How Often Have You Been In Love

I'm, unfortunately, on of those Jerry Maguire types. I don't think I am happy unless I am in love. Though, it can be a touchy line between love, and infatuation/initial excitement.

One of the happiest times of my life was when I was married, but so was one of the unhappiest. I wish I had learned earlier to grow up and do a lot of things different, but each experience leads us to the next. I am just glad I have always found someone to love. Or else, what would be the point? Spread the love, spread the joy.

 

Just once, long long ago (like four years). I've never really recovered from that breakup to be honest, that girl was my downfall. Ever since then I've been alot more guarded, and I've probably broken a few hearts because of it.

Love is such a crazy thing, I feel like something that powerful is not meant to last. If I do find love again, it would certainly not be like the first time. We were too young and naive.

 

ysir, I wish I could give you a hug.

 

To the OP, i kinda feel like you. Though in more of a protective sense, I don't like to open up . I've been "in love" twice and been let down twice, no one elses fault but mine. I let my expectations and a wanting to be loved get ahead of me, which clouded my judgement and bend my heart strings a bit. I've learned from my past loves and wish them the best. I rather be single then live with false love, so I'm just going with the flow atm and it's great (so is the sex lol)!

 

Twice...

The first was a three year relationship that ended because of a difference of beliefs. We still loved each other, but love isn't always enough to keep a relationship going. At least we're still close friends.

The other was... hard. I fell in love with my best friend, and she didn't reciprocate the feeling. It caused a lot of drama in our friendship that we're STILL trying to sort out.

Love is a bother... sometimes I wonder if it's worth it.

 

I thought I was a couple of times, but age, experience, and perspective have shown me that that's not what it was... wasn't lust, but settling. So, once for me - and I broke it off. I still think about him, every day. I know he still thinks about me. Unfortunately, there are issues bigger than love alone can conquer. I find myself more guarded than I used to be...

I'm seeing someone awesome now... not a love at first sight deal but affection that is slowly growing. Maybe that makes a difference?

 

I can understand this because I also, don't like being touched. Now its not all the time for me, but most of the time I don't. My past girlfriends have been very mad about this. I just can't help it though. After so much touching it just gets annoying.
Now, I have been in love once, but I made a big mistake with that relationship, in not going back with her when she wanted me back. She was my first love, and so far, my only true one. She is such a sweetheart. I miss her so bad and think about her a lot. Letting her go is probably the biggest regret of my life. But I hope to find someone I love again.

 

So, you're lying down but wish you were standing up... Gotta keep trying girl, or that's all you'll be doing is wishing...

I'm nearly to my thirties and I thought I had been in love a couple of times until lately- when I actually DID fall in love with someone that I had known as a friend-of-a-friend for nearly eight years... Before that though, I had to go through a lot of heartbreak, had to try on about ten or eleven different women, and only after my heart and psyche had been broken so many times there were pieces missing, only after that point where I was not only ready, but EXCITED, to live the rest of my life single and grateful for it, did I find Jean, and it's amazing, this feeling of love. It even overpowers the vast time and distance between us because it's so certain that it's willing to wait for her. That feeling is priceless.

Some of us get lucky and find that one early. For the rest of us, all it takes is time and experience. Don't be afraid to have fun along the way, keep your mind open, and don't be afraid of being single. I think that you've got to be a whole person all by yourself before you can truly be happy.

 

Love - lol

I lived my whole life searching, seeking That One - and fell in love 3 times.

I shoulda stopped at 2.:devil:

I am like a plant or something...and quite content with the Love I get from my animals. :2thumbsup:

 

Yea, animals won't let you down...there was a French philosopher (don't remember who) that said, "The more I learn about the human race, the more I love my dog". He was right. If I want some real affection when I come home, I don't go to my wife (cuz I don't get much from her anyway)-I just hug my dog. I know she'll always love me.

 

Yeah - and there is none of that "Why did you say that? Why did THEY say that? Where did you go? Why?" Needless to say, I could go on and on. lol

When you talk, you talk too much...and when you don't, it's like "you never tell me how you feeeeelll anymore."

I'm way unlike most women in that I'm not all that interested in how somebody feels or WHY they feel like that....and I'm not interested in explaining myself. R/l and relationships and me are for the birds. lol

Animals are a different thing (relationship material) altogether.

 

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I voted 4 to 5 times because I've been in love with five girls so far. Well, those are the ones who have made the strongest impact on my life so far. There was also this one other girl who I had a pretty long term crush on, on and off over the course of probably 10 years. The way I am makes me get all head-over-heels pretty easily. Sometimes, falling in love to me is a suicide mission because of this. But you know, I wouldn't have it any other way, even if it actually DOES kill me eventually.
Oh, and I'm in my 30's now.

 

I thought I was in love, but now I'm starting to doubt it.

 

I was in love only once

 

Ah, now....

Every relationship has it's ups and downs and those points where you just totally accept each other, warts and all. Those "times" of testing can be damn hard.

 

once.

 

I've always been concerned about how another person feels, what's going on with them, etc., and I've come to the conclusion that most of the time and energy I've spent doing that was just plain wasted.

My current wife is constantly talking about 'how she feels about herself' and 'how she feels about herself today compared to yesterday' and other meaningless, self-centered crap. I've never been the kind of person that will just tell someone to bug off and that I don't have time to listen to them, but with her, I've got to where I'll just say, 'look, I just don't have time for this crap' and go to work, or whatever else I have to do.

If people like her would spend more time thinking about others and how they can care about other people, and doing something productive, they wouldn't have time to be all wrapped up in their 'feelings'-you'd think with 3 kids to take care of she wouldn't have time for it anyway, but she manages to find time somehow. People like that, you can't count on them anyway, because they're too wrapped up in themselves. When you've got a problem or things are down for you, they get up and boogie, because they're just thinking about themselves anyway. Your dog will never let you down. One of my students is always complaining about how lonely she is, because she doesn't have a guy-I tell her, 'honey, you ain't missing anything....'

 

The fact that you doubt it doesn't necessarily mean that you weren't then.

 

Never, I've had plenty lust, and one girl that might have been more, but I already knew that one wouldn't work.