And still I can see a lot of good coming out of being honest in that situation. Assuming she is going for a job interview, your comments could win her a job. And many people would say that simply to be honest is to be moral - your sister might just appreciate your honesty.
Exactly. I can only speak for myself, but I'd much rather be told things as they are. The brutal truth if need be. Rather than have things sugar coated in an attempt to make me feel better which usually doesn't work anyway. I always appreciate honesty, even if what I'm hearing is something that's unpalatable and hurtful. Dishonesty is something I can't respect, even if done with "honourable" intentions.
It is unfortunate, but most people can't handle the truth (all movie quotes aside please ) I know who I can and can not lie to. I never lie to people I care about and I never sugar coat anything with them, either. However, I am a good judge of character...I know the people who can't handle honesty. And I'm not saying I lie to them...but I will stop being honest (or stop talking all together) depending on the circumstances.
There's a difference between honesty and disclosure. Honesty is to be truthful. Disclosure is to spill the beans. Honesty is almost always a good thing (except in those 'rare' cases where being honest will get someone killed, hurt, etc.). Disclosure can be a mistake, depending upon the circumstances.
i was asked of an occasion where it may have been unsuitable assume none of the above you know she loved it it would break her heart to know you didn't. anyways - i'm a consequentialist i believe so long as the result is moral the act can be unmoral.
people who tell me i'm wrong anyways are dumb there are no right or wrong answers. if one believes this one believes we all adhere to the same values values they perceive in which case they are a tyrant and this is unmoral leadership at its core :mickey:
What does the truth matter anyway? You're talking about your own feelings, which more than likely came from somewhere else - your sister did you a favour or was nice to you, or the coat manufacturer killed your dog. If you say "I don't like it" and it's true, you're still not telling her why you don't like it. You'll never get to the real truth of the situation even down to the biochemical or quantum level of explanation. Maybe these 'immoral' people realise this shallowness of truth, and that more important are your sister's feelings with what you are about to say to her. But in fact our love of truth comes from this exact same place, to be employed as a mantra when it is most convenient.
I was going to make THAT movie quote, so be glad you stopped me in advance! lol I think because I'm in an eternal state of pain, being told something I don't want to hear can hardly make things worse for me. Also more importantly, I've always felt that you should always treat others the way you wish yourself to be treated. I wouldn't want anyone to lie to me, so therefore I myself would never lie to anyone else.
i have to lie everyday it,s part of being an addict. i,m not proud of it at all. but so far no one else is being hurt.
All I ask for when I pray, steady rollin' woman gonna come my way. Need a woman gonna hold my hand, won't tell me no lies, make me a happy man. Ah ah Ah ah ah ah Ah ah ah ah Ah ah ah
A while ago I lied to see if I would be good at it and I really was I was soooo good at it I like scaired myself I guess I have an honest face
What if I am selling a product, and I guarntee that you will stop smoking if you use it, and that if you don't stop smoking, I'll refund your money in full. And let's say that it doesn't help you to quit at all. So you call me to tell me that the product failed and that you want your money back. And let's say that I ask you how long a period you stopped for, and you tell me something like four hours. Then I inform you that you did indeed stop smoking, and that I made no claim as to how long you would stop for. Did I lie? Or did you not ask enough questions?
And what if I'm selling something that you ingest, and in my advertisement, I say, "And our coffee doesn't contain ammonia; never did, and never will!" Now because I know how fickle people can be, I know that they're going to assume that other brands of coffee must have ammonia in them for me to make a claim like that, and that they'll buy mine to be safe. Is that a lie? I told the truth.
A similar situation in Australia a while ago when a chicken producer claimed their chicken were produced without growth hormones. Such a practise has not been legal for the last forty years.
Here in the US where poultry growth hormones have been illegal for quite a long time it's common to see packages touting the lack of them. Or candy being labeled "A Fat Free Food!", plant products labeled "No Cholesterol!", and so on.
"Fat free" is very misleading. I don't blame the advertisers because I would probably do the same thing and there's no law against it, but if you're fat and you don't know much about metabolism you'd probably think anything fat free is good for you even though it has loads of sugar and carbs.
I hate telling lies, but in such a society and during the interaction with social people, you have to know how to lie harmlessly and how to tell others' lies.
What about fantasy lies? There used to be an old man who lived next door to me who made up stories about having been both a mechanic and a carpenter just to impress me. He had been neither just a harvest laborer on the local market gardens. He was actually quite good at what he did for a living.
