gay relationship advice. new to this

Sorry this is so long. Just hoping for some advice from people who have been in a gay relationship as this POTENTIALLY may be my first (and as such I might actually be a bit over-eager about it...). I'm starting to develop some huge infatuation problems with this guy (though from my prior girlfriend relationships I know to keep it hidden, so I'm not over-texting or anything), and I'm wondering if anyone can tell me if this guy seems like he likes me or not. But here it is:

I met this guy online. He's hung out with me twice now in two days (probably adding to this insane clingy thing that's starting to develop with me). First time was two days ago: we just hung out for about an hour and talked, made out a bit, and furthest we got was just exchanging bj's (very brief though cause he said he doesn't like giving bj's...). Then I hung out with him yesterday again, and we just chilled.... tried having sex but then he did the whole "i don't like giving bj's" and "i don't want dick in my butt" and then he himself got soft.... so we just chilled in a hot tub. He tells me its cause he whacked off earlier, but really altogether gave me the vibe like he doesn't like me (he didn't say it, but he doesn't seem to like to kiss too much either... just vibe thing, he seems to pull back a bit and keep his mouth very closed and stuff). He also doesn't text back much when I text him (usually like 1 to 2 hours after I send him a text he'll answer).

But at the same time, he does weird things like tell me about how he's looking for a relationship, and that he has nobody else he's interested in right now, and tells me to call him as soon as I get home everytime. It actually looks like he's trying. I do realize I'm falling too fast for the guy. He's exactly my type, and hillarious to talk to, and we click like friends really. Thing is, I decided today maybe he doesn't like me and I won't msg him again, and he goes and sends me a text out of the blue asking me how i'm doing. So whats up with this guy? Note, according to him, this would be his second relationship, first one lasting barely a month (so its not like he's completely new to this...).

This may be relevant, he also said he's usually not into non-hairy guys (i don't have much body hair)... but he's also the one who messaged me first online. According to him he wanted to "try something different"....

Am i keeping my hopes up unnecessarily?

 

'don't like giving blowjobs'? 'don't like a cock up my ass'? and additionally doesn't seem to like kissing much either? you ain't got much left after that. and the fact that he just dropped sex without suggesting any alternatives is a damn sure sign he'd rather not do it with you if given a chance. a gay guy may not be into getting fucked, he might not even want to blow you (though that is a rare one) but there are other ways to engage in sex. something a gay guy doesn't do however is not have any sex at all with a guy he is interested in.

sex isn't all the relationship is about, but it's a damn big part of it. and if you're with someone who doesn't like to share his body with you then that's not gonna be grounds for a healthy relationship.

it sounds like he isn't interested in you much. if he were he'd have no problems getting physical with you, he'd want to do it. for now, it seems like he isn't getting any from elsewhere so he uses you when and how it's convenient for him.

i would try not to get any more attached to this guy. find a man who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with him. keep this thing with this guy on a friendship level only if you can. if not, i would just stay away. he may do things from once in a while to make it look like he wants to be with you, but once he finds someone better he'll move on and you'll be left even more crushed than when cutting it off here and now.

 

He's not gay, just experimenting

Sex isnt the most important thing, bullshit, you at least want to start out unable to keep your hands off each other, otherwise what is it a whole bunch of talking about your feeoings and hopes for the future yawn. Ad to that you want them to be all into, makes you feel shitty if they 'dont want to do everything'

Not that they have to, especially fucking, A lot of guys arent into that. But blowjobs? Gay and doesnt like a good ole furious 69, that doesnt make any sense.

And kissing is the best way to tell if they are actually gay or not

Fuck him off and find one that will give you a big passionate kiss which will instantly get him rock hard which will lead to giving each other sucky sucky for hours till yiu both cant take it anymore and your nuts are sore for three days after


Anything else is bullshit

 

now that makes for some hot mental images right there

 

Dude:

like tell me about how he's looking for a relationship, and that he has nobody else he's interested in right now,

I guess, the guy has been trying to be honest from the very beginning. He HAS BEEN looking for a relationship alright. He has NO ONE he is really interested in right now. You could be one of his choices but he ain't really sure at all. It looks like, you are as good as it gets for the time being... Not who he really wants but a cool guy to hang out with (until someone more to his liking crosses his path).

A dude may be a total top as in giving NO BJ and taking NO dick up his tail. Fine.

But if he feels like a relationship, he'll be happy to have sex with his future BF. Possibly in the way, he defines sex, but yeah, he would want you to enjoy his skills and prowess. Since he may really not be that much into the whole relationship thing with you, he has limited his sexual activity to close to nil. That's a clear signal of how he feels about this whole thing.

Give him time and space, and look for someone else. He may change his mind, and come back racing after you. But that's his call to make...

KD

 

When I first came out I did not like to give bj's or use anyone's backdoor. I later quit quickly found out that I had no idea what I liked or did not like. Maybe he is still fresh, maybe your (and please do not take this the wrong way) hygiene is not up to par? Just something to think about. Also maybe if you get another chance to be sexual with him, try to change up who is in charge. If it has been you making the moves, be open and let him decide whats next. If it has been that way, then take charge and don't give him a chance to decide what he want or go soft, just put it to him! Or if there has been to much direction, try to just chill and go slow or just let things happen as they happen. Hope this helps.

 

To the last poster, I make a living working hot steel and glass, mostly glass now a days and am a sweaty, nasty boy and I have never really had much issue. As for the cock sucking I love a nasty boy, somthing about that dick sweat it is a huge turn on, wow if I am up all night boozing sucking a nasty bottle plant worker, when I wake up and smell that smell all over my lips, breath and fingers I am all ready to go again...

That extreme perfect personal hygeine shit is a modern take on a fucking leather and levi's castro clone (not to say leather and levi's aint hot as fuck), Most gay boys are not trifled by such silly shit.

Be careful man, as vanilla said a gay guy not interested in a nice good old fashioned 69 is straight up questionable.

 

Back to Lostdazdintime, I glad you know what you like, as do I. Some people are not so fortunate. All I meant with the hygiene thing was that maybe that guy is more like me than you when it comes to smells. I was merely trying to help him with reasons of why someone might turn away, and if I caught a whiff of balls that have skipped a few washings... well lol. And I am not "trifled" when it comes to being clean. It comes natural to me, and on my sweatiest days my smell is something to be desired

 

The problem is that this guy is "exactly your type." You can have a relationship with a man, but you can't have a relationship with a type. His type seems to be hairy guys, and you say that you aren't very hairy.

On a purely physical level, he's very much your type but you aren't his. That is not a hopeful sign. He doesn't seem to be as interested in contacting you as you are interested in contacting him. This is not such a good sign. Frankly, I think the whole idea of types is wildly overrated. If he weren't "exactly" your type, you probably wouldn't put up with much of how he's treating you. And the fact that you're not his type--you're not so hairy--might be part of what's keeping him from getting to know you better.

He has had only one relationship and it lasted "barely a month." He's not completely new to this; he's just almost completely new to this.

This guy probably just wants a friend. He's not exactly begging for your bod. I wouldn't offer him any hot manlove unless he makes some major moves.