ideal relationships

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by OlgaOdoevskaya, Mar 11, 2012.

  1. OlgaOdoevskaya

    OlgaOdoevskaya Member

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    Husband, lover and friend in one
    person. That is my ideal. I think I
    have found this ideal. My sister, on the contrary, thinks that ideal husband will make money, go for a walk with children etc., ideal lover will be ideal in bed and ideal friend will be ideal
    adviser and listener. But nobody
    will be ideal in all. So, she is
    convincing me that she has chosen a right way: to use each of men in his best characteristic.
    She is not married but she has 6-year-old daughter. One man (her ex-husband) pays her money, another man is her BF, and several men are her best friends as she calls them. And she does not want to have serios relationships.
    She says: ”If I want man to make baby I'l find man to make baby, if I want man for communication I'l find
    man for communication, if I want man for business I'l find man for business, if I want man for sex, I'l find man for sex, if I want men for sex I'l find men for sex. And I let nobody dictate to me
    how I should live”. Well, it's her right.
    What do you think about this? Personally I don't believe in friendship between man and woman without something else between them. What is your ideal?
     
  2. Alternative_Thinker

    Alternative_Thinker Darth Mysterious

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    My ideal relationship would be with someone I love both as a friend and a lover. I want to be able to say, I'm in love with her, AND also refer to her as one of my best friends at the same time.

    Just on a side note... I personally believe in friendships between a man and a woman. I have many female friends and I've been romantically attracted to only a few, so... But then that's just me. Everyone's different.
     
  3. GoofyGooberz

    GoofyGooberz Just Bitchy!!!!!!!!

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    I am with my best friend and lover wouldn't have it any other way.

    And I am friends with a few guys as well, with no other things other then friends
     
  4. alwayscrackers

    alwayscrackers Member

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    guess that could work for some, but not for me.
    not easy to find the ideal all rolled up in one package but then no-ones perfect and thats where we learn the art of compromise, as long as theres friendship, trust, love and respect between you, then what else do we really need?
    love always finds a way.
     
  5. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

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    i would want nothing to do with your sister.
     
  6. Sininabin

    Sininabin Member

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    i've seen true polyamorous people. Where there love is stratified between many people and that is how they feel comfortable and happy.

    ( of course I seen many young people confused about their sexuality thinking themselves one thing and being bitter uncomfortable; but when the dust settles and they can really love themselves, the strangest life mates look so serene)

    I am mono man myself. My ideal wife is my best friend, confidant, lover. Of course we have other friends, she's just my best-y.
     
  7. Yancyxx

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    My ideal relationship would be with a very nice man (perhaps more than one nice man) who has a killer bod, keen intellect, tons of money (money not being an obstacle), a great smile, nice teeth, a wonderful sense of humor, stylish dresser, who likes to shower me with gifts, attention and affection.
     
  8. alwayscrackers

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    my ideal would be just one person who would be friend, lover, and as long as there was magic between us, wouldn't matter what they were like in looks or anything else.
    it really is what's inside a person that counts, for me anyway.
    anything else would be just a bonus.

    sitting here thinking about an inspirational man called Nick Vujicic who was born without arms and legs and got married recently.................thats the power of LOVE.
     
  9. chameleon31

    chameleon31 Member

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    My ideal is friend and lover. Someone who can laugh all the time - in and out of the bedroom. Life is too serious for too serious. Nothing and no one are perfect... just perfectly suited to "get" each other.
     
  10. jul

    jul Member

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    my ideal relationship would be someone who would understand me without too many words and explanations, perhaps a mind reader? knowing all my needs before me for me...m...not that this kind of man would exist, but if he did, ah that would be really ideal...LOL now the rest of males are just normal...haha
     
  11. Dancing til Dawn

    Dancing til Dawn Senior Member

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    Your sister sounds a bit selfish - it is all about meeting her needs...

    I feel an ideal relationship is where you enhance one and other to become truly who you are ....

    Soul conextion is vital .... no need to explain yourself, just be and know you are both learning experiencing and developing ...... something truly wonder filled ...

    :love:
     
  12. Yancyxx

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    Most individuals form relationships based on conference their own respective needs through the other. The ideal relationship defines this. Generally, it involves a lovable companion, trust, honesty, comfort, and a deep connection with each other.
     

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