Am I picking the wrong guys or am I just ugly and unloveable?

I've been in a couple of relationships with guys that liked me and did nice things for me and seemed to care but eventually I got kind of grossed out by them. Two of them were Mormons and one was still a virgin. Otherwise, it seem the guys I really like are rude to me. Let's take Chris. When I first met him, he said, "You're awfully dark," on the first date to me. I thought it was just an observation of my Greek heritage and ignored it. Later he got mad when I wouldn't have sex with him. I then paid for a ticket to a vacation at La Chateux in the mountains. It cost me a lot but he refused to kiss me while we slept at the bungalow. I later found out he was dating other women. He shoved me once and said, "Get in the car," when we broke up.
I then dated a guy named Kip. Kip was a lawyer and a snob. He drank like a fish and was mean. I didn't want to have sex with him one day and he got mad too. Like the winner he was he told me if I didn't have sex with him he was leaving. I told him to leave.
Then I dated a pot smoking guy who told me I should shave my snatch at that was of upmost importance to him. I bought him tickets to a play on his birthday and he never showed. I wasted $40. He was a mechanic and did help me fix my car but otherwise he was pretty mean. He was terrified of sleeping in my bed and told me I was "scary" for wanting a committed relationship with him. He smoked a lot of pot. And he was pretty much addicted to it even though it isn't really an addictive substance. He would lie and say he had to go to the bathroom and disappear and smoke pot. He then told me he didn't love me and again repeated that I was a scary bitch for wanting a "serious" relationship and that I didn't deserve something like that. Am I an ugly, unloveable bitch like they keep saying. What is wrong?

 

Sounds like you have made some bad choices in men to me hun.

 

you sound like a female.

you know, you could have easily remedied the fact that the one guy was still a virgin..

 

Its u a way and the guys u give chances too...

 

YES......:coffee:



Cheers Glen.

 

I personally don't believe being a Mormon or a virgin would make a person "gross". Other than that, you just haven't found that right guy yet perhaps. As to whether or not you are ugly, we couldn't tell you. And we probably won't, even if you show your picture here. At least I most likely wouldn't. So you need to take it upon yourself to reach deep within yourself, and find emotional peace. We all have things we can always improve about ourselves. Focus on the good qualities you have, and work on your flaws where possible. Avoid getting into the habit of trying to search for things to blame, if you can't also recognize the mistakes you've made and aren't willing to improve yourself.

That said, it's all easier said than done. I know this first hand. Also, venting is a healthy way of dealing with stress. I know this, too. So, it was essentially good that you got out that raw emotion in the form of this thread.

All the best.

 

Don't listen to Glen. Occasionally he gets a bug up his ass and says mean things to people for no reason.

There's two sides to everything, but I really think that the way those men treated you was unwarranted. You just need to be careful about who you let into your heart and your bed.

 

Excuse Me, She Asked A Question On An Open Forum, And I

Gave Her An Honest Answer....

Haven't We Been Down This Same Road About 12 Months Ago....??



Cheers Glen.

 

Common decency isn't a concept you're familiar with.

 

I think Glen is decent.




for being gay :devil:




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Cheers Glen.

 

Sorry, but you do not make ANY sense. None at all.

But I will say this:

It takes two to play this game, a person that does something and a person that LET'S the other do something.