (a woman) to share my life with, who has similar views and interests as me. As I get older the prospects of that ever happening seem increasingly less likely.

Most of my "friends" are really acquaintances and people I am forced to deal with on a daily basis. I don't really share much in the way of common ground with anyone I know IRL.